Reading Journal - The Subtle Art of Not Giving? a F*ck
20180128-29? Chapter 8 The Importance of Saying No
-Q & A
1. Why saying no is important? Have you had a hard time of turning down someone’s request( for example, you wanted to say no, but what came out of your mouth was yes, and next day you kicked yourself for saying yes) ? Please include a personal story.
Because saying no makes your life better by saving you time to do what you really like or value.?
I used to have a hard time of turning down somone's request, especially those form my family and friends. For example, once one of my good friends "invited" me to try a new restaurant with her. I really didn't want to go, but I was afraid of hurting her feelings. So I agreed. But during the whole meal I was very upset and easily to be pissed off, which in return made my friend unhappy.?
2. Why Saint Petersburg was one of the Mark’s favorite trips?
Because here he got real liberation though accepting rejection and had a chance to reexamine his old values and metrics about honest.
3. Why commitment gives you freedom?
Because, on one hand, there some experiences that we can have only when we spend a long time on them; on the other hand, commitment directs our attention and focus toward those real important things in life.
4. How to build trust?
On one hand, we had better keep honest all the time.
One the other hand, if someone breaks the trust, the trust-breakers should first admit the true values that caused the breach and own up to themselves, and second, they can build a solid track record of improved behaviour over time.
- Take-away message -
作者在談到旅行時說，旅行給你一個機會去見識那些與你原來所深信不疑的完全不一樣卻能好好存在于這個世界的東西，從而讓你思考并且重塑自己原有的價值觀戚丸。其實讀書也是這樣困鸥，看不同的作者，讀不同的故事阀坏，就是不停地刷新自己的原有的認知蹋订。怪不得古人說要讀萬卷書橄教，行萬里路者填。
- Words & Expressions -
001 commit?（熟詞生義）
原文：“so why would I ever commit to a single person, or even a single social group, a single city or country or culture?”
釋義：v. to give someone your love or support in a serious and permanent way
造句：He has not yet committed to any girl he had dated with.
002?overbearing
原文：“An overbearing mother may take responsibility for every problem in her children’s lives.”
釋義：adj. always trying to control other people without considering their wishes or feelings
造句： I wish I won't be an overbearing mother in the future.
003 lose your marbels (informal)
釋義：to start begaving in a crazy way
同義詞： go mad
004 dynamic （熟詞生義）
原文：“I remember discussing this dynamic with my Russian teacher one day, and he had an interesting theory.”
釋義：n. the way in which things or people behave, react, and affect each other
造句：The possitive dynamics of the family is of great significance.
005 grant (formal)
原文：“Freedom grants the opportunity for greater meaning, but by itself there is nothing necessarily meaningful about it.”
釋義：v. to give someone something or allow them to have something that thet have asked for
造句：He would love to be able to grant all of his girlfriend's wishes.
