當遇到自己解決不了的問題時，我們會向他人尋求建議军浆。但這些建議并不一定能幫助我們解決問題棕洋，有時反而會使情況更加糟糕。下面就來看看在愛情里可能會出現(xiàn)哪些建議吧~
When we encounter problems that we can't solve, we seek advice from others. But these suggestions don't always help us solve problems, and sometimes they make things worse. Here are some suggestions about what might happen in love ~!
第一則
-THEFIRST-
"Youshouldfindsomeonebetterforyourself."
“你應該找個更好的瘾敢∨墓冢”
Ifyou'reonlyinarelationshipbecauseyouwantsomepersonalprofit,maybeyou'reonthewrongtrack.Profit-seeking,accordingtopsychologists,cannotbeanadequatereasontostartorendarelationship.Indoingso,youcandestroyareallyhappymarriageorstartalifethatdoesn'tbringyouanyhappinessatall.
如果談戀愛只是為了個人利益，那就是心術不正。心理學家表示柠逞，尋求利益不足以成為開始或結束一段戀情的理由蝙场。為利而愛，只會毀掉美滿婚姻谒出，或是開啟一段并不快樂的人生。
第二則
-THESECOND-
"Showthemwho'stheboss.Don'tletthempushyouaround!"
“讓他們知道誰才是主導。別讓別人牽著鼻子走典蜕！”
Firstofall,lovepartnershavedifferentfieldsofresponsibilityinarelationship,anditseemsnormalthateachofthemtakesaleadingrolefromtimetotime.Onlymutualunderstandingandrespectofthepartnerscanmakeamarriageworkandmakeitreallystrong.
首先，戀人在一段戀情中總是各司其職罗洗，因此雙方時不時各占上風都是正常表現(xiàn)愉舔。戀人之間只有相互理解和尊重才能擁有一段牢固的完滿婚姻。
第三則
-THETHIRD-
"Demandthatyourpartnerisromantic!"
“要求另一半浪漫多情伙菜！”
Psychologistsclaimthatthere'sacertainromanticperiodinanyrelationshipthatcommonlypassesaftersometime.Partnerscan'tliveforeverlikethey'reinaromanticcomedy,goingcrazywhentheyseeeachother.
心理學家表示轩缤，在任何一段戀情中都會出現(xiàn)浪漫的熱戀期，但是熱戀期總會過去。戀人間不可能一直像熱戀期一樣生活火的，比如一見到對方就心潮澎湃壶愤。
That'swhyyoucan'tdemandthatyourpartnerisinthehoneymoonphaseofyourrelationshipallthetime.Everyrelationshiphasdifferentphasesofdevelopment,eachwithitsownadvantages.
因此，不能要求對方永遠處于熱戀期的狀態(tài)馏鹤。每段戀情都有不同的發(fā)展階段征椒，每個階段都有自己的優(yōu)點。
第四則
-THEFOURTH-
"Stayquiet.Don'tmakeitworse."
“保持沉默湃累。別把它弄糟了勃救。”
It'salmostimpossibletoavoidconflictinarelationship.However,itisbettertoresolveconflictswhentheyoccur.Youshouldn'tsuppressyourfeelingsandwaituntiltheybreakoutonedaybecausethiswillcausemoredamagetothemarriage.Don'tplaythevictimcard.Discussyourfeelingswithyourpartnerinstead.
在一段戀情中要避免矛盾幾乎是不可能的治力。然而剪芥，矛盾一旦出現(xiàn)，最好及時解決琴许。不要壓抑自己的情感税肪，一旦有一天爆發(fā)出來，就會對婚姻造成巨大危害榜田。別老是扮演受害者角色益兄，還是和另一半談談自己的感受吧。
第五則
-THEFIFTH-
"Justreadtheirchat.Youhavetheright!"
“你有權利看ta的聊天記錄箭券！”
Suchinterferenceinapartner'spersonallife—makingintrusivecalls,readingpersonalchats,trackinglocations—isconsideredbyfamilylawspecialiststobethefirststeptowardabusivebehaviorinafamily.Itcanbenotonlyphysicalbutemotionaltoo.Don'tlistentothiskindofadvice,anddon'tmakeyourpartnerahostageofyourjealousy.
電話轟炸净捅、偷看聊天記錄、追查位置——這類對于另一半個人生活的干涉被家庭法專家認為是導致家暴行為的第一步辩块。這類行為可能是身體上的蛔六，也可能是情感上的。所以废亭，不要聽從這類建議国章，不要讓另一半成為你嫉妒心理的人質(zhì)。
第六則
-THESIXTH-
"Justremindhimthatwhatheearnsisn'tenough."
“就和他說豆村，他賺得太少了液兽。”
Thisadviceisagreatwaytoturnalittlemisunderstandingintoabigconflictbetweenpartners.Youknowthatyoucanfindalotofmutualreproachestomakeitallevenworse.
這個建議能讓戀人間的小摩擦升級為核戰(zhàn)掌动。你得知道四啰，你們可以找出許多事情互相指責，這會讓你們的關系雪上加霜粗恢。
Specialistssaythatyoushouldn'tdiscusssuchmattersonadailybasis,andtrynottomentionsomethinglikethisduringabigconflict.
專家表示柑晒，在日常生活中以及發(fā)生重大矛盾時都不宜提及這類問題。
第七則
-THESEVENTH-
"Lookatmeandlearn."
“看看我眷射，學著點匙赞×底罚”
Teachingbyyourownexampleworksbetterwithkids,notwithlovepartners.Youarenotachild,andyoushouldn'trepeatsomeoneelse'sbehavior.
通過個人經(jīng)歷來教育對方，這對小孩來說也許奏效罚屋，但是在另一半身上卻行不通苦囱。你不是小孩，不應該復制他人的行為脾猛。
Whenyouhavemarriagedifficulties,don'tlookatotherfamiliesandtrytocopytheirwayoflife.However,thisdoesn'tmeanthatyoucan'ttrytoavoidsomeofthemistakestheymake.
當婚姻出現(xiàn)危機時撕彤，不要觀察其他家庭，復制他們的生活方式猛拴。不過羹铅，倒是可以以他人為鑒，避免重蹈覆轍愉昆。
第八則
-THEEIGHTH-
見朋友之前：我們真是天生一對职员！
見朋友之后：你配不上我！
Sowhydowetendtolistentowordsthatmightbringusnothinggood?Maybebecausedeepinsidewebelievethatpeoplecanseebetterfromtheside,givingusrationaladvice.
所以跛溉，為什么我們會聽取那些一無是處的建議呢焊切？可能因為在內(nèi)心深處，我們認為旁觀者可以看到問題的本質(zhì)芳室，給出合理的建議专肪。
However,it'saverymisleadingfeelingbecauseyourrelationshipisverycomplexandfullofdetailsnooneknowsbutyoutwo.That'swhyyoushouldlistenonlytoyourmindandyourownheart.
然而，這一認識具有誤導性堪侯。戀愛十分復雜嚎尤，很多細節(jié)只有你們兩個人自己知道，別人一無所知伍宦。所以芽死，你只能從心而愛，隨心而戀次洼。
However, this understanding is misleading. Love is very complicated, many details only you two people know, others know nothing about. So, you can only love from the heart, and love the heart.
盡管別人能給我們建議关贵，但要記得最后做決定的還是我們自己。我們要學會拒絕那些不好的建議滓玖。生活中你有沒有后悔接受了某個建議呢坪哄？歡迎在評論區(qū)分享~
Although others can give us advice, but remember that the final decision is still our own. We should learn to reject bad advice. Have you ever regretted accepting a proposal in your life? Welcome to share in the review area ~!
