1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
1. 假如可以選擇世界上任何人卧抗，你希望邀請(qǐng)誰(shuí)共進(jìn)晚餐？
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
2. 你希望成名嗎健霹？在哪一方面躺涝？
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
3. 撥打電話前麦射，你會(huì)先練習(xí)要說(shuō)的話嗎泪勒？為什么闪盔？
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
4. 對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)瑟俭，怎樣才算是“完美”的一天违寞？
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
5. 上一次唱歌給自己聽(tīng)是什么時(shí)候贞瞒？唱歌給別人聽(tīng)又是什么時(shí)候呢？
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
6. 假如你能夠活到90歲趁曼，并且你可以選擇讓你的心智或身體在后60年一直停留在30歲军浆，你會(huì)選擇哪一個(gè)？
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
7. 關(guān)于未來(lái)你可能怎么死挡闰，你有自己的秘密預(yù)感嗎乒融？
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
8. 列舉3個(gè)你和對(duì)方共同擁有的特質(zhì)。
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
9. 你的人生中最感恩的事情是什么摄悯？
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
10. 假如可以改變你成長(zhǎng)過(guò)程中的任何事赞季，你希望有哪些改變？
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
11. 用4分鐘的時(shí)間奢驯，盡可能詳細(xì)地向?qū)Ψ街v述你的人生故事申钩。
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
12. 假如明天早上起床后能獲得任何一種能力或特質(zhì)，你希望是什么瘪阁？
Set Two
第二組問(wèn)題
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
13. 假如有顆水晶球能告訴你關(guān)于自己典蜕、人生或未來(lái)的一切真相断盛，你想知道什么？
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
14. 有什么事想做很久了愉舔？還沒(méi)去做的原因是？
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
15. 你人生最大的成就是什么伙菜？
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
16. 友情中你最重視哪一個(gè)部份轩缤？
17. What is your most treasured memory?
17. 你最珍貴的回憶是什么？
18. What is your most terrible memory?
18. 你最糟糕的回憶是什么贩绕？
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
19. 如果你知道自己將在一年內(nèi)突然死去火的，你會(huì)改變自己目前的生活方式嗎？為什么淑倾？
20. What does friendship mean to you?
20. 友情對(duì)你而言意味著什么馏鹤？
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
21. 愛(ài)和感情在你生命里扮演什么樣的角色？
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
22. 輪流分享你認(rèn)為對(duì)方擁有的比較好的性格特點(diǎn)娇哆。各自提5點(diǎn)湃累。
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
23. 你的家庭關(guān)系親密溫暖嗎？你是否覺(jué)得自己的童年比大部分人快樂(lè)碍讨？
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
24. 你與母親的關(guān)系如何治力？
Set Three
第三組問(wèn)題
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling …”
25. 說(shuō)出3個(gè)含有“我們”并且符合實(shí)際情況的句子，比如“我們現(xiàn)在都在這個(gè)房間里”勃黍。
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …”
26. 完成這個(gè)句子：“我希望可以跟某個(gè)人分享——”宵统。
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
27. 如果你要成為對(duì)方的密友，有什么事是他或她需要知道的覆获？
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
28. 告訴對(duì)方你喜歡他或她的什么地方（回答此題必須非常誠(chéng)實(shí)马澈，要說(shuō)出你可能不會(huì)對(duì)剛認(rèn)識(shí)的人說(shuō)的事）。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
29. 和對(duì)方分享你人生中尷尬的時(shí)刻弄息。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
30. 上次在別人面前哭是什么時(shí)候痊班？自己哭又是什么時(shí)候？
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
31. 告訴對(duì)方疑枯，你現(xiàn)在喜歡他或她什么地方辩块。
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
32. 有什么事是絕對(duì)不能開(kāi)玩笑的？
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
33. 如果你今天晚上就會(huì)死掉荆永，而且無(wú)法與任何人聯(lián)系废亭，你最遺憾還沒(méi)有告訴別人什么事？為什么還沒(méi)說(shuō)呢具钥？
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
34. 你的房子起火了豆村，你所有的東西都在里面。在救出所愛(ài)的人和寵物后骂删，你還有時(shí)間可以安全地?fù)尵瘸鲎詈笠患|西掌动。你會(huì)拿什么四啰？為什么？
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
35. 在你所有家人當(dāng)中粗恢，誰(shuí)的死對(duì)你的打擊會(huì)最大柑晒？為什么？
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
36. 分享你人生中的一個(gè)問(wèn)題眷射，問(wèn)對(duì)方遇到這樣的問(wèn)題會(huì)怎么做匙赞。同時(shí)也請(qǐng)對(duì)方告訴你，在他或她看來(lái)妖碉，你對(duì)這個(gè)問(wèn)題的感受是什么涌庭。
好了，以上是所有問(wèn)題欧宜，需要的時(shí)候可以拿出來(lái)試一試回答哦坐榆！這篇論文的結(jié)果是實(shí)驗(yàn)的結(jié)果是：
有30%的人在聊完這些問(wèn)題后，立即表示自己和同組實(shí)驗(yàn)者之間的關(guān)系已經(jīng)變得比他們?nèi)松衅渌魏我欢侮P(guān)系還要深冗茸。
而在隔了一段時(shí)間之后席镀，有37%的人在上課時(shí)坐在了一起，35%的人已經(jīng)開(kāi)始在約會(huì)了（紐約州立大學(xué)石溪分校 Stony Brook）蚀狰。
還有一對(duì)在六個(gè)月后結(jié)了婚愉昆，他們邀請(qǐng)了所有人去參加他們的婚禮。
