原文：Is Your Personality Flawed? Learn the 7 Ways to Be More Likable
來源：Lifehack
翻譯：叫我NANA就好了
I study great conversationalists for a living. The best conversationalists are all very likable. The reason many people struggle to acquire/maintain friendships, progress through careers, or find romance is often the result of one thing: their personalities are flawed.
The seven most likable personality traits are listed below. As you read each one, honestly assess whether you fall closer to the likable trait or the opposite side of the spectrum.
翻譯：我研究非常健談的人在生活中的樣子，我發(fā)現那些非常健談的人都是非常討喜的人勒庄。許多人為了獲得/保持友誼，通過職業(yè)發(fā)展柠掂，或尋求浪漫的原因往往是因為：他們的個性有缺陷涨颜。
七個最討人喜歡的個性特征如下费韭。當你讀每一個，請誠實地評估下咐低，你是接近討喜的特質還是與之相反揽思。
一、Be Humble/謙卑
Admit your mistakes and don’t brag. Give others credit. Embracing your flaws is disarming. People will warm up to you quickly and more easily identify with you.Don’t be arrogant.
Example: “He’s an amazing artist. I still struggle drawing triangles!”
翻譯：承認你的錯誤见擦，不要吹牛钉汗。誠信待人。接受你的缺陷可以消除敵意鲤屡。人們會更快的與你熟悉起來并且更容易認同你损痰。不要傲慢。
例如：“他真是個了不起的藝術家酒来，而我還在掙扎畫三角形卢未！
二、Be Caring And Unselfish/關心和無私
Care about others and what they are saying, doing, and feeling. Ask follow-up questions, and reference something they said in the past. Share and relate to their feelings.Don’t be cold or self-centered.
Example: “You mentioned last month you were thinking of _____, did you end up doing that?”
翻譯：關注別人的一言一行和感受堰汉，問一些相關的問題辽社，提及他們過去說的一些事情。分享一些同他們感受有關的事情翘鸭。不要冷漠或者以自我為中心滴铅。
例如：你上個月提到你想要做____,你最后做了嗎？
三就乓、Be Positive/積極
Not many people enjoy hanging out withDebbie DownerorEeyore. You increase your odds of being likeable by generally remaining optimistic and looking for the good in life. You will see more good in things simply by trying to see more good. Avoid complaining too much.Don’t be too cynical, negative, or bitter.
Example: “At least we were able to _____.”
翻譯：很多人不喜歡和消極的人一起汉匙。如果你保持樂觀的態(tài)度，你討人喜歡的概率將會增大生蚁，并且你會看到生命中更多美好的事情噩翠，你會更努力看到更多美好的事情。避免抱怨太多邦投。不要太憤世嫉俗伤锚，消極或痛苦。
例如：“至少我們能_____志衣〖郏”
四、Be Enthusiastic/熱情
Give your words and expressions some life! You don’t have to be a cheerleader, but if someone tells you some good news, be excited for them. Put some feeling and energy in your voice. Remember, if you aren’t adding energy, you may be unintentionally subtracting from it.Don’t be an Energy Vampire.
Example: “Iloveyour kitchen… it reminds me of _____.”
翻譯：分享一些你的生活體驗吧蠢涝！你不必要像拉拉隊隊長那樣玄呛，但如果有人告訴你一些好消息，請為他們感到高興和二。讓你的聲音里多一些情感和活力徘铝。記住，如果你無精打采，你可能會在無意中失去活力惕它。不要成為一個吸食你精力的吸血鬼怕午。
例如：“我喜歡你的廚房…這讓我想起了_____⊙推牵”
五郁惜、Be Goal Oriented And Passionate/目標明確，充滿激情
Have direction in life and be able to share your goals. Working towards goals will increase your inner confidence. People are drawn to success and passion. Develop hobbies and passions. Talk about them.Don’t be overly lazy and uninspiring.
Example: “This weekend, I’m volunteering for _____ / running a _____ / trying to build a _____.”
翻譯：有人生的方向甲锡，并分享你的目標兆蕉。朝目標努力會增加你內在的信心。人們被成功和激情所吸引缤沦。培養(yǎng)愛好和激情并和別人談論它們虎韵。不要太懶和，也不要對任何事都不感興趣缸废。
例如：“這個周末包蓝，我志愿為_____ /運行一個_____ /試圖培養(yǎng)一個_____∑罅浚”
六测萎、Be Playful/做一個有趣的人
Lighten up! Humor and playfulness are critical to exceptional conversation, but also the hardest to achieve.For now, don’t be too serious all the time.
Example: “Even if I miss the game, I avoid everyone until I can watch it. I’m actually good at avoiding everyone. If there was a career for professional avoiders, I’d be a very wealthy man by now!”
翻譯：活潑起來！幽默和有趣是一段對話的關鍵届巩，但也是最難達到的硅瞧。從現在開始，不要一直那么嚴肅姆泻。
例如：“即使我錯過了比賽，我也可以回避了每個人冒嫡，直到不得已碰見拇勃。我其實很善于回避每個人。如果有一個職業(yè)是關于專業(yè)躲避人的孝凌，那我現在就是一個非常富有的人了方咆！
七、Be Flexible/靈活
Adapt to changing environments. Don’t turn cranky when something doesn’t go your way. Being flexible means being easy-going and going with the flow of conversation instead of stopping it. Play along with silly jokes.Don’t be rigid or defensive with friends.
Example: “It’s closed? That’s okay, I bet we can find some cool ____ over at _____ too!”
翻譯：適應不斷變化的環(huán)境蟀架。不要因為事情沒有按照你的預期發(fā)展就變得情緒不穩(wěn)定瓣赂。靈活點意味著要隨和，順著對話的進程來而不是打斷它片拍。開一些愚蠢的小玩笑煌集，不要對你的朋友太嚴格，戒備心太重捌省。
例如：“它關閉了嗎苫纤？那好吧，我敢打賭，我們可以找到一些很酷的____在_____太卷拘！“
Did you discover any traits you need to work on? Are there multiple areas for growth? If you aren’t sure, it helps to ask a friend or confidant. Honestly assessing your strengths and weaknesses now is crucial to improving in the future. When I work with my clients, I always start with non-verbal skills and the seven likable traits. Personality traits are easiest to assess, tweak, and evaluate. Spend some time over the next week thinking about these traits as you interact with others. Systematically work on improving one of the seven traits. Notice what happens. Notice how the other person reacts.
翻譯：你發(fā)現其他需要你努力的特質了嗎喊废？是否存在多個成長的空間？如果你不確定的話栗弟，那么去請教你的朋友或知己將會非常有幫助污筷。誠實地評估你的優(yōu)勢和弱勢是至關重要的。當我和我的客戶工作的時候乍赫，我總是從非語言技能和文中提到的那7點特質出發(fā)瓣蛀。性格特征是最容易評估和調整的」⒑福花一些時間思考你跟別人互動時候的這些特質揪惦，全面系統地改進七大特征之一，注意發(fā)生了什么罗侯。注意別人是如何反應的器腋。
If you want to become more likable, you need to emulate the best. Compared to losing weight or getting rich, improving your personality is easy. You just need to try.
