從2017年10月3號到11月17號，利用每天30min-1小時贝或，我讀完了人生中的第一本原版書：《succeed-how we can reach our goals》by Heidi Ph.D.學(xué)習(xí)英語無數(shù)年苇本，卻總也學(xué)不好亮隙，電影離不開字幕茶宵，聽力離不開文本桐愉，越學(xué)越有失敗感财破。學(xué)不會？直接拿來用仅财！當(dāng)我讀完一本原版書并習(xí)得知識時狈究，不禁拍大腿：英語真的只是工具。讀原版書盏求，是利用英語打開眼界獲得國外名家思想的最佳途徑抖锥，沒有之一。

這本原版書告訴我碎罚，be-better type;think what not only think why;the benefits of prevention mindness;re-define change,mistake,temptation

PART ONE:GET READY

-set a specific&difficult goal

-think what&think why(near&future distant,trade-offs)

-think positively&realisically

-Believe you can get the ability;Set up the right environment.

1.set specific,difficult goals, not say "do your best".

Decide where you are going. How you set your goals?How you will get there?Success is more likely when you focus on the right details, in the right way.

Do not tell someone "do your best",which will just make the person do a "good enough" job,a job that is far from the best. Set specific,challenging goals.This will increase people's satisfaction,commitment and confidence,which leads them to challenge themselves more.

2. think why or think what?

After finishing testing, I find myself a person who tends to think about my own behavior in more ABSTRACT term---I describe the things I do by focusing on WHY I am doing it.

Sweep the floor=keep the house clean

On the other hand,people who tends to think about their behavior in more concrete terms.They describe their goal in terms of "what they are doing ".

Sweep the floor-collect the dust and trash it away.

Both abstract-why(big picture/meaning/purpose) and concrete-what(nitty gritty) ways of thinking about your behaviour have pros and cons.The trick is to adjust your thinking according to your circumstances---when to think why and when to think what.

If you want to motivate someone, or when you are doing something easy and familiar,or when you want to enhance your self-control(say not eat the chocolate), think why.

When you need to do somehting that is difficult,unfamilar,complex,learning a new skill,think what(the actual mechanics of getting from point A to point B)

Conclusion:Shift your thinking style to match the goals you want to achieve.Use the optimal one.

Attention:when you might unconscioulsy be biased toward on kind of thinking,which is not suitable for your goal.
How long it will be before you start to execute your plan?Most of us are biased to think about more distant future plans in more abstract-why terms;on the other hand, near future plans tend to be more concrete-what to do to GTD terms.

Why thinking leads us to pay more attention on "desirability"information-How fun,pleasant,rewarding,succesful,rich,wonderful it will be?And we primarily tend to think about and answer these questions.If the answers are yes, then you would probably adopt that goal.

What thinking leads us to pay more attention on "feasibility"information-what needs to be done?How likely are we to succeed?what's the obstacles?

When you decided your goal in the future distant, you were thinking why.You didn't spend that much time thinking about whether or not you could make it work.We are biased to think about future events more in terms of why(we want to do them) and less what(how we'll get it done?)We adopt goals that potentially rich rewards that are actually logistically nightmares.It explains that why many of us find ourselves struggling to juggle all the goals we thought we'd have enough time for.

On the other hand, we focus too much on what,not enough why for the spur-of-the-moment chance to do something fun and rewarding in the near future.

How to do?Recognize the trade-offs.Time spent on doing one thing means time not spent doing another for both near and future planning.

Be more realistic about your time and to prevent procrastinate, think what.

3.think positively and realistically(mental constrasting)

Illusory superiority tells us that most of us believe we are above average, that we are more likely to have good things to happen than our peers and less likely to have bad things to happen.

Direct positive thinking in the right way.The optimal strategy when setting a goal is think positively about how it will be when you achieve your goal,while thinking realistically abuot what it will take to get there.Mental contrasting-consider both what you want and what stands in your way, will give your the clarity to make decision.

In a nutshell,no matter who you are and what you are trying to do, it's important to have confident that you will eventually succeed,but are equally confident that we will have a tough time getting there.This can motivate us to take extra effort how we will deal with problems before they arise.

When you believe you can succeed,use mental contrasting(happy ending of your goal VS. the obstacle that stands between you and your happy ending......).This leads to greater effort,energy,planning and thus higher rate of achieving goals.

4.beliefs and environment are two major influences on the goal you adopt.

Belief:
Believe you can get better:

Whether or not you think you can get ability matters.Intelligence,smartness,athletic prowess is not something fixed.It's malleable.It can be developed over time through practise and learning.

Environment:
Most of goals you are pursuing are operated entirely without your awareness.We work best when as much of what we are doing can be delegated to the unconscious mind as possible.The more we do something,the more automatic it becomes.

Cues,say words,slogan,image,people in your environment can be a trigger.So you can set up the right environment.Make your unconscious work for you.