一年輕女生問我:老師禀倔,我談了一男友榄融,三個(gè)月又分手了,是我提出來的救湖,因?yàn)楦改阜磳?duì)愧杯,他家農(nóng)村的,家境不太好鞋既,我很喜歡他力九,他人老實(shí)可靠。分手幾個(gè)月來邑闺,我一直糾結(jié)跌前,有時(shí)很想他,也覺得對(duì)不起他陡舅。您說抵乓,我該怎么辦?
你這個(gè)問題太經(jīng)典了靶衍!首先灾炭,我要說,就是我碰到了摊灭,也會(huì)很為難咆贬!佩服你的自制力!在這中間帚呼,誰(shuí)都沒有錯(cuò)掏缎!你父母也是出于關(guān)愛你皱蹦,要是我女兒,我也會(huì)關(guān)心她的眷蜈,因?yàn)槟闶仟?dú)生女沪哺,父母希望你幸福,所以不想你吃苦酌儒。
這就涉及到一個(gè)根本問題辜妓,即怎么看待物質(zhì)財(cái)富。金錢本不壞忌怎,但金錢常常讓人壞籍滴!錢不是問題,問題是沒有錢榴啸!物質(zhì)與精神同樣重要孽惰,尤其是現(xiàn)在社會(huì)!你想畢業(yè)后要生活在城市的話鸥印,要買房勋功,要結(jié)婚,要生崽库说,要應(yīng)酬狂鞋,要謀發(fā)展,等等等等潜的,都需要一定的經(jīng)濟(jì)基礎(chǔ)骚揍,你在學(xué)校讀書不會(huì)真正懂得經(jīng)濟(jì)對(duì)于人的現(xiàn)實(shí)壓力,一旦走進(jìn)社會(huì)夏块,面對(duì)柴米油鹽醬醋茶疏咐,你就會(huì)有感悟!所以脐供,你父母才反對(duì)浑塞!父母的意見還是要尊重,這是孝順的必須政己!
但是酌壕,物質(zhì)雖重要,還在于人去創(chuàng)造歇由!如果你覺得憑你們倆的努力卵牍,可以活得很幸福,精神上飽滿沦泌,物質(zhì)上不愁糊昙,那么,就不是問題谢谦!問題是你也拿不準(zhǔn)释牺,到底能力怎么樣萝衩,所以很糾結(jié)!
如果你不在乎物質(zhì)及其帶來的困難没咙,能夠不論什么情景都能活得很好猩谊,那就好辦了!問題是祭刚,你也拿不準(zhǔn)牌捷,因?yàn)槟悻F(xiàn)在這樣想,將來會(huì)不會(huì)變涡驮?男孩現(xiàn)在老實(shí)忠厚暗甥,將來會(huì)不會(huì)變?所以說生活中變數(shù)很大遮怜,要說出個(gè)如何如何很困難淋袖!
另外鸿市,這也涉及你對(duì)愛情婚姻的看法锯梁。愛情跟婚姻,是不是一定要鏈接焰情?不同人意見不同陌凳!你說要以結(jié)婚為目的來戀愛,雖然很純貞内舟,但是經(jīng)常被現(xiàn)實(shí)所打破合敦!因此,愛情就是愛情验游,能不能結(jié)婚充岛,還是順其自然好!所以說干什么事不要有太強(qiáng)的目的性耕蝉,活在當(dāng)下最為瀟灑崔梗!但也不是說可以隨便,做事要認(rèn)真垒在,戀愛亦如此蒜魄!愛就好好去愛與被愛,在愛的海洋中享受人生场躯,至于結(jié)果谈为,只要問心無愧,該當(dāng)如何踢关,便如何伞鲫!不必后悔,不必糾結(jié)签舞!成不了婚姻秕脓,愛情永遠(yuǎn)留心中驹闰,是人生一道美麗的風(fēng)景!
所以撒会,你也可以考慮繼續(xù)跟他談嘹朗,也可以接受新的戀人!這沒有什么對(duì)與錯(cuò)诵肛!一句話屹培,一切在于你自己!
沒有人是不可代替的怔檩,沒有東西是必須擁有的褪秀。就算失去了世間最愛的一切時(shí),也應(yīng)該明白薛训,這并不是什么大不了的事媒吗。
愛情只是一種感覺,而這感覺會(huì)隨時(shí)間乙埃、心境而改變闸英。如果你所謂的最愛離開你,請(qǐng)你耐心地等待一下介袜,讓時(shí)間慢慢沖洗甫何,讓心靈慢慢沉淀,你的苦就會(huì)慢慢淡化遇伞。
不要過分憧憬愛情的美辙喂,不要過分夸大失戀的悲。生命是用來享受的鸠珠,不是用來糾結(jié)的巍耗,除非你把糾結(jié)當(dāng)享受!愛情是生命的一部分渐排,而且是最美的一部分炬太,如果不等的去愛與被愛,除非你不想珍愛生命飞盆!
一切只是過程娄琉,用真心去應(yīng)對(duì),不論對(duì)錯(cuò)得失吓歇,愛己愛人愛世界孽水,讓世界充滿愛,才是人世間的唯一應(yīng)該的追求城看!與其將生命用來糾結(jié)女气、徘徊、痛苦测柠,不如天天依心而為炼鞠,快樂的去迎接人世的風(fēng)雨霜露缘滥!
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