01 沒有堅持創(chuàng)作？你首先要認(rèn)清的是為什么失敗

經(jīng)常在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上寫作的童鞋（針對剛需不是日記式的流水賬）一定經(jīng)歷過這樣的煎熬：為了找到文章的素材阔逼，經(jīng)痴仔疲花費大把時間留意當(dāng)下熱點話題；為了爭取閱讀流量，經(jīng)常絞盡腦汁羡亩，既要剖析他人想法還要提出自己的觀點摩疑；搭建好了文章思路還要注意語言的使用，因為讀者的注意力是需要寫作者刻意吸引的畏铆。

再往大點說雷袋，無論是互聯(lián)網(wǎng)創(chuàng)作還是滿足升學(xué)工作需求，寫作這件事情總會讓我們面對各種挫折辞居，靈感的來源楷怒，話題與經(jīng)驗的萃取，問題思考方式的推敲瓦灶，用詞的精準(zhǔn)鸠删。

我是一個寫作菜鳥，從注冊簡書第一次發(fā)文開始到現(xiàn)在已經(jīng)有小半年時間了贼陶，我的成長之路其實非常緩慢（看我的粉絲關(guān)注量就能知道我還是默默無聞的菜鳥）刃泡，這中間經(jīng)歷過太多次的嘗試和放棄；

同時碉怔，做為一名英語老師烘贴，我也會經(jīng)常批閱學(xué)生的英語作文，很多時候他們的寫作歷程和我的寫作之路非常相似： 不斷寫文章眨层，不斷經(jīng)受打擊庙楚，不斷修改重寫上荡，有人中途放棄趴樱，有人最終獲得成功。

雖然大家心里都知道失敗是成功之母酪捡，但很多時候叁征，人們對失敗的接受力并不夠強大，更多的時候逛薇，人們無法接受那個不符合理想的自己捺疼，于是出現(xiàn)更多的自暴自棄。

如果永罚，此時的你正在經(jīng)歷各種挫折啤呼，在創(chuàng)作道路上經(jīng)受煎熬，在夢想道路上屢遭失敗但不甘心呢袱，我認(rèn)為你有必要看下今天的文章——適當(dāng)自我關(guān)懷官扣，積極面對失敗助你走的更遠(yuǎn)。

02 普通人出書的經(jīng)歷—— 你首先是個普通人羞福，其次才是個創(chuàng)作者

Ben, a twenty-four-year-old middle-school social studies teacher with literary aspirations, had set the goal to finish writing his novel by the end of summer vacation. This deadline required him to write ten pages a day, every day. In reality, he would write two to three pages one day, then feel so overwhelmed by how far behind he was that he skipped the next day completely. Realizing that he wasn’t going to finish the book by the start of the school year, he felt like a fraud. If he couldn’t make the effort now, when he had so much free time, how was he going to make any progress when he had homework to grade and lessons to plan?

今天的主人公是Ben惕蹄，今年24歲，在中學(xué)教社會研究。他有一個文學(xué)抱負(fù)：暑假結(jié)束之前卖陵，他要完成一本小說的創(chuàng)作遭顶。

和許多做時間規(guī)劃的童鞋一樣啊，Ben要根據(jù)截止日期將自己的大目標(biāo)細(xì)化呀泪蔫，于是他計算后發(fā)現(xiàn)棒旗，要按時完成計劃，自己必須每天完成10頁的創(chuàng)作鸥滨。

10頁啊嗦哆，不是10行啊，童鞋們婿滓，寫過文章的都知道這個任務(wù)量太恐怖了老速。

實際上，Ben一天能夠創(chuàng)作2到3頁凸主，他被現(xiàn)實和規(guī)劃的差距打敗了橘券，它第二天放棄了創(chuàng)作。

基于現(xiàn)實創(chuàng)作速度的緩慢卿吐，Ben覺得自己不可能兌現(xiàn)自己當(dāng)初的規(guī)劃了旁舰，他不可能在開學(xué)之前完成小說了，這使他十分痛苦嗡官，他認(rèn)為自己是個騙子箭窜。

他告訴自己，假期中擁有那么多的空閑時間的自己衍腥，尚且不能完成當(dāng)初的規(guī)劃磺樱，開學(xué)后，要面對大批待批改的作業(yè)婆咸，大量備課任務(wù)竹捉，更不可能按時去創(chuàng)作小說。

Ben started to doubt whether he should even bother with the goal, since he wasn’t making the progress he thought he should be. “A real writer would be able to churn those pages ?out,” he told himself. “A real writer would never play computer games instead of writing.” In this state of mind, he turned a critical eye to his writing and convinced himself it was garbage. Ben had actually abandoned his goal when he found himself in my class that fall. He had enrolled in the class to learn how to motivate his students, but he recognized himself in the discussion about self-criticism.

因為無法按期完成規(guī)劃的任務(wù)尚骄，Ben開始懷疑自己當(dāng)初建立目標(biāo)的初衷块差， 他告訴自己：

一名真正的作家一定可以按計劃寫出改寫的內(nèi)容；

一名真正的作家不會在該創(chuàng)作的時候選擇打電腦游戲倔丈；

在他此時的腦海里憨闰，他極度懷疑自己的創(chuàng)作，認(rèn)為自己寫出來的作品與垃圾無異需五。

寫到這里鹉动，我仿佛看到了自己的曾經(jīng)，在文章沒有讀者的時候警儒，在文章收到第一個評論的時候训裆，在文章被拒的時候眶根，嗯，我確實也動搖過边琉，也懷疑過属百，抱怨過，但是变姨，這些抱怨無濟于事族扰，我們下面看看要怎么樣擺脫痛苦。

Ben放棄了自己的創(chuàng)作計劃定欧，并在秋季的時候參加了美女博士的意志力課程挑戰(zhàn)渔呵。

雖然他加入課程的初衷是找到激勵學(xué)生的方法，但是砍鸠，在課程進(jìn)行過程中扩氢，他發(fā)現(xiàn)了過去在創(chuàng)作中自己的自我苛責(zé)。

When he did the self-forgiveness exercise for his abandoned novel, the first thing he noticed was the fear and self-doubt behind his giving up. Not meeting his small goal to write ten pages a day made him afraid that he did not have the talent or dedication to realize his big goal of becoming a novelist. He took comfort in the idea that his setbacks were just part of being human, and not proof that he would never succeed. He remembered stories he had read about other writers who had struggled early in their careers.

對于過去未完成的創(chuàng)作爷辱，Ben嘗試進(jìn)行自我寬恕練習(xí)录豺。他發(fā)現(xiàn)，他中途放棄的主要原因是饭弓，恐懼和自我懷疑双饥。

恐懼什么呢，懷疑什么呢弟断？

因為沒能每天完成10頁的創(chuàng)作計劃咏花，他害怕自己沒有成為小說家的天賦和決心。

現(xiàn)在阀趴，在練習(xí)中昏翰，他慢慢接受了自己做為普通人的不完美，他意識到舍咖，任何的挫折都是普通人生活中的一部分矩父，但這些挫折并不代表自己在未來不會成功锉桑。

他想起來之前讀過的作家故事排霉，這些作家在成名之前都曾經(jīng)歷過各種挫折。

To find a more compassionate response to himself, he imagined how he would mentor a student who wanted to give up on a?goal. Ben realized he would encourage the student to keep going if the goal was important. He would say that any effort made now would take the student closer to the goal. He certainly would not say to the student, “Who are you kidding? Your work is garbage.” From this exercise, Ben found renewed energy for writing and returned to his work-in-progress. He made a commitment to write once a week, a more reasonable goal for the school year, and one he felt comfortable holding himself accountable to.

為了給自己更多的正面回饋民轴，Ben聯(lián)系了自己鼓勵學(xué)生的經(jīng)歷攻柠。

如果Ben覺得一個學(xué)生的目標(biāo)很重要，那么他就會鼓勵學(xué)生堅持目標(biāo)后裸。

他會告訴學(xué)生瑰钮，現(xiàn)在做的所有努力都是為了讓自己更加接近目標(biāo)。

他肯定不會告訴這個學(xué)生微驶，你開什么玩笑浪谴，你的作品就是一堆垃圾开睡。

跟著美女博士做過自我關(guān)懷練習(xí)后，Ben 發(fā)現(xiàn)自己重新找到了寫作的能量苟耻，再一次投入到了創(chuàng)作中篇恒。

他每周只寫一次，這樣的進(jìn)度更符合學(xué)校的強度凶杖，也讓他感受到了自己在寫作中的游刃有余胁艰。

03 語言分析

1.In reality, he would write two to three pages one day, then feel so overwhelmed by how far behind he was that he skipped the next day completely.

事實上，他每天會寫2到3頁智蝠，于是腾么，他就會因為自己和規(guī)劃進(jìn)度之間的差距而感到失落，結(jié)果杈湾，他第二天就會完全放棄創(chuàng)作解虱。

這句話的主干屬于并列復(fù)合結(jié)構(gòu)， He would write ... then feel overwhelmed...漆撞，在后半句里面有一個核心的搭配要快速抓住 so... that....,是個隱藏的因果邏輯饭寺。

另外， overwhelmed by ....這個句型里面叫挟，我們又看到了how引導(dǎo)的從句艰匙，這句話是倒裝結(jié)構(gòu)，強調(diào)距離之遠(yuǎn)抹恳。還原到正常語序员凝， he was how far behind.

2.If he couldn’t make the effort now, when he had so much free time, how was he going to make any progress when he had homework to grade and lessons to plan?

假期中擁有那么多的空閑時間的自己，尚且不能完成當(dāng)初的規(guī)劃奋献，開學(xué)后健霹，要面對大批待批改的作業(yè)，大量備課任務(wù)瓶蚂，更不可能按時去創(chuàng)作小說糖埋。

這句話的從句偏多，所以窃这，大家要練習(xí)快速找核心結(jié)構(gòu)的技能瞳别，If...條件狀語從句，when ... 時間狀語從句杭攻，后面還有一個when從句祟敛。

整個句子的核心是how was he going to make ....，其他的從句部分都能拆開來單獨理解兆解，其實英語句子的核心部分都不難理解馆铁，但是過多的從句容易擾亂大家的視野，能夠識別出主從句锅睛，基本上就能無障礙理解作者的寫作意圖了埠巨。

3.Not meeting his small goal to write ten pages a day made him afraid that he did not have the talent or dedication to realize his big goal of becoming a novelist

因為沒能每天完成10頁的創(chuàng)作計劃历谍，他害怕自己沒有天賦和決心成為小說家。

這句話的核心是辣垒， not meeting....made him afraid that ....

非謂語動詞meeting做為主語扮饶，make somebody afraid這個結(jié)構(gòu)里，afraid that...屬于him的補足語乍构，補充說明他的狀態(tài)甜无。

4.He made a commitment to write once a week, a more reasonable goal for the school year, and one he felt comfortable holding himself accountable to.

他每周只寫一次，這樣的進(jìn)度更符合學(xué)校的強度哥遮，也讓他感受到了自己在寫作中的游刃有余岂丘。

核心結(jié)構(gòu)非常清晰，he made a commitment ..., 精彩部分在于后面的同位語補充眠饮， a more reasonable goal... and one he felt...,同位語的主要作用就是把本該分幾個句子說清楚的事情放在一句話里面奥帘，更加巧妙的體現(xiàn)了英語的精妙之處。

04 故事與我何干

做任何事之前仪召，請不要做過于樂觀的預(yù)設(shè)寨蹋，因為希望越大失望越大，如果成功那么容易就不會有二八原則扔茅。

我們看多了夸大結(jié)果的新聞：某某大咖通過創(chuàng)作走上了財富自由的道路已旧，但是這些大咖背后的心酸普通人其實看不到；某某創(chuàng)業(yè)者曾經(jīng)月薪2000塊現(xiàn)在成為身價上億的CEO召娜，但是普通人體會不到某某深夜的煎熬运褪；

我們首先是普通人，普通人做自己力所能及的事情玖瘸，適當(dāng)追求一點舒適圈外的刺激就當(dāng)作自我投資秸讹，失敗了也沒什么，不至于要死不活的雅倒，大不了再換個角度做嘗試璃诀；

其次，在平和的心態(tài)下蔑匣，我們更容易出現(xiàn)某個瞬間的靈感劣欢，有時這些靈感能給我們帶來更大的收益，及時關(guān)注這些靈感殖演，小心假設(shè)驗證氧秘，只要利用好這些機會年鸳，其實趴久，你已經(jīng)離成功不遠(yuǎn)了。

想想牛頓的萬有引力的發(fā)現(xiàn)過程搔确，喬布斯利用書法開發(fā)設(shè)計人機互動界面的靈感彼棍，扎克伯格發(fā)現(xiàn)Facebook的發(fā)展前景灭忠，不經(jīng)意間的想法好好利用起來已經(jīng)非常了不起了。

05 延伸延伸—— 怎么做積極練習(xí)

Bring to mind a specific time when you gave in to temptation or procrastination, and experiment with taking the following three points of view on that failure. When you experience a setback, you can bring these perspectives to mind to help you avoid a downward spiral of guilt, shame, and giving in again.

1. What are you feeling? As you think about this failure, take a moment to notice and describe how you are feeling. What emotions are present? What are you are feeling in your body? Can you remember how you felt immediately after the failure? How would you describe that? Notice if self-criticism comes up, and if it does, what you say to yourself. The perspective of mindfulness allows you to see?what you are feeling without rushing to escape.

2. You’re only human. Everyone struggles with willpower challenges and everyone sometimes loses control. This is just a part of the human condition, and your setback does not mean there is something wrong with you. Consider the truth of these statements. Can you think of other people you respect and care about who have experienced similar struggles and setbacks? This perspective can soften the usual voice of self-criticism and self-doubt.

3. What would you say to a friend? Consider how you would comfort a close friend who experienced the same setback. What words of support would you offer? How would you encourage them to continue pursuing their goal? This perspective will point the way to getting back on track.

當(dāng)你失敗的時候座硕，不要孤獨自責(zé)弛作，請嘗試一下3步：

1.描述失敗后的情緒感受，識別過度自責(zé)情緒华匾。

2.你是個凡人映琳，失敗是必經(jīng)之途。想想成功者背后的悲劇故事蜘拉。

3.把自己當(dāng)成一個好友萨西，如果你的好友失敗，你會怎么安撫對方旭旭。