年少時片挂，總是夢想未來的生活。無奈閱歷有限贞盯，讀書少宴卖，那夢想將我指向了錯誤的方向。比如我曾經(jīng)認為邻悬，我一輩子都不會開車∷婷觯或者父丰，只要在這個城市里，有一盞燈是專門為我而亮的掘宪，那我就滿足了蛾扇。可是現(xiàn)在魏滚，我會開車镀首，并且住在一個老舊的公寓里。好像人生就這樣了鼠次。仿佛我的靈魂已經(jīng)不再屬于我了更哄。

然后，毫無準備的腥寇，我成為了一個媽媽成翩。我仿佛又找到了我的夢想。我想讓他過上不同的生活赦役，更好的生活麻敌。為了讓他開心和成功，我投入了所有的精力去教育他掂摔。我覺得他一定更加成功术羔。因為我給了他更確切的目標，我做了一切我能做的乙漓，給了他一切我能給的级历。他應該理所當然的優(yōu)秀才對啊簇秒！但這不是真相鱼喉。在學習上，他沒有耐心，也沒有沖勁兒扛禽。

這些日子锋边，我改變了想法。我應該自己先改善自己的生活才對编曼《咕蓿回想過去十年間發(fā)生的事，我真的從孩子那里獲得的比付出的多掐场。他愛我比我愛他要多往扔。他可以原諒我犯下的錯。他可以忍受我的無理取鬧熊户。而且萍膛，他仍然愛我。

我接受最近所讀的書中和所看的視頻中的觀點：“父母應該在孩子的成長路上保持好奇心嚷堡，而不是設(shè)計他們的生活蝗罗，抑或是讓他們順從自己◎蚪洌”

從某種程度上來講串塑，我是一個幸運的人，我年輕時簡單的夢想北苟，現(xiàn)在都已經(jīng)實現(xiàn)了桩匪。我應該去尋找全新的夢想了，我一定會讓它們更具體友鼻。而在那些夢想中傻昙，不僅有我，還有我的生活桃移。

To give or to get?

I usually dreamt about my future life when I was young. But due to my limited experience and lack of reading, those dreams lead me to a wrong direction. For example, I would never drive a car, or I would be satisfied if there is a light left just for me in this big city. But now, I’m driving, and I live in an old apartment. As if my life is just like this. I don’t have my soul with me.

Then, unprepared, I become a mother. I get my dream back. I want him to have a different life, a better life. In order to make him happy and successful, I put all my energy into educating my son. I think he’ll be more successful. Because I give him more specific goals and I think I give all I can do and all the things I have to him. He should reasonably, readily be excellent.

But this is not the truth. He is not patient and not inspiring in study.

These days I changed my mind. I think I should live an improved life myself. As I recalled all the things happened in the past ten years, I really get a lot instead of giving a lot from my son. He loves me more than I love him. He can forgive my fault. He can endure my unreasoning. And he still loves me.

I accept the saying from the books I read and the videos saw these days:” Parents should stay curious about raising a child, not design a life for them, not let them be obedient.

To some extent, I am a fortunate person as my dreams have all been achieved till now. I should have new dreams and I’ll make them more specific. They are not just about me. They should include my life.