You know, my husband and I are having a terrific fight over how to raise our son.
What about? He’s only 4 years old.
My husband thinks I’m putting too much pressure on him. He thinks it’s the wrong thing to do.
I wouldn’t know. I’ve not even married yet. That’s my problem. I wish I had a husband to disagree with.
Well, he thinks it’s important for kids to have time to be bored.
Bored?
Yes, he really said that. Can you believe it?
Why did he think so? Did he have time to be bored when he was a boy?
Well, he grew up in the countryside. He said he had to find things for himself to do. He said he feels sorry for kids these day because their days are so structured.
Hmm, I see it’s point. But things have changed a lot since he was a boy.
That’s exactly what I told him. Then he started to get angry.
That doesn’t sound like him. He’s usually so calm and reserved. In fact, I can’t ever remember he and his expressing opinion.
Well, the other day our boy said he didn’t like one of his teachers. It’s an English teacher. And then that got my husband’s attention.
What happened?
He got angry and he said he wasn’t happy with all the emphasis on English and Math. He said I should find someplace for our boy to do more of what he wants to do. He said to find the class or teacher who encourages kids to explore things.
That sounds a bit idealistic.
That’s what I told him.
Then he said it’s important to learn how to be independent and not always depend on being told what to do. He said that can develop creativity and the love of learning.
Certainly. What happens when he is behind of the other kids in school? Won’t he be discouraged?
He said he’d loved the boy to deal with it and see what happens.
Some people are more competitive and some aren’t.?
Anyway, it’s an interesting point of view. It may work for some kids and not for others. What about your boy? What do you think?
He has a good imagination. sometimes he talks about oneself that he really likes music and dancing. He has a lot of energy. Sometimes it’s exhausting to be around him.
I guess if I were you, I just give him a lot of choices and see what he is interested taking in. And he needs a place where he can use all that energy.
Yes, that’s what my husband wants to do. I just get nervous because all his friends are taking classes. I don’t want him to fall behind.
I don’t know what to say. Maybe you can do some research and see what others advise. I’m sure you are not the only one facing this problem. At least your husband is taking an interest.
If I ever get married, I hope my husband will be as involved as yours. But he has to help you with this and not just complain.
Yes, that’s what we are fighting about. I can’t be expected to do this on my own.
You have to do this together.
Good luck. And wish me luck in finding a husband, OK?
