Security

???There has always been a lot of people asking me: Why do you always run? And my answer every time is: I do not know, do not feel ran panic, an inexplicable panic. Later I learned that my habitual running, sleeping in the bedroom with quilts and anxiety in the first place was originally a sign of lack of security.

???How important is it to one person's safety? In the Maslow hierarchy of needs, the sense of security is ranked second, second only to physiological needs. And for myself, if life is like a ball, the sense of security determines the integrity of the ball, and if it has any flaws, it does not roll easily. Unsecured people often have a sense of distrust of themselves and others, and they are often in anxiety. They are always in the mood of fear, afraid to lose, fear of failure, and they must be left alone The state of continuous work only peace of mind. In modern society, most people get rid of the embarrassing embarrassment in their material life. However, there are still many people with different degrees of lack of security. What are the reasons?

????In my opinion, this is the family, on the one hand, and on the other.

????For the family, the more I grow up, the more deeply felt. As I mentioned at the outset, I always like to go to bed with my head because the parents are always at home when I was a child. Because of the fear of the night, I always turn on the lights. I think there is something in the room Is a ghost or a bad guy, so he wrapped himself tightly wrapped in a quilt. Almost everyday, so when you grow up unconsciously hide yourself in the quilt. When I was young, I did not think anything was wrong. However, as I grew up, as I became more and more knowledgeable and in need of more and more, I found my parents were becoming more and more impatient with my affairs and I had seen them on my face more than once The way it hurt me deeply, so I do not want to trouble the parents, blindly want to rely on their own strength. However, in my tense studies, I added one after another a burden on myself, followed by a more cautious, more anxious and painful, and often weary, emotion. Therefore, a good family is an important factor for the child's sense of security. A complete and beautiful home is the basis for children to be based on the society. A good family education is an inherent manifestation of the child's self-confidence and sunshine. Home is a place formed by the concept of one person. When she fails, she encourages them in time and embraces them when she is sad, so that he can form a trust in the world in her consciousness so that she can have a stronger heart to deal with changes. Like an egg, once it is cracked, it can be hard to repair it and its ability to bear the burden also drops.

???In addition to the initial factor of family, one's own sense of security is also a major factor. Psychological research shows that a person has no absolute sense of security and we must admit that this world is simply not safe at all. Therefore, in addition to being protected by others, we must learn to give ourselves a sense of security. Is to make yourself stronger? Still more hard to pursue the wealth of material life? I think both have both, but not none. Importantly, the real sense of security can only come from one place, that is your heart. A person who has a sense of security does not necessarily occupy the most stable resources in the community, but must occupy such a talent: he does not care about it, does not hesitate about it, he is not afraid of losing, he does not pursue hard things and thinks that everything is his own In the event of nothing, it does not matter. Get enough on the go, fearless to lose heart. Because wealth is endless, you can not material alone, if the pros and cons make you painful, then why is it alive? This is what you should do if you try your best to make yourself better at the same time.

????If you have a beautiful family please cherish, if not, please do not regret, hard to learn, hard life, learn to accept and brave, return you, will be a solid sense of security.

安全感

? 一直以來總是有很多人問我：為什么你總是在奔跑?而我每次的回答都是：我也不知道，感覺不跑就很慌，一種莫名其妙的慌仅讽。后來我才知道，我的習慣性奔跑穴亏，晚上蒙著被子睡覺，遇事焦慮须揣，原來都是缺乏安全感的表現(xiàn)溜腐。

? 對于一個人來說安全感到底有多重要？在馬斯洛需求層次理論中棉钧，安全感被排在了第二位屿脐，僅次于生理需求。而就我自身來說宪卿，如果把生活比作一個球的诵，那安全感的有無則直接決定了這個球的完整性，若是它有任何的缺陷佑钾，就不能自如的滾動西疤。沒有安全感的人，常常會對自己和他人產(chǎn)生一種不信任感休溶，他們會常常處于焦慮之中代赁，他們總是有種恐懼的情緒，害怕失去兽掰，害怕失敗芭碍，以至于必須讓自己處于一種不斷工作的狀態(tài)才心安。現(xiàn)代社會孽尽，大多數(shù)的人在物質(zhì)生活上擺脫了困窘尷尬的局面窖壕，但是依然有很多人不同程度的缺乏安全感，原因是什么杉女？

? ? 就我看來瞻讽，這一方面在于家庭，一方面在于自身熏挎。

? ? 對于家庭這一方面卸夕，我愈是長大，愈是感觸深刻婆瓜。就像一開始提到的，我總喜歡蒙著頭睡覺贡羔，原因就在于小時候晚上爸媽總不在家廉白，出于對黑夜天生的恐懼，我便總開著燈乖寒，屋子里有一點動靜我都以為是有鬼或者是有壞人猴蹂，于是把自己緊緊地裹在被子里縮成一團。幾乎每天都是這樣楣嘁，于是長大了便不自覺的把自己藏在被子里磅轻。小時候沒覺得有什么不妥珍逸，但是長大之后，隨著見識越來越廣聋溜，需求越來越大谆膳，我發(fā)現(xiàn)父母對于我的事愈發(fā)吃力，我不止一次的見到過他們臉上暮色蒼茫的樣子撮躁，那深深地刺痛著我漱病，于是我便誅事都不想麻煩父母，一味地想要依靠自己的力量把曼。但緊張的學(xué)業(yè)中杨帽，我便給自己加了一份又一份的負擔，隨之而來的嗤军，是愈加膽小謹慎注盈，愈加焦慮痛苦，甚至常常有厭世的情緒叙赚。所以說好的家庭對于孩子有無安全感來說是重要因素老客，一個完整美好的家是孩子立足于社會的基礎(chǔ)，好的家庭教育是孩子自信陽光的內(nèi)在表現(xiàn)纠俭。家是一個人三觀形成的地方沿量，在她失敗時及時鼓勵，難過時給予擁抱冤荆，會讓他在意識中形成對世界的信任朴则，從而能有更強大的內(nèi)心去應(yīng)對萬千變化。就像一個雞蛋钓简，一旦出現(xiàn)裂縫乌妒，便很難再修補，承受重擔的能力也會隨之下降外邓。

? 除了家庭這一初始因素外撤蚊，自身給自己的安全感也是一大因素。心理學(xué)研究表明损话，一個人沒有絕對的安全感侦啸，我們必須承認的是，這個世界本就是不安全的丧枪。所以除了被別人保護之外光涂，我們要學(xué)著自己給自己安全感。是讓自己變得強大拧烦？還是更努力的去追尋物質(zhì)生活上的財富忘闻？我想這二者兼有，卻又非有恋博。重要的是齐佳，真正的安全感只可能來自于一個地方私恬，那就是你的內(nèi)心。有安全感的人不一定占據(jù)著社會上最穩(wěn)固的資源炼吴，但一定占據(jù)著這樣的天賦：不在乎有的本鸣，不惦記沒的，不害怕失去的缺厉，不追求強扭的永高，覺得什么都是自己的，萬一什么也沒有了也無所謂提针。對得到適可而止命爬，對失去心無畏懼。因為財富是無盡的辐脖，物質(zhì)你也不可能獨自包攬饲宛，若是得失讓你痛苦，那活著是為什么嗜价？盡自己努力讓自己好的同時更加自在艇抠，這才是應(yīng)該做的。

? ? 若是你有一個美好的家庭請珍惜久锥，若是沒有家淤，也請不要遺憾，努力地學(xué)習瑟由，努力地生活絮重，學(xué)著去接受和勇敢，回報你的歹苦，將是一份穩(wěn)固的安全感青伤。

Security

? There has always been a lot of people asking me: Why do you always run? And my answer every time is: I do not know, do not feel ran panic, an inexplicable panic. Later I learned that my habitual running, sleeping in the bedroom with quilts and anxiety in the first place was originally a sign of lack of security.

? How important is it to one person's safety? In the Maslow hierarchy of needs, the sense of security is ranked second, second only to physiological needs. And for myself, if life is like a ball, the sense of security determines the integrity of the ball, and if it has any flaws, it does not roll easily. Unsecured people often have a sense of distrust of themselves and others, and they are often in anxiety. They are always in the mood of fear, afraid to lose, fear of failure, and they must be left alone The state of continuous work only peace of mind. In modern society, most people get rid of the embarrassing embarrassment in their material life. However, there are still many people with different degrees of lack of security. What are the reasons?

? ? In my opinion, this is the family, on the one hand, and on the other.

? ? For the family, the more I grow up, the more deeply felt. As I mentioned at the outset, I always like to go to bed with my head because the parents are always at home when I was a child. Because of the fear of the night, I always turn on the lights. I think there is something in the room Is a ghost or a bad guy, so he wrapped himself tightly wrapped in a quilt. Almost everyday, so when you grow up unconsciously hide yourself in the quilt. When I was young, I did not think anything was wrong. However, as I grew up, as I became more and more knowledgeable and in need of more and more, I found my parents were becoming more and more impatient with my affairs and I had seen them on my face more than once The way it hurt me deeply, so I do not want to trouble the parents, blindly want to rely on their own strength. However, in my tense studies, I added one after another a burden on myself, followed by a more cautious, more anxious and painful, and often weary, emotion. Therefore, a good family is an important factor for the child's sense of security. A complete and beautiful home is the basis for children to be based on the society. A good family education is an inherent manifestation of the child's self-confidence and sunshine. Home is a place formed by the concept of one person. When she fails, she encourages them in time and embraces them when she is sad, so that he can form a trust in the world in her consciousness so that she can have a stronger heart to deal with changes. Like an egg, once it is cracked, it can be hard to repair it and its ability to bear the burden also drops.

? In addition to the initial factor of family, one's own sense of security is also a major factor. Psychological research shows that a person has no absolute sense of security and we must admit that this world is simply not safe at all. Therefore, in addition to being protected by others, we must learn to give ourselves a sense of security. Is to make yourself stronger? Still more hard to pursue the wealth of material life? I think both have both, but not none. Importantly, the real sense of security can only come from one place, that is your heart. A person who has a sense of security does not necessarily occupy the most stable resources in the community, but must occupy such a talent: he does not care about it, does not hesitate about it, he is not afraid of losing, he does not pursue hard things and thinks that everything is his own In the event of nothing, it does not matter. Get enough on the go, fearless to lose heart. Because wealth is endless, you can not material alone, if the pros and cons make you painful, then why is it alive? This is what you should do if you try your best to make yourself better at the same time.

? ? If you have a beautiful family please cherish, if not, please do not regret, hard to learn, hard life, learn to accept and brave, return you, will be a solid sense of security.