*“Do as I say, not as I do”型父母
自控其實(shí)和自重是同義詞楔绞。能看得到自己價(jià)值的人，才會(huì)想要過好自己的人生。而這種能力是從父母的愛和關(guān)注中得到的活逆。
首先铅忿，父母是子女的榜樣剪决。如果父母不自控，那不管怎么用語言教他檀训，孩子也無法自控柑潦，身教大于言傳。那些學(xué)習(xí)成績不好峻凫，學(xué)不會(huì)延遲滿足的學(xué)生渗鬼，經(jīng)常有著無法自控的父母（暴力、酗酒等)荧琼。
其次譬胎，父母的愛能讓孩子對世界產(chǎn)生安全感，從而敢于延遲滿足命锄。
"Yet even more important than role modeling is love. The feeling of being valued is essential to mental health and is a cornerstone of self-discipline because when one considers oneself valuable one will take care of oneself in all ways that are necessary . Self-discipline is self-caring. It is a direct product of parental and must be gained in childhood."
