這是一封細(xì)致入微的家書(shū)，非常感人，貴為總統(tǒng)的奧巴馬給女兒的信親切出刷、自然璧疗、樸實(shí)、沒(méi)有大話馁龟、套話崩侠，說(shuō)的全是家常，17條建議都非常具體坷檩、每一條都可以做得到却音，每一條都有益，行文的語(yǔ)氣沒(méi)有作為父親或者總統(tǒng)的“諄諄教導(dǎo)”矢炼，從“不在外面吃飯”這類小事系瓢，到“這個(gè)世界是一個(gè)完全由大家分享的世界，你所做的每件事都會(huì)影響到別人”這類普世價(jià)值觀句灌，奧巴馬都說(shuō)得貼切夷陋，自然，優(yōu)美胰锌。這次特別推出中英文對(duì)照版肌稻，希望在學(xué)習(xí)與做人方面，對(duì)您有所裨益匕荸。

以下為正文——

奧巴馬寫(xiě)給女兒的信:停止在做的17件事

Life is short. It may feel like it takesforever sometimes, but the reality is that you live, and a short time later,you die. It happens so quickly, many people don’t even realize they had a lifeuntil it’s already over.

生命如此短暫爹谭。我們有時(shí)候覺(jué)得生命怎么也走不完，實(shí)際上榛搔，你現(xiàn)在活著诺凡，過(guò)不了多久，就會(huì)死去践惑。人生真是轉(zhuǎn)眼一瞬間的事情腹泌，很多人到臨死前才意識(shí)到這一生已經(jīng)結(jié)束。

1.Stop Doubting Yourself

停止懷疑自己

If you don’t believe in yourself, nobodywill. Success starts in your mind, and if all you’re doing is putting yourselfdown and predicting failure, it’ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Insteadof doubting yourself, think positively. Not only will you be happier and moresuccessful, you’ll spread it to everyone around you.

如果你自己都不相信自己尔觉，那沒(méi)人會(huì)相信你凉袱。成功源于你的頭腦，如果你所做的是不斷地看扁自己侦铜，預(yù)言著未來(lái)的失敗专甩，這就真的會(huì)成為現(xiàn)實(shí)。與其懷疑自己钉稍，不如積極的考慮問(wèn)題涤躲。不僅會(huì)讓自己更加開(kāi)心和成功，你還能夠感染到周圍的人贡未。

2.Stop Being Negative

停止消極

Now that you’re done doubting yourself,stop doubting others. You don’t like when people are critical of you, so stopbeing critical of others. Think about how you make other people feel – even ifyou have good intentions, people don’t like hearing negativity.

現(xiàn)在你不要再懷疑自己了种樱，也別再懷疑身邊的人蒙袍。你不希望被人對(duì)你挑剔，那么也不要再去挑剔身邊的人嫩挤。想想你給別人帶來(lái)的什么樣的感受吧——即使出發(fā)點(diǎn)是好的害幅，別人也不想聽(tīng)到那么多消極的事情呀。

3.Stop Procrastinating

停止拖延

I don’t feel like procrastinating right now– I’ll do it tomorrow. When you procrastinate, you remain stagnant. Whateveryou’re putting off doesn’t go away; resolve the problem, and move on. You’ll bemuch happier in the long run.

我現(xiàn)在不想做岂昭，還是留到明天吧矫限。一旦開(kāi)始拖延，其實(shí)你已經(jīng)停滯不前了佩抹。你拖延的事情不會(huì)自行解決叼风。解決問(wèn)題，繼續(xù)前行吧棍苹。從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)角度來(lái)說(shuō)你會(huì)更加快樂(lè)无宿。

4.Stop Being Mean

不要那么刻薄

It’s completely possible to step onsomeone’s toes without meaning to – it happens all the time. There’s no need topile on by purposefully doing mean things, so make a conscious effort to stopbeing mean. If someone wrongs you, let it go. There’s no need to seek vengeanceunless that’s the type of person you want to be.

無(wú)意踩到別人的情況真的有可能會(huì)發(fā)生——常常會(huì)發(fā)生。但沒(méi)必要去處心積慮地做一些不好的事情枢里，所以要有意識(shí)地讓自己不要那么刻薄孽鸡。如果有人對(duì)你無(wú)理地對(duì)待，隨他們?nèi)ズ昧死覆颉](méi)必要去報(bào)復(fù)彬碱，除非你也想成為那一類的人。

5.Stop Eating Out

不要在外吃飯

Eating out is the biggest waste of money.Every so often it’s nice to treat yourself, but eating out for every meal isthe quickest way to drain your bank account. Learn how to cook at least ahandful of foods you enjoy: It’ll save you money, keep you healthier, andoccasionally impress people.

在外面吃飯真的非常非常的浪費(fèi)錢(qián)奥洼。也許每次對(duì)于你而言都是一次犒賞巷疼，但每頓都在外面吃反而是花光積蓄的最快方式。至少也去學(xué)學(xué)怎么做一些自己喜歡的菜：既能省錢(qián)灵奖，還能讓你更健康嚼沿，還會(huì)讓其他人眼前一亮。

6.Stop Being Lazy

不要再偷懶

Lazy people are annoying – it’s likepulling teeth getting them to do anything. If I can’t do something as simple asgoing to a movie with you without having to factor in an hour of convincing youto get your lazy butt out of bed, I’d rather go alone. People have enoughtrouble motivating themselves; don’t make your friends and family waste theirvaluable energy motivating you as well.

懶人真的很招人煩——得像趕驢磨墨一樣逼著他們做事情瓷患。如果我想跟你看一場(chǎng)電影骡尽，卻不得不花一個(gè)小時(shí)說(shuō)服你起床，那我寧愿一個(gè)人去看擅编。給自己動(dòng)力都不是件容易的事情攀细，就別讓朋友和家人浪費(fèi)寶貴的精力再來(lái)給你動(dòng)力了吧。

7.Stop Complaining

停止抱怨

We all have problems, and sometimes we needto vent to someone. That’s acceptable, but pay attention to how often you’reventing. We all love helping our friends and family, but when all you get fromsomeone is negativity, it’s easier to cut them off than help, especially ifthey’re always complaining about the same things.

我們都有麻煩事爱态，有時(shí)候總想跟別人傾訴谭贪。這可以理解，但要注意你吐槽的頻率肢藐。我們都喜歡幫助朋友和家人故河，但如果從那個(gè)人身上我只能感知到負(fù)能量，那么還是離得越遠(yuǎn)越好吧吆豹，尤其是當(dāng)他們?cè)诜磸?fù)抱怨同一件事的時(shí)候鱼的。

8.Stop Being Selfish

別再那么自私

If you only think about yourself, you’llsoon find yourself by yourself. Stop for a minute and think about how youractions affect other people – did you take the last cup of coffee from thebreak room? Refill it! Do you live with others? Don’t drink out the milkcarton. We share this world 100% of the time, so every action you take canaffect other people.

如果你只考慮你自己，那么很快你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)身邊只剩下你自己痘煤。停一分鐘想想你的行為會(huì)給別人帶來(lái)什么影響吧——你是不是從休息室拿了最后一杯咖啡?再倒?jié)M呀!你是不是和別人合租?不要喝光所有的牛奶凑阶，這個(gè)世界是一個(gè)完全由大家分享的世界，你所做的每件事都會(huì)影響到別人衷快。

9.Stop Wasting Time

別再浪費(fèi)時(shí)間

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again:time is the most valuable resource we have. Don’t waste your time onunproductive things. If you want to explore the world’s dark corners, that’sgreat. I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers, but Idon’t hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long-termgoals.

雖然之前說(shuō)過(guò)了宙橱，但我還想再說(shuō)一遍：時(shí)間是我們擁有的最寶貴的資源，不要把時(shí)間浪費(fèi)在沒(méi)有意義的事情上面蘸拔，如果你想探索這個(gè)世界的黑暗角落师郑，很好。我也認(rèn)識(shí)一些沒(méi)有固定工作的一些自由職業(yè)者调窍，但我不會(huì)以犧牲自己的短期長(zhǎng)期目標(biāo)為代價(jià)和他們出去玩樂(lè)宝冕。

10.Stop Making Promises

別再做承諾

Always under-promise and over-deliver. Whenyou make a promise, you’re adding responsibility to your plate that, despiteall your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on. More often thannot, your promise is an absolute (i.e “I promise I’ll always love you”)， and onlySith deal in absolutes. Instead of making a promise with your words, simply bethere when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions.

總是做承諾邓萨，總是做不到地梨。每次做承諾都是不禁給自己增添了責(zé)任，無(wú)論你的出發(fā)點(diǎn)有多好缔恳，你都不可能完成所有的部分宝剖。大部分時(shí)候，你的承諾都太過(guò)絕對(duì)(比如“我發(fā)誓我永遠(yuǎn)愛(ài)你”)歉甚，也只能在絕對(duì)環(huán)境中才能實(shí)現(xiàn)万细。與其用語(yǔ)言許下承諾，不如在別人需要你的時(shí)候出現(xiàn)纸泄，然后用行動(dòng)達(dá)到他們的期望吧雅镊。

11.Stop Being a Pushover

不要做老好人

We live in a capitalistic society in whicheveryone’s trying to sell us something. Everyone’s looking out for themselvesin one way or another, and you need to do the same. Stop putting yourself outbecause you’re too shy to say no.

我們所處的社會(huì)，每個(gè)人都試圖告知我們一些事情刃滓。每個(gè)人都從不同的角度去找尋著自己仁烹，你也需要，你要做的就是在合適的時(shí)候說(shuō)不咧虎。

12.Stop Listening to Haters

不要聽(tīng)討厭的人說(shuō)話

No matter what you want to do in life,there’s always someone around to tell you why it can’t and won’t work. I cancome up with millions of reasons Twitter won’t work, and yet it’s one of themost popular social media sites on the web. My opinion didn’t stop Twitter’ssuccess any more than it convinced Kobe Bryant to quit the NBA or Josh Hartnettto stop acting. Why would you let someone’s opinion stop you?

無(wú)論你想干什么卓缰，總會(huì)有人告訴你不要這么做，沒(méi)有用的砰诵。我可以想出成百萬(wàn)條推特不實(shí)用的理由征唬，但它還是互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上最流行的社交網(wǎng)站之一。我的想法不會(huì)阻止推特的成功茁彭，就像你無(wú)法勸科比退出NBA或喬什·哈奈特不要當(dāng)演員了一樣总寒，都毫無(wú)意義。那么為什么要讓別人的想法阻止你呢?

13.Stop Being Wasteful

停止浪費(fèi)

You don’t finish your meals,and away food instead. You leave the faucet running when you brush your teeth,pouring precious water down the drain. You drive places you could easily walk,burning gasoline (a non-renewable resource)理肺。 You are wasteful,and it needs to stop.

你飯沒(méi)吃完摄闸，然后扔掉食物;刷牙的時(shí)候還開(kāi)著水龍頭善镰，就讓寶貴的水嘩嘩的流走;明明可以走到的地方你偏要開(kāi)車，燃燒汽油(無(wú)法再生資源)年枕。如果你浪費(fèi)了炫欺，那就趕緊停止這一惡習(xí)。

14.Stop Littering

不要亂扔垃圾

The only thing I hate more than wastefulpeople are litterbugs. Litterbugs are my least favorite bug, and there are morethan you’d think. If you’ve ever thrown even one piece of gum, paper, candywrapper, cigarette butt, etc on the ground, you’re a disgusting litterbug, andyou should be ashamed of yourself. There are over 7 billion people in the world– if each person only throws one “innocent” piece ofgarbage on the ground, that’s 7 billion pieces of garbage littering a world in which nobody “did it”熏兄。

唯一一個(gè)讓我覺(jué)得比浪費(fèi)的人更可惡的就是垃圾蟲(chóng)品洛。垃圾蟲(chóng)最讓我厭惡，而且永遠(yuǎn)多的讓你數(shù)不清摩桶。如果你曾扔過(guò)一塊口香糖桥状，一張紙、糖果包裝硝清、煙蒂辅斟，那么你就是惡心的垃圾蟲(chóng)。你應(yīng)該感到恥辱耍缴。世界上有超過(guò)70億的人——如果每個(gè)人都無(wú)意識(shí)的扔一點(diǎn)垃圾砾肺，那么全世界就會(huì)變成70億垃圾場(chǎng)，哪怕沒(méi)有罪魁禍?zhǔn)住?/p>

Your one decision makes a HUGE difference,and I will not allow you to blow it off and walk around with your head heldhigh. You’re a litterbug, and it needs to stop immediately. You don’t get alifehack for this one, you filthy animal. Just stop – you already know how.

你的一個(gè)決定會(huì)產(chǎn)生深遠(yuǎn)的影響防嗡，我不贊成你去大馬路大聲高呼变汪。如果你是垃圾蟲(chóng)，那么就需要馬上停止了蚁趁，也許不會(huì)救命裙盾，但能讓你不那么惹人厭。停止這一舉動(dòng)吧他嫡，你知道該怎么做的番官。

15.Stop Taking Everything Personally

別把每件事太往心里去

People get offended about the strangestthings. Take Kendrick Lamar’s now-infamous verse on “Control” thissummer: he called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks he’s betterthan (and he’s right)。 The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushedto their mics to record a response. The thing is, all K-Dot said is he’s thebest rapper. Everyone took it personally, and that’s exactly what he was goingfor. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and ifyou’re easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.

人們會(huì)因?yàn)橐恍┢婀值氖虑楦械奖磺址父质簟＞湍肒endrick Lamar這個(gè)夏天備受爭(zhēng)議的歌曲《Control》為例：他在歌詞中挑釁了一些他認(rèn)為比他弱的說(shuō)唱歌手(的確是這樣)徘熔，一石激起千層浪，整個(gè)說(shuō)唱界的歌手都蜂擁錄歌作為回?fù)粝场Ｖ攸c(diǎn)在于酷师，所有的人都認(rèn)為自己是最好的說(shuō)唱者，每個(gè)人都更看重自己染乌，這就是他的目的所在山孔。這件事教給我們的無(wú)非就是不是所有的事都要圍著你轉(zhuǎn)，如果你是玻璃心荷憋，有人會(huì)利用這一點(diǎn)台颠。

16.Stop Talking

不要再說(shuō)話了

Sometimes it’s best to just STFU –especially in relationships. I can’t even count how many times I created anissue that didn’t need to be an issue simply because I opened my mouth. Even ifwhat you want to say is important, just shut up and ride it out. You can saymore with your actions than words, and you can’t listen when you’re talking.

有時(shí)候沉默是金——特別在情侶關(guān)系里。我都記不清到底多少次因?yàn)檎f(shuō)錯(cuò)話引發(fā)了本可以避免的爭(zhēng)端勒庄。即使你想說(shuō)的非常重要串前，那也閉嘴瘫里，自行消化。你可以用行動(dòng)證明一切酪呻，畢竟你自己說(shuō)話的時(shí)候是聽(tīng)不見(jiàn)的减宣。

17.Just Stop, and Breathe…

停一下盐须，深呼吸吧

No matter what you’re doing in life or howyour day is going, there’s always room to just stop for a moment and justbreathe. Try it right now to celebrate getting through this list of everythingyou’re doing wrong.

無(wú)論你現(xiàn)在在干什么玩荠，這一天過(guò)得怎么樣，你都需要好好停一下深呼吸贼邓。不如現(xiàn)在就歇一歇阶冈，犒賞自己總算挺過(guò)了一些錯(cuò)事。