怖侦？项郊？？先寫一個疑問點 有句話不太理解 希望看懂的朋友能幫忙講下它的結(jié)構(gòu)和意思 (#^.^#)

Often they have to do with the emotions that we were taught were inappropriate growing up.

Thinking

? 作者在這一章把人的自我認知（self-awareness）劃分為三個層次稻轨。1.情緒 2.分析出情緒產(chǎn)生原因的能力 3.個人價值觀

? “this level, which takes constant questioning and effort, is incredibly difficult to reach”

? 是的匪凡。在我看來，身邊能達到第二層的人已經(jīng)屈指可數(shù)织中。第三層難的原因就在于锥涕，有些東西存在于人們的潛意識里衷戈，將其挖掘出來就像被問1+1等于幾的問題狭吼，一方面覺得沒有回答的必要，一方面又因為無法給出一個合理的解釋而痛苦殖妇。這個偏哲學性的理論我今天讀書時想了很久刁笙，最終試著寫了下面的例子。希望有同感的朋友能與我探討我對這件事體現(xiàn)出價值觀剖析是否正確谦趣，或者是否有其他解疲吸。

A recent example from my own life:

“I feel anxious and angry when I can’t read the book quickly.”

Why?

“I have read an English book before and it’s more difficult than this one as Eric says. But I find my reading speed become slower than before.”

Why does “reading slower” make you anxious?

“Because I want to improve my English skills as fast as I can, but the statement makes me feel I can’t achieve my goal as I expect.”

Why does your lack of goal feel like a failure?

“because I think I should get in return after I have made my effort, if not, it turns out the things I did are of no value. ”

? 寫到這其實能看出，雖然一直嘴上講注重過程前鹅，但其實我對結(jié)果也很介意摘悴。

? 不過這個理論對我而言不太實用。一來我覺得時間寶貴舰绘，花適量時間思考哲學問題即可蹂喻；二來有些價值觀即使想明白了也很難改變（比如想要趁年輕抓緊時間學習和成長葱椭，你現(xiàn)在跟我講結(jié)果不重要重要的是過程我聽不進去）。在自己有足夠的執(zhí)行力改變的時候口四，倒不如想想解決措施孵运。如這個問題，我后來分析了下自己閱讀速度變慢的原因蔓彩，是1治笨、kindle版不如紙質(zhì)版方便標記，一時間沒有形成閱讀習慣赤嚼。2旷赖、下載了anki之后特別喜歡用…但是整理記憶庫是很費時間的。所以我開始用筆標注探膊、除了重點詞匯其他不用anki以后杠愧，就快起來了…= =

? 此外，還有第二個地方我不太認同作者的觀點——關(guān)于如何看待逆境的問題逞壁。樂觀是沒有錯的流济，因為對事樂觀才能維持一個比較平和的心態(tài)，這是好事腌闯。直面不幸的遭遇绳瘟，產(chǎn)生壓力大、焦慮姿骏、過度悲傷等情緒糖声，才會引起健康問題。問題不是出在stay positive分瘦，而是無論樂觀還是悲觀蘸泻，你能否從自己的經(jīng)歷中發(fā)現(xiàn)問題，然后調(diào)動執(zhí)行力去解決它嘲玫。

words

Tide

潮汐悦施；潮流，趨勢去团；（尤指不好的）勢頭

eg：In the closing months of 1944,after almost a decade of war,the tide was turning against Japan.

There’s no way we can process the tidal waves of information flowing past us constantly.

Metric

度量標準

eg：Two things are operating here: a value that I hold dear, and a metric that I use to assess progress toward that value.

Perceive

if you perceive something, you see, notice, or realize it, especially when it is not obvious.注意抡诞，察覺到

If you perceive someone or something as doing or being a particular thing, it is your opinion that they do this thing or that they are that thing? 看做，認為

eg: Everything we think and feel about a situation ultimately comes back to how valuable we perceive it to be.

perception n.理解土陪、看法