To-do list: how to become a mother respected by children
Traditionally the role of mother is more focusing on “service provider of children”, while often it is ignored that mother herself should be an independent individual first.
The quality parent-kid relationship, must be the relationship between two independent, outstanding people.
1. Please don’t think "I gave birth to a baby", however should think "I met up with someone".
2. In the real life, one day you will not be relied and abandoned by your children sooner or later. Please get ready for the day, maybe much earlier than you think. However children perhaps are willing to connect with you emotionally if you work hard.? The key is: control. The intervention has to be controlled.
3. Raising a child actually is not a big deal. There is no problem for children to have simple life, but this situation turns extreme complex when parent think too much.
4. Stand in awe of the children’s minds. It is a huge rich ore. Whatever the ways take to activate, will turn to the respective outcome.? No childish books, no baby language, please do share with them the most wisdom in our human culture with the normal way.
5. Become their learning partner.? My principles are: I will learn the same thing as my child, simultaneously. Do take note that you have the same "working years" as a mum is equivalent to his working years as child.? Therefore, we are partner, more than the mom-child relationship.
6. It is vital important for the child to learn the ability of appreciate beauty. They will appreciate in any situations.
7. Let your child listen to your conversations with friends.
8. Cultivate the child confidence. Two effective ways: one is to participate the high quality social networking with your child to explore an "eye-opening" journey; another one is to develop an accumulative, stackable interests to shape the confidence with persistence and self-discipline.
9. For whatever reasons, the next generation will excel us.
10. Set a high standard, cultivate your child’s targets setting and execution.
11. What you are, is 1000 times more important than telling them what they are going to be.
關(guān)于成為受孩子尊敬的母親的清單 ?原創(chuàng) 2017-05-14 「得到」
傳統(tǒng)習(xí)俗對母親的角色定義中沪么，過于強(qiáng)調(diào)“孩子的服務(wù)者”這部分猛遍，卻常常忽略母親本身首先應(yīng)該是一個(gè)獨(dú)立個(gè)體辖佣。
優(yōu)質(zhì)的親子關(guān)系，應(yīng)該是兩個(gè)獨(dú)立而優(yōu)秀的人之間的關(guān)系
1. 不能以“我生了一個(gè)孩子”的心態(tài)來生孩子，而是當(dāng)“我遇見一個(gè)人”。
2. 在生活上，孩子遲早有一天根本不需要你浦译，甚至想要甩開你。這一天會比你計(jì)劃的要早得多溯职，早做心理準(zhǔn)備精盅。但是通過努力，也許孩子愿意在精神世界始終與你保持紐帶谜酒。努力的要訣是：克制叹俏，克制對他的干預(yù)。
3. 養(yǎng)育孩子一點(diǎn)都不復(fù)雜僻族。孩子可以過非常簡單的生活粘驰，是父母的妄念把這件事變得復(fù)雜無比。
4. 對孩子的頭腦要懷有敬畏述么。那是一個(gè)巨大的富礦蝌数，用什么樣的方式激活，就呈現(xiàn)什么狀態(tài)度秘。不要給孩子看那些幼稚化的圖書顶伞，不要用“兒童語”和他們說話，用正常剑梳、尊重智商的方式唆貌，和他們分享人類文明中最優(yōu)質(zhì)的成果。
5. 成為孩子的學(xué)習(xí)伙伴垢乙。我給自己定的原則是：讓孩子去學(xué)什么锨咙，我就要同步學(xué)什么。你當(dāng)母親的“工齡”和他當(dāng)孩子的“工齡”是一樣的追逮，所以酪刀，我們是搭檔，勝過我們是母親和孩子的關(guān)系钮孵。
6. 讓孩子建立第一流的審美能力骂倘，比什么都重要。認(rèn)識美和體察美的人油猫，無論在任何處境中都不會太難過稠茂。
7. 讓孩子旁聽你和你的朋友們的談話。
8. 培養(yǎng)孩子的自信情妖，目前看有效的方式是兩種：一是帶孩子參加成年人的高品質(zhì)社交活動睬关，讓孩子在智力層面“開眼界”；二是培養(yǎng)孩子發(fā)展可積累毡证、可迭代的興趣或特長电爹，在堅(jiān)持和自律中養(yǎng)成自信。
9. 無論如何料睛，下一代人一定會比我們更優(yōu)秀丐箩。
10. 樹立高標(biāo)準(zhǔn)，培養(yǎng)孩子的目標(biāo)感和行動力恤煞。
11.? 你是什么樣的人屎勘，比你告訴孩子他要成為什么樣的人，重要一千倍居扒。
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