這是奧巴馬寫給女兒的一封公開信碴倾,一共有17條建議。

這封信沒有作為總統(tǒng)的“威嚴(yán)”,有的只是一位父親用他的人生經(jīng)驗告訴女兒最深刻的生活哲理楷兽,我們能夠從中讀到這位父親對女兒沉甸甸的愛地熄。


Life is short. It may feel like it takes forever sometimes, but the reality is that you live, and a short time later, you die. It happens so quickly, many people don’t even realize they had a life until it’s already over.

生命如此短暫。我們有時候覺得生命怎么也走不完芯杀,實際上端考,你現(xiàn)在活著,過不了多久揭厚,就會死去却特。人生真是轉(zhuǎn)眼一瞬間的事情,很多人到臨死前才意識到這一生已經(jīng)結(jié)束筛圆。

1 – Stop Doubting Yourself

停止懷疑自己

If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will. Success starts in your mind, and if all you’re doing is putting yourself down and predicting failure, it’ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead of doubting yourself, think positively. Not only will you be happier and more successful, you’ll spread it to everyone around you.

如果你自己都不相信自己裂明,那沒人會相信你。成功源于你的頭腦太援,如果你所做的是不斷地看扁自己闽晦,預(yù)言著未來的失敗扳碍,這就真的會成為現(xiàn)實。與其懷疑自己仙蛉,不如積極的考慮問題笋敞。不僅會讓自己更加開心和成功,你還能夠感染到周圍的人荠瘪。

2 – Stop Being Negative

停止消極

Now that you’re done doubting yourself, stop doubting others. You don’t like when people are critical of you, so stop being critical of others. Think about how you make other people feel – even if you have good intentions, people don’t like hearing negativity.

現(xiàn)在你不要再懷疑自己了夯巷,也別再懷疑身邊的人。你不希望被人對你挑剔哀墓,那么也不要再去挑剔身邊的人趁餐。想想你給別人帶來的什么樣的感受吧——即使出發(fā)點是好的,別人也不想聽到那么多消極的事情呀麸祷。

3 – Stop Procrastinating

停止拖延

I don’t feel like procrastinating right now – I’ll do it tomorrow. When you procrastinate, you remain stagnant. Whatever you’re putting off doesn’t go away; resolve the problem, and move on. You’ll be much happier in the long run.

我現(xiàn)在不想做澎怒,還是留到明天吧。一旦開始拖延阶牍,其實你已經(jīng)停滯不前了喷面。你拖延的事情不會自行解決。解決問題走孽,繼續(xù)前行吧惧辈。從長遠(yuǎn)角度來說你會更加快樂。

4 – Stop Being Mean

不要那么刻薄

It’s completely possible to step on someone’s toes without meaning to – it happens all the time. There’s no need to pile on by purposefully doing mean things, so make a conscious effort to stop being mean. If someone wrongs you, let it go. There’s no need to seek vengeance unless that’s the type of person you want to be.

無意踩到別人的情況真的有可能會發(fā)生——常常會發(fā)生磕瓷。但沒必要去處心積慮的做一些不好的事情盒齿,所以要有意識地讓自己不要那么刻薄。如果有人對你無理地對待困食,隨他們?nèi)ズ昧吮呶獭]必要去報復(fù),除非你也想成為那一類的人硕盹。

5 – Stop Eating Out

不要在外吃飯

Eating out is the biggest waste of money. Every so often it’s nice to treat yourself, but eating out for every meal is the quickest way to drain your bank account. Learn how to cook at least a handful of foods you enjoy: It’ll save you money, keep you healthier, and occasionally impress people.

在外面吃飯真的非常非常的浪費錢符匾。也許每次對于你而言都是一次犒賞,但每頓都在外面吃反而是花光積蓄的最快方式瘩例。至少也去學(xué)學(xué)怎么做一些自己喜歡的菜:既能省錢啊胶,還能讓你更健康,還會讓其他人眼前一亮垛贤。

6 – Stop Being Lazy

不要再偷懶

Lazy people are annoying – it’s like pulling teeth getting them to do anything. If I can’t do something as simple as going to a movie with you without having to factor in an hour of convincing you to get your lazy butt out of bed, I’d rather go alone. People have enough trouble motivating themselves; don’t make your friends and family waste their valuable energy motivating you as well.

懶人真的很招人煩——得像趕驢磨墨一樣逼著他們做事情焰坪。如果我想跟你看一場電影,卻不得不花一個小時說服你起床聘惦,那我寧愿一個人去看某饰。給自己動力都不是件容易的事情,就別讓朋友和家人浪費寶貴的精力再來給你動力了吧。

7 – Stop Complaining

停止抱怨

We all have problems, and sometimes we need to vent to someone. That’s acceptable, but pay attention to how often you’re venting. We all love helping our friends and family, but when all you get from someone is negativity, it’s easier to cut them off than help, especially if they’re always complaining about the same things.

我們都有麻煩事露乏,有時候總想跟別人傾訴碧浊。這可以理解,但要注意你吐槽的頻率瘟仿。我們都喜歡幫助朋友和家人箱锐,但如果從那個人身上我只能感知到負(fù)能量,那么還是離得越遠(yuǎn)越好吧劳较,尤其是當(dāng)他們在反復(fù)抱怨同一件事的時候驹止。

8 – Stop Being Selfish

別再那么自私

If you only think about yourself, you’ll soon find yourself by yourself. Stop for a minute and think about how your actions affect other people – did you take the last cup of coffee from the break room? Refill it! Do you live with others? Don’t drink out the milk carton. We share this world 100% of the time, so every action you take can affect other people.

如果你只考慮你自己,那么很快你會發(fā)現(xiàn)身邊只剩下你自己。停一分鐘想想你的行為會給別人帶來什么影響吧——你是不是從休息室拿了最后一杯咖啡?再倒?jié)M呀教藻!你是不是和別人合租?不要喝光所有的牛奶抖仅,這個世界是一個完全由大家分享的世界,你所做的每件事都會影響到別人砖第。

9 – Stop Wasting Time

別再浪費時間

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: time is the most valuable resource we have. Don’t waste your time on unproductive things. If you want to explore the world’s dark corners, that’s great. I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers, but I don’t hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long-term goals.

雖然之前說過了撤卢,但我還想再說一遍:時間是我們擁有的最寶貴的資源,不要把時間浪費在沒有意義的事情上面梧兼,如果你想探索這個世界的黑暗角落放吩,很好。我也認(rèn)識一些沒有固定工作的一些自由職業(yè)者羽杰,但我不會以犧牲自己的短期長期目標(biāo)為代價和他們出去玩樂渡紫。

10 – Stop Making Promises

別再做承諾

Always under-promise and over-deliver. When you make a promise, you’re adding responsibility to your plate that, despite all your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on. More often than not, your promise is an absolute (i.e “I promise I’ll always love you”), and only Sith deal in absolutes. Instead of making a promise with your words, simply be there when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions.

總是做承諾,總是做不到考赛。每次做承諾都是不禁給自己增添了責(zé)任惕澎,無論你的出發(fā)點有多好,你都不可能完成所有的部分颜骤。大部分時候唧喉,你的承諾都太過絕對(比如“我發(fā)誓我永遠(yuǎn)愛你”),也只能在絕對環(huán)境中才能實現(xiàn)复哆。與其用語言許下承諾欣喧,不如在別人需要你的時候出現(xiàn)腌零,然后用行動達(dá)到他們的期望吧梯找。

11 – Stop Being a Pushover

不要做老好人

We live in a capitalistic society in which everyone’s trying to sell us something. Everyone’s looking out for themselves in one way or another, and you need to do the same. Stop putting yourself out because you’re too shy to say no.

我們所處的社會,每個人都試圖告知我們一些事情益涧。每個人都從不同的角度去找尋著自己锈锤,你也需要,你要做的就是在合適的時候說不。

12 – Stop Listening to Haters

不要聽討厭的人說話

No matter what you want to do in life, there’s always someone around to tell you why it can’t and won’t work. I can come up with millions of reasons Twitter won’t work, and yet it’s one of the most popular social media sites on the web. My opinion didn’t stop Twitter’s success any more than it convinced Kobe Bryant to quit the NBA or Josh Hartnett to stop acting. Why would you let someone’s opinion stop you?

無論你想干什么久免,總會有人告訴你不要這么做浅辙,沒有用的。我可以想出成百萬條推特不實用的理由阎姥,但它還是互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上最流行的社交網(wǎng)站之一记舆。我的想法不會阻止推特的成功,就像你無法勸科比退出NBA或喬什·哈奈特不要當(dāng)演員了一樣呼巴,都毫無意義泽腮。那么為什么要讓別人的想法阻止你呢?

13 – Stop Being Wasteful

停止浪費

You don’t finish your meals, and away food instead. You leave the faucet running when you brush your teeth, pouring precious water down the drain. You drive places you could easily walk, burning gasoline (a non-renewable resource). You are wasteful, and it needs to stop.

你飯沒吃完衣赶,然后扔掉食物诊赊;刷牙的時候還開著水龍頭,就讓寶貴的水嘩嘩的流走府瞄;明明可以走到的地方你偏要開車碧磅,燃燒汽油(無法再生資源)。如果你浪費了遵馆,那就趕緊停止這一惡習(xí)鲸郊。

14– Stop Littering

不要亂扔垃圾

The only thing I hate more than wasteful people are litterbugs. Litterbugs are my least favorite bug, and there are more than you’d think. If you’ve ever thrown even one piece of gum, paper, candy wrapper, cigarette butt, etc on the ground, you’re a disgusting litterbug, and you should be ashamed of yourself. There are over 7 billion people in the world – if each person only throws one “innocent” piece of garbage on the ground, that’s 7 billion pieces of garbage littering a world in which nobody “did it”.

唯一一個讓我覺得比浪費的人更可惡的就是垃圾蟲。垃圾蟲最讓我厭惡团搞,而且永遠(yuǎn)多的讓你數(shù)不清严望。如果你曾扔過一塊口香糖,一張紙逻恐、糖果包裝像吻、煙蒂,那么你就是惡心的垃圾蟲复隆。你應(yīng)該感到恥辱拨匆。世界上有超過70億的人——如果每個人都無意識的扔一點垃圾,那么全世界就會變成70億垃圾場挽拂,哪怕沒有罪魁禍?zhǔn)住?br>

Your one decision makes a HUGE difference, and I will not allow you to blow it off and walk around with your head held high. You’re a litterbug, and it needs to stop immediately. You don’t get a lifehack for this one, you filthy animal. Just stop – you already know how.

你的一個決定會產(chǎn)生深遠(yuǎn)的影響惭每,我不贊成你去大馬路大聲高呼。如果你是垃圾蟲亏栈,那么就需要馬上停止了台腥,也許不會救命,但能讓你不那么惹人厭绒北。停止這一舉動吧黎侈,你知道該怎么做的。

15 – Stop Taking Everything Personally

別把每件事太往心里去

People get offended about the strangest things. Take Kendrick Lamar’s now-infamous verse on “Control” this summer: he called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks he’s better than (and he’s right). The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushed to their mics to record a response. The thing is, all K-Dot said is he’s the best rapper. Everyone took it personally, and that’s exactly what he was going for. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and if you’re easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.

人們會因為一些奇怪的事情感到被侵犯闷游。就拿Kendrick Lamar這個夏天備受爭議的歌曲《Control》為例:他在歌詞中挑釁了一些他認(rèn)為比他弱的說唱歌手(的確是這樣)峻汉,一石激起千層浪,整個說唱界的歌手都蜂擁錄歌作為回?fù)粜莘汀V攸c在于扳埂,所有的人都認(rèn)為自己是最好的說唱者,每個人都更看重自己瘤礁,這就是他的目的所在阳懂。這件事教給我們的無非就是不是所有的事都要圍著你轉(zhuǎn),如果你是玻璃心柜思,有人會利用這一點希太。

16 – Stop Talking

不要再說話了

Sometimes it’s best to just STFU – especially in relationships. I can’t even count how many times I created an issue that didn’t need to be an issue simply because I opened my mouth. Even if what you want to say is important, just shut up and ride it out. You can say more with your actions than words, and you can’t listen when you’re talking.

有時候沉默是金——特別在情侶關(guān)系里。我都記不清到底多少次因為說錯話引發(fā)了本可以避免的爭端酝蜒。即使你想說的非常重要誊辉,那也閉嘴,自行消化亡脑。你可以用行動證明一切堕澄,畢竟你自己說話的時候是聽不見的。

17 – Just Stop, and Breathe…

停一下霉咨,深呼吸吧

No matter what you’re doing in life or how your day is going, there’s always room to just stop for a moment and just breathe. Try it right now to celebrate getting through this list of everything you’re doing wrong.

無論你現(xiàn)在在干什么蛙紫,這一天過得怎么樣,你都需要好好停一下深呼吸途戒。不如現(xiàn)在就歇一歇坑傅,犒賞自己總算挺過了一些錯事。

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