Week 1
寫在最前面滨溉，通過一個(gè)星期的閱讀，主要是發(fā)現(xiàn)自身的問題长赞，意識(shí)到現(xiàn)在存在的不足晦攒。第一步便是“發(fā)現(xiàn)”。很多時(shí)候得哆，我們沒有意識(shí)到自己的問題脯颜，然后繼續(xù)以錯(cuò)誤的方式，不合適的方法贩据，不良好的心態(tài)去學(xué)習(xí)工作栋操，去面對(duì)生活，到頭來發(fā)現(xiàn)效果差強(qiáng)人意乐设，付出的努力卻沒有得到預(yù)想的回報(bào)讼庇。所以好好審視自己，發(fā)現(xiàn)不足近尚，慢慢改進(jìn)吧蠕啄。
Part 1 字詞精選
1.After a few weeks, I fizzle.
Fizzle:(1) to gradually end, often in a disappointing or weak way 逐漸終止，有始無終
e.g. I always make a promise for losing weight, but I fizzle after persistence on a few days.
(2) when sth, especially sth that is burning, fizzles, it makes a sound like a long 's' (火等)發(fā)出嘶嘶聲
e.g. The fire fizzled in the furnace.
2. I feel pressured and hassled all day.
Hassle: to annoy sb or cause them trouble, especially by asking them to do sth many times (不斷)煩擾,麻煩
e.g. The supervisor requires us to revise our paper format again and again, I really feel hassled.
3. I’m eating my heart out.
Eat one’s heart out: (1)to grieve bitterly (2) to be jealous
我認(rèn)為文章的中意思是第二種，前面提到看到親朋好友取得成就或得到認(rèn)可時(shí)歼跟，我表面上是微笑的衷心祝賀他們和媳，但其實(shí)內(nèi)心嫉妒不已，很不是滋味哈街。
e.g. I have this kind of feeling that every time when my roommates do something better than me such as gaining the first class scholarship, I smile and congratulate them enthusiastically, but inside, I’m eating my heart out. Fortunately, I am aware it and try to overcome this shortcoming.
4. My marriage has gone flat.
這里的has gone flat用得很形象留瞳，把“我”的婚姻形同虛設(shè)，毫無意義都表現(xiàn)出來了骚秦。這讓我想到我最近學(xué)到的一個(gè)短語她倘，也是描述婚姻關(guān)系的，on the rocks,即a relationship or business that is on the rocks is having difficulties and is likely to fail soon作箍。
e.g. His marriage is on the rocks.
5. He was doing poorly academically.
這個(gè)句子我認(rèn)為是寫得漂亮地道的硬梁，當(dāng)說一個(gè)人學(xué)習(xí)不好的時(shí)候，我可能只會(huì)想到He does not do well in study, or he gets a low grade.所以這個(gè)句子讓我學(xué)習(xí)到新的更好的用法胞得。
6. Now I was becoming exasperated.
Exasperate: to annoy or irritate sb very much使煩惱荧止；使惱怒；激怒
e.g. Being bombarded with boring questions by somebody, I was exasperated.
7. For my fourth attempt, I resorted to fear and threat.
Resort: V. (1)to make use of sth, especially sth bad, as a means of achieving sth, often because there is no other possible solution 訴諸阶剑；求助于跃巡；依靠
e.g. I felt obliged to resort to violence to get my money back.
N. (2) a place where a lot of people go on holiday / vacation 旅游勝地；度假勝地:
e.g. In summer, people always go to a seaside resort to take their vacations.
8. It says if you want to have a happy marriage, be the kind of person who generates positive energy and sidesteps negative energy rather than empowering it.
Sidesteps: to avoid answering a question or dealing with a problem回避,規(guī)避(問題等)
e.g. As we can see, a great number of stars always neatly sidestep the questions that people want to know.
9. And for a while we can get by with it----at least in public.
Get by (with sth): to manage to live or do a particular thing using the money, knowledge, equipment, etc. that you have
e.g. After learning French for three months, I can get by with it.
10.? I've seen unhappy marriages where each spouse wants the other to change, where each is confessing the other's "sins," where each is trying to shape up the other.
Shape up: to improve your behaviour or your work
e.g. My mother warned me to shape up, otherwise I could not go to play games.
11. Nevertheless, the current social paradigm enthrones independence.
Enthrone: if an idea is enthroned, it has an important place in people's life or thoughts. 尊崇;推崇
e.g. Many people enthrone a simple way of life.
12. If necessary, yell at them, intimidate them, insist on your way.
Intimidate: to frighten or threaten someone, usually in order to persuade them to do something that you want them to do 恫嚇牧愁，恐嚇
e.g. When your children are not obedient to your wishes, you should not intimidate them into achieving your goals.
13. It was the serendipitous fruit of a PC investment.
Serendipitous: A serendipitous event is one that is not planned but has a good result. 偶然發(fā)生的;有意外收獲的
e.g. It was a serendipitous discovery for me to encounter Eric’s public accounts, which I could benefit a lot.
14. The production is phenomenal, costs are down, and profits skyrocket.
Phenomenal: extremely successful or special, especially in a surprising way 非凡的素邪，杰出的
e.g. The performance of Thousand-Hand Kwan-yin has been absolutely phenomenal.
15. If I were intellectually dependent, I would count on you to do my thinking for me, to think through the issue and problems of my life.
Count on: If you count on someone or count upon them, you rely on them to support you or help you. 指望;依靠;依賴
e.g.The only one you can count on is yourself.
16. His basic identity was intact.
Intact：Something that is intact is complete and has not been damaged or changed.完整無缺的;未受損傷的
e.g. In order to keep their reputation intact, the stars cannot do the illegal things such as drug abuse and tax evasion.
17. It isn't a function of whether the weather is conducive to it or not.
Conducive: providing the right conditions for something good to happen or exist 有利的，有助的递宅，有益的
e.g.? Reading is conducive to broaden our horizons and understand the world better.
18. He constantly harps at me and finds fault with everything I do.
Harp：to keep talking about sth in a boring or annoying way喋喋不休地談?wù)撃锵悖粐Z叨
e.g.? Do not always harp on what you want to do, just take action.
19. These visions are disjointed and out of proportion.
Out of proportion:? if a reaction or result is out of all proportion, it is too strong or serious for the thing or situation that has caused it.
e.g. Her head is out of proportion to the size of her body.
這樣我想到了Blow things out of proportion夸大事實(shí)（這個(gè)短語在美國描述媒體時(shí)常用）
e.g. The media may be blowing it up out of proportion.
Part 2 中文感悟
From day 1 to day 4
1. I've started a new diet -- for the fifth time this year. I know I'm overweight, and I really want to change. I read all the new information, I set goals, I get myself all psyched up with a positive mental attitude and tell myself I can do it. But I don't. After a few weeks, I fizzle. I just can't seem to keep a promise I make to myself.
看到這一段時(shí)，我自己也有切身的體會(huì)办龄，我一直想改變現(xiàn)狀烘绽，想多看幾本書，練好口語俐填，多去跑步鍛煉身體等等安接，并且一直都有設(shè)定目標(biāo)與計(jì)劃。但我總會(huì)被這樣或那樣的事情所牽絆英融，堅(jiān)持幾天盏檐，就開始完成不了任務(wù)。我似乎對(duì)自己的承諾沒有當(dāng)做一定要履行的事情驶悟，沒有完成就會(huì)懊惱一兩天胡野，然后不了了之。
2. 今天看完part one痕鳍，最大的感觸就是硫豆，單詞大部分都懂龙巨，可是就是不能很好的理解文章的內(nèi)容，不能內(nèi)化成自己的見解熊响，我能明白文章大部分內(nèi)容旨别，但不深刻，也不透徹汗茄。我想應(yīng)該多讀幾遍秸弛，好好體會(huì)，自己平時(shí)習(xí)慣閱讀太快了洪碳，所以思維還跟不上翻書的速度递览，anyway, I will keep it up.
3.And what we see is highly interrelated to what we are. We can't go very far to change our seeing without simultaneously changing our being, and vice versa.
看到這句的時(shí)候，還是挺有感觸的瞳腌，我們所看到非迹，所理解的總與我們是什么樣的人息息相關(guān)，比如說一個(gè)和悲觀的人纯趋，他會(huì)總是對(duì)各種各樣的事情不滿意，抱以消極的看法冷离。只有改變他自身的態(tài)度吵冒，自身悲觀的性格特征，他才能看到不一樣的世界西剥。
4.It says if you want to have a happy marriage, be the kind of person who generates positive energy and sidesteps negative energy rather than empowering it. If you want to have a more pleasant, cooperative teenager, be a more understanding, empathic, consistent, loving parent. If you want to have more freedom, more latitude in your job, be a more responsible, a more helpful, a more contributing employee. If you want to be trusted, be trustworthy. If you want the secondary greatness of recognized talent, focus first on primary greatness of character.
這一段真的讓自己挺有感觸的痹栖，如果想要擁有好的婚姻，快樂合作的孩子瞭空，更多的自由揪阿，被信任等等，那么就從自己開始做起咆畏，而不是去期待別人為你做這些南捂，為你而改變。被動(dòng)等待不如主動(dòng)改變旧找，從自己開始溺健，改變心態(tài)，改變不好的地方钮蛛，只有這樣自己才會(huì)獲得想要的鞭缭，擁有更好的。
5.For our purposes, we will define a habit as the intersection of knowledge, skill, and desire.? Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and the why. Skill is the how to do. And desire is the motivation, the want to do. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three.
我現(xiàn)在終于明白我想養(yǎng)成一些良好的習(xí)慣魏颓，但總是被這樣過那樣的借口所擱淺的原因岭辣。如堅(jiān)持跑步，做仰臥起坐甸饱，看多一點(diǎn)書沦童，不要把太多的時(shí)間消磨在玩手機(jī)和看綜藝節(jié)目上，因?yàn)槲蚁霌碛薪】档耐昝赖捏w魄，想開闊自己的知識(shí)面搞动，在書里去游覽沒有到過的地方躏精，去體驗(yàn)不同的風(fēng)俗文化，去發(fā)現(xiàn)真實(shí)的自己(這就是knowledge)鹦肿。而且我知道該怎么做矗烛，去足球場跑跑，拿起瑜伽墊就可以做箩溃，翻起一本書瞭吃，放下手機(jī)，安定下來就可以在書里遨游(這便是skill), 但我缺乏的便是desire, 堅(jiān)持下去的動(dòng)力涣旨，我只是表面想改變歪架，想養(yǎng)成習(xí)慣，當(dāng)完成不了時(shí)總對(duì)自己說我沒有時(shí)間霹陡，所以做不了和蚪。但實(shí)際上是我的內(nèi)心并沒有這樣的動(dòng)力，這樣的強(qiáng)烈念想去改變烹棉，所以我總是三天打魚兩天曬網(wǎng)攒霹。就如平時(shí)所說的道理全都懂，但是就不是想去改變浆洗，因?yàn)闆]有一個(gè)desire去驅(qū)使自己改變催束。所以我要做便是找到自己的desire，才能夠堅(jiān)持下去伏社，才不被任何的理由所打敗抠刺。
6.Life is, by nature, highly interdependent. To try to achieve maximum effectiveness through independence is like trying to play tennis with a golf club -- the tool is not suited to the reality.
我一直認(rèn)為做一個(gè)獨(dú)立自主的人就足夠了，這樣的想法有點(diǎn)類似于各自掃門前雪摘昌，不管他人瓦上霜速妖，可是當(dāng)看到interdependence時(shí)，我就知道遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)不夠了聪黎，人與人之間是相互依存的买优，我們總要與他人交流，合作等等挺举，我們不可能完全獨(dú)立于人之外杀赢，活在自己狹窄的世界里，那樣最終也是被這個(gè)世界所遺棄的湘纵。
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我發(fā)現(xiàn)自己就是reactive person, 很容易受周圍的環(huán)境與別人的觀點(diǎn)影響脂崔。比如說，我不太喜歡下雨天梧喷，特別是那種綿綿細(xì)雨砌左，一下就是半個(gè)月脖咐，那種潮濕，那種給生話帶來的不便之感汇歹，讓我不適屁擅，影響自己的心情，真的很郁悶产弹。還有我曾經(jīng)很在乎別人對(duì)我的看法派歌，對(duì)自己的評(píng)價(jià)，我可能是打心里想給別人好的印象痰哨，對(duì)我有好感胶果，所以很輕易因?yàn)閯e人一句話，一個(gè)眼神就敏感起來了斤斧，而且那樣子真的會(huì)很累早抠，要不斷的去迎合甚至是討好，才能做到讓別人滿意撬讽。后來有一天也許開竅了蕊连，發(fā)現(xiàn)無論你怎么做，做的再好游昼，總會(huì)有人不喜歡你咪奖，那又何苦去熱臉貼冷屁股，吃力不討好呢酱床。所以我有在慢慢改進(jìn)，但我還達(dá)不到proactive person, 因?yàn)槲疫€不能主宰自己的“天氣” 趟佃。一步步來咯扇谣，慢慢變得強(qiáng)大，終有一天也會(huì)是proactive person.
Part 3 Accumulating good sentences
1.There is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living.
要好好思考自己想要什么樣的人生闲昭，是否是有意義的罐寨，正確的，能否給自己帶來無限的興趣與激情的序矩，唯有這樣鸯绿，才能活出卓越吧。
2.A thousand mile journey begins with the first step.
千里之行簸淀，始于足下
每天腳踏實(shí)地的做好每一件事情瓶蝴，進(jìn)步一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)，不好高騖遠(yuǎn)租幕，空想不干舷手，keep it up
3.That which we obtain too easily, we esteem too lightly.
太輕易得到總是不珍惜。
4.No one can hurt you without your consent.
這句話讓我思考頗多劲绪，“沒有你的允許任何人都不能傷害你"男窟。平時(shí)總覺得受到了傷害盆赤，那是因?yàn)闆]有意識(shí)到自己打心里給了別人傷害自己的權(quán)利。
Part 4 Summary
From Inside-Out to Be Proactive
At the very first of the beginning, the author has a list of deep and painful problems that most of us have encountered, which creates our empathy. But how to solve these problems?
The author firstly proposes the power of a paradigm and paradigm shift. Paradigm is the way we “see” the world----not in the terms of our visual sense of sight, but in terms of perceiving, understanding, and interpreting. Everyone has his own paradigm----our ways of viewing and comprehending the society and the world, which distinguishes us from others. But sometimes our paradigms are not always on the right way such as having prejudice against others and falling from grace. Therefore it is necessary for us to shift our paradigms-----to break our ways of thinking and form a new level one and mould a new and right value.
Secondly, the author makes the definition of habits clear before we form a habit so that we are able to know what exactly habits mean and form them effectively. Habits include three aspects: knowledge (the what to do and the why), skill (the how to do) and desire (the motivation). Lack of one of them will not foster a habit. The most important thing is to find out our desires so as to have ample power to insist in. In addition, the author advocates that it is crucial for us achieve the transformations from dependence to independence to interdependence. Consequently, we can have the strong muscle to form helpful habits.
At last, the author proposes the habit 1----be proactive which means that as human beings, we are responsible for our own lives; our behavior is a function of our decisions, not conditions; we can subordinate feelings to values; we have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen. However it is not easy to be proactive because most of us are reactive persons affected by social environment and feelings. Take myself for example: I don’t like raining days, which easily makes me feel melancholy. This typically shows that reactive people is susceptible to environment. However, in order to become better and better, it is high time for us to be proactive. For one thing, we need to take the initiative, recognizing our responsibility to make things happen and being driven by our value not feelings. For another, focusing on and expanding the circle of influence are essential. We can turn shortcomings into merits rather than complaining and waiting all the time when we focus on the circle of influence. Besides, we are not ““the have’s” but “the be’s” so that we have aspiration to make and keep commitments.
? ? In short, we need to take actions from inside-out and be proactive to change the terrible situation and become the person we want.
