The Math of Love 4

Okay, so that was Top Tip #2.

Now, Top Tip #3: How to avoid divorce.

Okay, so let's imagine then that you picked your perfect partner and you're settling into a lifelong relationship with them.

ps:好吧菠红，那么讓我們想象一下窍侧，你選擇了你的完美伴侶堂淡，你正與他們建立一種終生的關(guān)系。

imagine想象;?設(shè)想;?誤以為;?胡亂猜想;?猜測;?料想;?認(rèn)為

picked選擇;?挑選;?采;?摘;?摘掉享怀，剔除豆同，掐去;?pick的過去分詞和過去式

perfect完備的;?完美的;?完全的;?完全正確的;?準(zhǔn)確的;?地道的;?優(yōu)秀的;?最佳的;?使完善;?使完美;?使完備;?完成時(shí)

partner配偶;?性伴侶;?合伙人;?搭檔;?同伴;?舞伴;?結(jié)成伙伴施敢，做搭檔，配對

settling結(jié)束;?解決;?決定舱殿，確定，安排好;?定居;?settle的現(xiàn)在分詞;?沉淀物

lifelong終身的;?畢生的

relationship關(guān)系险掀，聯(lián)系;?情愛關(guān)系;?性愛關(guān)系;?關(guān)聯(lián)沪袭，關(guān)系

them他們;?她們;?它們;?指性別不詳?shù)娜藭r(shí)，用以代替him或her

Now, I like to think that everybody would ideally like to avoid divorce, apart from, I don't know, Piers Morgan's wife, maybe?

ps:現(xiàn)在樟氢，我想每個(gè)人都希望避免離婚冈绊，除了，我不知道埠啃，皮爾斯摩根的妻子死宣，也許？

think認(rèn)為;?以為;?想;?思考;?思索;?思想;?琢磨;?想法

everybody同 everyone;?每個(gè)人;?所有人;?人們

ideally作為理想的做法;?合乎理想地;?最適合地;?絕好地;?完美地

avoid避免;?防止;?回避;?避開;?躲避;?避免撞到

divorce離婚的男子;?離婚;?分離;?脫離;?與離婚;?判離婚;?使分離;?使脫離

apart from除了…外;?要不是;?此外;?加之

know知道;?知悉;?了解;?認(rèn)識到;?懂得;?意識到;?確信;?確知;?肯定

wife妻子;?太太;?夫人;?已婚婦女

maybe大概碴开，或許毅该，可能;?或許，也許;?或許

But it's a sad fact of modern life that1 in 2 marriages in the States ends in divorce, with the rest of the world not being far behind.

ps:但現(xiàn)代生活中的一個(gè)悲哀的事實(shí)是潦牛，美國每2對婚姻中就有1對以離婚告終眶掌，而世界上其他國家的離婚率并不遠(yuǎn)。

sad悲哀的;?難過的;?顯得悲哀的;?令人悲哀的;?讓人難過的;?讓人無法接受的;?該受責(zé)備的

fact現(xiàn)實(shí);?實(shí)際情況;?事實(shí)巴碗，真相;?真實(shí)的事物;?真實(shí)情況

modern現(xiàn)代的;?當(dāng)代的;?近代的;?新式的;?有別于傳統(tǒng)的;?時(shí)新的;?現(xiàn)代化的;?最新的;?現(xiàn)代人;?現(xiàn)代主義者;?時(shí)髦人士;?現(xiàn)代字體;?指印刷中所用的一種字體

marriages結(jié)婚;?婚姻;?婚姻生活;?已婚狀態(tài);?婚禮;?marriage的復(fù)數(shù)

States美國;?狀態(tài);?狀況

ends終止朴爬，終結(jié)，結(jié)局橡淆，結(jié)尾;?末端;?盡頭;?末梢;?結(jié)束;?破滅;?終止;?end的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

divorce離婚的男子;?離婚;?分離;?脫離;?與離婚;?判離婚;?使分離;?使脫離

rest剩余部分;?殘留;?其余;?其余的人;?其他事物;?其他;?休息時(shí)間;?睡眠時(shí)間;?休息;?放松;?支撐;?倚靠;?托;?被擱置;?中止

being存在;?生存;?生物;?思想感情;?身心;?are的現(xiàn)在分詞;?be的現(xiàn)在分

Now, you can be forgiven, perhaps for thinking that the arguments that precede?a marital breakup are not an ideal candidate?for mathematical investigation.

ps:現(xiàn)在召噩，你可以原諒，也許是因?yàn)槟阏J(rèn)為婚姻破裂前的爭論不是數(shù)學(xué)研究的理想人選逸爵。

forgiven原諒;?寬恕;?對不起;?請?jiān)??免除;?forgive的過去分詞

perhaps可能;?大概;?也許;?或許;?假定;?猜想;?未定之事

thinking思想;?思考;?思維;?想法;?見解;?思想的;?有理智的;?有思考力的;?認(rèn)為;?以為;?想;?思索;?琢磨;?think的現(xiàn)在分詞

arguments爭論;?爭吵;?爭辯;?辯論;?論據(jù);?理由;?論點(diǎn);?argument的復(fù)數(shù)

precede在…之前發(fā)生;?先于;?走在…前面

marital婚姻的;?夫妻關(guān)系的

breakup破裂蚣常，終結(jié);?分裂，解體

ideal candidate理想人選

mathematical數(shù)學(xué)的;?數(shù)學(xué)的;運(yùn)算能力強(qiáng)的

investigation調(diào)查痊银，偵查;?科學(xué)研究;?學(xué)術(shù)研究

For one thing, it's very hard to know what you should?be measuring or what you should be quantifying.

ps:首先抵蚊，很難知道你應(yīng)該測量什么或者你應(yīng)該量化什么。

very hard非常困難

know知道;?知悉;?了解;?認(rèn)識到;?懂得;?意識到;?確信;?確知;?肯定

what什么;?…的事物;?無論什么;?凡是…的事物;?多么;?真;?太

you should你應(yīng)該;?你應(yīng)該要;?翻閱字典查查這個(gè)生詞

measuring測量用的;?測量;?度量;?量度為;?估量，判定;?measure的現(xiàn)在分詞

should應(yīng)該贞绳，應(yīng)當(dāng);?該谷醉，可以;?應(yīng)該會，可能

quantifying以數(shù)量表述;?量化;?quantify的現(xiàn)在分詞

But this didn't stop a psychologist, John Gottman, who did exactly that.

ps:但這并沒有阻止心理學(xué)家約翰·戈特曼冈闭，他確實(shí)做到了俱尼。

stop停止，停下;?中斷萎攒，停止;?結(jié)束遇八，終止;?停止;?終止;?停留;?阻止;?車站;?音管

psychologist心理學(xué)家;?心理學(xué)研究者

John約翰（Augustus，1878—1961耍休，英國油畫家刃永，版畫家，以肖像畫著稱）;?廁所;?茅房

who誰羊精，什么人;?表示所指的人;?進(jìn)一步提供有關(guān)某人的信息

exactly精確地;?準(zhǔn)確地;?確切地;?究竟斯够，到底;?一點(diǎn)不錯(cuò)，正是如此喧锦，完全正確

Gottman observed hundreds of couples having a conversation and recorded, well , everything you can think of.

ps:戈特曼觀察了成百上千對情侶的談話读规，記錄下了你能想到的一切。

observed看到;?注意到;?觀察到;?觀察;?注視;?監(jiān)視;?說話;?評論;?observe的過去分詞和過去式

hundreds of好幾百

couples兩人;?兩件事物;?幾個(gè)人;?幾件事物;?一對;?夫妻燃少，情侶;?連接束亏，結(jié)合;?性交;?交配;?couple的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

having有;?持有;?占有;?由…組成;?顯示出，帶有;?have的現(xiàn)在分詞

conversation交談阵具，談話

recorded記錄;?記載;?錄制;?錄;?演奏音樂供錄制;?灌;?record的過去分詞和過去式

well好;?對;?令人滿意地;?完全地;?徹底地;?全部地;?很;?相當(dāng);?大大地;?遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)地;?健康;?身體好;?狀態(tài)良好;?情況良好;?明智;?可取;?好主意;?哎呀枪汪，喲，啊怔昨，好啦;?唉雀久，好吧;?嗯;?井;?水井;?樓梯井;?電梯井道;?律師席;?涌出;?冒出;?流出;?溢出;?涌起;?迸發(fā)

think of想起

So he recorded what was said in the conversation, he recorded their skin conductivity, he recorded their facial expressions, their heart rates, their blood pressure, basically everything apart from whether or not the wife was actually always right, which incidentally she totally is.

ps:所以他記錄了談話內(nèi)容，記錄了他們的皮膚傳導(dǎo)性趁舀，記錄了他們的面部表情赖捌，心率，血壓矮烹，基本上除了妻子是否總是正確之外的一切越庇，順便說一下，她完全正確奉狈。

recorded記錄;?記載;?錄制;?錄;?演奏音樂供錄制;?灌;?record的過去分詞和過去式

conversation交談卤唉，談話

conductivity傳導(dǎo)率；導(dǎo)電率

expressions表示;?表達(dá);?表露;?表情;?神色;?詞語;?措辭;?表達(dá)方式;?expression的復(fù)數(shù)

blood pressure血壓

apart from除了…外;?要不是;?此外;?加之

whether or not是否

incidentally順便提一句;?偶然;?附帶地

totally完全;?全部地;?整個(gè)地

But what Gottman found or his team found was that one of the most important predictors for whether or not a couple is going to get divorced was how positive or negative each partner was being in the conversation.

ps:但Gottman或他的團(tuán)隊(duì)發(fā)現(xiàn)仁期，對于一對夫婦是否離婚桑驱，最重要的預(yù)測因素之一是雙方在談話中的積極或消極程度竭恬。

one of…之一

most important重要的;?有重大影響的;?有巨大價(jià)值的;?影響很大的;?權(quán)威的;?important的最高級

predictors預(yù)測器;?預(yù)示物;?predictor的復(fù)數(shù)

whether or not是否

a couple一對;?一對夫婦;?這里可不是指一對夫婦

divorced離婚的;?離異的;?表現(xiàn)得不受影響的;?脫離…的;?與離婚;?判離婚;?使分離;?使脫離;?divorce的過去分詞和過去式

negative壞的;?有害的;?消極的;?負(fù)面的;?缺乏熱情的;?否定的;?否定詞;?否定;?拒絕;?底片;?負(fù)片;?屬陰性的結(jié)果;?否定…的真實(shí)性;?證偽

partner配偶;?性伴侶;?合伙人;?搭檔;?同伴;?舞伴;?結(jié)成伙伴，做搭檔熬的，配對

conversation交談痊硕，談話

Questions:

1.according to?John Gottman's research ,what is predictor of divorce?

how positive or negative a couple is in conversation.

2.what does ?Fry's third tip address ?

making your marriage last.

3.to quantify something means? to give it a numerical measurement.

4.How was John Gottman's research relevant to the theme of the talk?

It shows that even something as complex as a marriage can be evaluated with math.

5.To precede something means?to come before it.

6.why might be difficult mathematical's research conversation's arguments?

it's difficult to know what to measure and quantify.

Put the sentences into correct order:

Now, you can be forgiven, perhaps for thinking that the arguments that precede?a marital breakup are not an ideal candidate?for mathematical investigation.For one thing, it's very hard to know what you should?be measuring or what you should be quantifying.But this didn't stop a psychologist, John Gottman, who did exactly that. Gottman observed hundreds of couples having a conversation and recorded, well , everything you can think of.

Fill in the blanks:

Now, you can be forgiven, perhaps for thinking that the arguments that precede a marital breakup are not an ideal candidate for mathematical investigation. For one thing, it's very hard to know what you should be measuring or what you should be quantifying.

Now, couples that were very low-risk scored a lot more positive points on Gottman's scale than negative.

ps:現(xiàn)在，那些非常低風(fēng)險(xiǎn)的夫婦在Gottman的量表上得到的正面分?jǐn)?shù)要比負(fù)面分?jǐn)?shù)高得多押框。

Now現(xiàn)在;?目前;?此刻;?從現(xiàn)在開始;?表示厭煩;?既然;?由于

couples兩人;?兩件事物;?幾個(gè)人;?幾件事物;?一對;?夫妻岔绸，情侶;?連接，結(jié)合;?性交;?交配;?couple的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

werebe 的過去時(shí)復(fù)數(shù)和第二人稱單數(shù)形式;?有時(shí)代替 was橡伞，用于條件從句盒揉、動詞 wish 之后等

very很，非常兑徘，十分刚盈，極;?(強(qiáng)調(diào)形容詞最高級或置于own前)完全，十足;?完全同樣;?完全同一;?正是的道媚，恰好的，同一的;?最…的翘县，極端的最域，十足的;?僅僅的，唯獨(dú)的锈麸，甚至于

scored得分;?記分;?score的過去分詞和過去式

positive積極樂觀的;?自信的;?積極的;?建設(shè)性的;?朝著成功的;?表示贊同的;?擁護(hù)的;?優(yōu)勢;?優(yōu)點(diǎn);?正片;?陽性結(jié)果

points論點(diǎn);?觀點(diǎn);?見解;?重點(diǎn);?要點(diǎn);?核心問題;?意圖;?目的;?理由;?指镀脂，指向;?瞄準(zhǔn);?對著;?朝向;?point的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

scale規(guī)模，范圍忘伞，程度;?等級;?級別;?等級體系;?攀登;?到達(dá)…頂點(diǎn);?去鱗;?刮除牙石

negative壞的;?有害的;?消極的;?負(fù)面的;?缺乏熱情的;?否定的;?否定詞;?否定;?拒絕;?底片;?負(fù)片;?屬陰

Whereas bad relationships, by which I mean, probably going to get divorced, they found themselves getting into a spiral of negativity.

ps:而糟糕的關(guān)系薄翅，我的意思是，可能會離婚氓奈，他們發(fā)現(xiàn)自己進(jìn)入了一個(gè)消極的螺旋翘魄。

Whereas然而，但是舀奶，盡管;?鑒于;?“鑒于…”：正式文件的介紹性陳述;?開場白;?條件性陳述

bad令人不快的;?問題成堆的;?壞的;?質(zhì)量差的;?不合格的;?拙于;?不擅;?不善于;?壞人;?壞事;?很;?非常

relationships關(guān)系暑竟，聯(lián)系;?情愛關(guān)系;?性愛關(guān)系;?關(guān)聯(lián)，關(guān)系;?relationship的復(fù)數(shù)

mean表示…的意思;?意思是;?本意是;?打算;?意欲;?有…的目的;?吝嗇的;?小氣的;?不善良;?刻薄;?要發(fā)怒的;?要發(fā)狂的;?中間;?中庸;?折中;?平均數(shù);?平均值;?算術(shù)中項(xiàng)

probably幾乎肯定;?很可能;?大概

divorced離婚的;?離異的;?表現(xiàn)得不受影響的;?脫離…的;?與離婚;?判離婚;?使分離;?使脫離;?divorce的過去分詞和過去式

themselves他們自己;?她們自己;?它們自己;?(用以強(qiáng)調(diào)they或復(fù)數(shù)主語)他們親自育勺，他們本身;?指性別不詳?shù)娜藭r(shí)但荤，用以代替himself或herself;?herself的復(fù)數(shù)

getting獲得；得益;?收到;?接到;?獲得;?得到;?掙得;?get的現(xiàn)在分詞

spiral螺旋形;?螺旋式;?逐漸加速上升;?螺旋形的;?螺旋式的;?螺旋式上升;?盤旋上升;?急劇增長

negativity否定性;?消極性

Now just by using these very simple ideas, Gottman and his group were able to predict whether a given couple was going to get divorced with a 90 percent accuracy.

ps:現(xiàn)在涧至，通過使用這些非常簡單的想法腹躁，戈特曼和他的團(tuán)隊(duì)能夠以90%的準(zhǔn)確率預(yù)測一對夫婦是否會離婚。

ideas想法;?構(gòu)思;?主意;?印象;?概念;?意見;?看法;?信念;?idea的復(fù)數(shù)

able to可以;?有能力;?原來能夠按時(shí)完成

predict預(yù)言;?預(yù)告;?預(yù)報(bào)

whether是否;?是…南蓬，或者…纺非，不管…

given已經(jīng)安排好的;?規(guī)定的;?指定的;?所述的;?特定的;?考慮到;?鑒于;?假設(shè)事實(shí);?給;?交給;?贈送;?贈與;?送給;?提供哑了，供給，供應(yīng);?give的過去分詞

couple兩人;?兩件事物;?幾個(gè)人;?幾件事物;?一對;?夫妻铐炫，情侶;?連接垒手，結(jié)合;?性交;?交配

going離去;?去;?離開;?進(jìn)展速度;?難度;?地面狀況;?常去…的;?走;?移動，旅行倒信，行走;?go的現(xiàn)在分詞

divorced離婚的;?離異的;?表現(xiàn)得不受影響的;?脫離…的;?與離婚;?判離婚;?使分離;?使脫離;?divorce的過去分詞和過去式

percent百分之…

accuracy準(zhǔn)確;?精確

But it wasn't until he teamed up with a mathematician, James Murray, that they really started to understand what causes these negativity spirals and how they occur.

ps:但直到他和一位數(shù)學(xué)家詹姆斯默里合作科贬，他們才真正開始了解是什么導(dǎo)致了這些負(fù)性螺旋以及它們是如何發(fā)生的。

teamed使互相配合;?使協(xié)作;?使合作;?team的過去分詞和過去式

mathematician數(shù)學(xué)家

Murray默里鳖悠，吉爾伯特（1866—1957榜掌，澳大利亞出生的英國古典研究學(xué)者，對古希臘戲劇的翻譯重新喚起了對這一劇種的興趣乘综，是國際聯(lián)盟的創(chuàng)始人之一憎账，后曾擔(dān)任聯(lián)合國共同主席）;?墨累河

causes原因;?起因;?理由;?動機(jī);?緣故;?事業(yè)，目標(biāo)卡辰，思想;?使發(fā)生;?造成;?引起;?導(dǎo)致;?cause的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

negativity否定性;?消極性

spirals螺旋形;?螺旋式;?逐漸加速上升;?螺旋式上升;?盤旋上升;?急劇增長;?spiral的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

and how<美>非常胞皱，很

occur發(fā)生;?出現(xiàn);?存在于;?出現(xiàn)在

And the results that they found I think are just incredibly impressively simple and interesting.

ps:我認(rèn)為他們發(fā)現(xiàn)的結(jié)果非常簡單有趣。

results后果;?結(jié)果;?勝利九妈，勝局;?發(fā)生;?產(chǎn)生;?result的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

found創(chuàng)建反砌，創(chuàng)辦;?建立，興建;?把…基于;?把…建立在;?find的過去分詞和過去式

think認(rèn)為;?以為;?想;?思考;?思索;?思想;?琢磨;?想法

just正好;?恰好;?正當(dāng)…時(shí);?不少于;?同樣;?公正的;?正義的;?正當(dāng)?shù)??合理的;?正直的人;?公正的人;?合適的;?恰當(dāng)?shù)?/p>

incredibly極端地;?極其;?令人難以置信

impressively令人難忘地;?感人地

simple易于理解的;?易做的;?簡單的;?樸素的;?簡樸的;?不加裝飾的;?純粹的萌朱，完全的宴树，不折不扣的

interesting有趣的;?有吸引力的;?使感興趣;?使關(guān)注;?interest的現(xiàn)在分詞

So these equations, they predict how the wife or husband is going to respond in their next turn of the conversation, how positive or negative they're going to be.

And these equations, they depend on the mood of the person when they're on their own, the mood of the person when they're with their partner, but most importantly, they depend on how much the husband and wife influence one another.

ps:而這些方程式，取決于一個(gè)人獨(dú)處時(shí)的心情晶疼，和另一半在一起時(shí)的心情酒贬，但最重要的是，取決于夫妻之間相互影響的程度翠霍。

And these形形色色

equations方程;?方程式;?等式;?相等;?等同看待;?平衡锭吨，綜合體;?equation的復(fù)數(shù)

depend on依賴，依靠depend on（upon）不用于進(jìn)行體寒匙。;?相信耐齐；信賴;?隨…而定depend on（upon）作此解時(shí)，不用于被動結(jié)構(gòu)蒋情，也不用于進(jìn)行體埠况。

mood情緒;?心情;?壞心境;?壞脾氣;?氣氛;?氛圍

on their own獨(dú)立地

importantly重要地

depend取決;有賴;?依靠;依賴;?指望;信賴

how much多少

husband and wife夫婦

one another互相

Now, I think it's important to point?out at this stage, that these exact equations?have also been shown?to be perfectly able?at describing what happens between two countries in an arms race.?

ps:現(xiàn)在，我認(rèn)為在這個(gè)階段必須指出的是棵癣，這些精確的等式也被證明完全能夠描述在軍備競賽中兩國之間發(fā)生的事情辕翰。

think認(rèn)為;?以為;?想;?思考;?思索;?思想;?琢磨;?想法

point out指點(diǎn);?指明;?指出，說出

shown表明;?證明;?給…看;?出示;?展示;?教狈谊，解說;?演示;?show的過去分詞

perfectly完全地;?非常;?十分;?完美地;?完好地;?圓滿地

able能;?能夠;?有才智的;?有才能的;?擅長的

describing描述;?形容;?把…稱為;?做…運(yùn)動;?畫出…圖形;?形成…形狀;?describe的現(xiàn)在分詞

happens發(fā)生喜命，出現(xiàn);?出現(xiàn)沟沙，發(fā)生;?碰巧;?恰好;?happen的第三人稱單數(shù)

countries國;?國家;?地區(qū)，區(qū)域;?全國人民;?國民;?全民;?country的復(fù)數(shù)

arms race軍備競賽

So that an arguing couple spiraling into negativity and teetering on the brink of divorce is actually mathematically equivalent to the beginning of a nuclear war.?

ps:因此壁榕，一對爭吵不休的夫婦陷入消極狀態(tài)矛紫，搖搖欲墜地走向離婚邊緣，實(shí)際上在數(shù)學(xué)上等同于核戰(zhàn)爭的開始牌里。

So that因此;?以便

arguing爭論;?爭吵;?爭辯;?論證;?說理;?證明;?表明;?argue的現(xiàn)在分詞

spiraling盤旋上升

negativity否定性;?消極性

teetering搖晃;?蹣跚行走;?踉蹌;?搖搖欲墜;?teeter的現(xiàn)在分詞

divorce離婚的男子;?離婚;?分離;?脫離;?與離婚;?判離婚;?使分離;?使脫離

mathematically算術(shù)地

nuclear war核戰(zhàn)爭

equivalent英 [??kw?v?l?nt] 美 [??kw?v?l?nt] adj.(價(jià)值颊咬、數(shù)量、意義牡辽、重要性等)相等的喳篇，相同的n.相等的東西;等量;對應(yīng)詞

But the really important term in this equation is the influence that people have on one another, and in particular, something called the negativity threshold.

ps:但這個(gè)等式中真正重要的術(shù)語是人們對彼此的影響，特別是所謂的消極閾值态辛。

term詞語;?術(shù)語;?措辭;?學(xué)期;?期;?期限;?任期;?把…稱為;?把…叫做

equation方程;?方程式;?等式;?相等;?等同看待;?平衡麸澜，綜合體

influence影響;?作用;?支配力;?控制力;?影響力;?有影響的人;?對…起作用;?支配;?左右

have on掌握不利于的證據(jù);?抓住的把柄

one another互相

in particular尤其;?特別

something某事;?某物;?想來重要的事物;?大致，左右;?很奏黑，非常

called叫做;?稱作;?給…命名;?稱呼;?把…叫做;?認(rèn)為…是;?把…看作;?把自己稱為;?自詡;?call的過去分詞和過去式

negativity否定性;?消極性

threshold門檻;?門口;?閾;?界;?起始點(diǎn);?開端;?起點(diǎn);?入門

Now, the negativity threshold, you can think of as how annoying the husband can be before the wife starts to get really pissed off, and vice versa.

ps:現(xiàn)在炊邦，消極的門檻，你可以想象在妻子真正生氣之前熟史，丈夫是多么的煩人馁害，反之亦然。

negativity否定性;?消極性

threshold門檻;?門口;?閾;?界;?起始點(diǎn);?開端;?起點(diǎn);?入門

think of as把…看作

annoying使惱怒的;?使生氣的;?使煩惱的;?使惱怒;?使生氣;?打擾;?騷擾;?annoy的現(xiàn)在分詞

husband丈夫;?節(jié)儉使用

wife妻子;?太太;?夫人;?已婚婦女

starts開始以故，著手蜗细，動手;?發(fā)生裆操，開始進(jìn)行;?開動;?發(fā)動;?啟動;?start的第三人稱單數(shù)

really事實(shí)上怒详，真正地，真實(shí)地;?確實(shí)踪区，的確;?加強(qiáng)形容詞或副詞的語氣

pissed爛醉的;?醉醺醺的;?氣瘋了;?怒沖沖的;?撒尿;?piss的過去分詞和過去式

and vice versa反之亦然

Now, I always thought that good marriages were about compromise and understanding and allowing the person to have the space to be themselves.

ps:現(xiàn)在昆烁，我一直認(rèn)為，好的婚姻是妥協(xié)和理解缎岗，讓人有自己的空間静尼。

always總是;?每次都是;?一直;?一貫;?永遠(yuǎn)

thought想法;?看法;?主意;?記憶;?心思;?思想;?思考能力;?思維過程;?思考;?思維;?認(rèn)為;?以為;?想;?思索;?琢磨;?think的過去分詞和過去式

marriages結(jié)婚;?婚姻;?婚姻生活;?已婚狀態(tài);?婚禮;?marriage的復(fù)數(shù)

werebe 的過去時(shí)復(fù)數(shù)和第二人稱單數(shù)形式;?有時(shí)代替 was，用于條件從句传泊、動詞 wish 之后等

compromise妥協(xié);?折中;?互讓;?和解;?妥協(xié)方案;?達(dá)成妥協(xié);?妥協(xié)鼠渺，折中，讓步;?違背;?達(dá)不到;?使陷入危險(xiǎn)眷细，使受到懷疑

understanding理解;?領(lǐng)悟;?了解;?協(xié)議;?諒解;?體諒;?善解人意的;?富有同情心的;?體諒人的;?懂;?領(lǐng)會;?認(rèn)識到;?明了;?understand的現(xiàn)在分詞

allowing允許;?準(zhǔn)許;?給予;?允許進(jìn)入;?allow的現(xiàn)在分詞

person人;?個(gè)人;?某人;?從事…工作的人;?人員

space空地拦盹，空間;?空;?空隙;?空子;?空當(dāng);?寬敞;?空曠;?開闊;?以一定間隔排列

themselves他們自己;?她們自己;?它們自己;?(用以強(qiáng)調(diào)they或復(fù)數(shù)主語)他們親自，

So I would have thought that perhaps the most successful relationships were ones where there was a really high negativity threshold.

Where couples let things go and only brought things up if they really were a big deal.

ps:在那里溪椎，夫妻們放手普舆，只有當(dāng)他們真的是一件大事的時(shí)候才提起事情恬口。

Where在哪里;?到哪里;?處于哪種情形;?在那，到那;?在那里;?在該處;?在該情況下;?…的地方;?…情況下;?地方;?場所哪里

couples兩人;?兩件事物;?幾個(gè)人;?幾件事物;?一對;?夫妻沼侣，情侶;?連接祖能，結(jié)合;?性交;?交配;?couple的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

let允許;?讓;?準(zhǔn)許;?許可;?同意;?擦網(wǎng)球;?出租;?租借

things東西;?物;?物件;?物品;?事物;?用品，衣服;?用具;?thing的復(fù)數(shù)

brought帶…到某處;?帶來;?取來;?提供;?供給;?導(dǎo)致;?引起;?bring的過去分詞和過去式

really事實(shí)上蛾洛，真正地养铸，真實(shí)地;?確實(shí)，的確;?加強(qiáng)形容詞或副詞的語氣

werebe 的過去時(shí)復(fù)數(shù)和第二人稱單數(shù)形式;?有時(shí)代替 was雅潭，用于條件從句揭厚、動詞 wish 之后等

a big deal<口>要人，重要人物

But actually, the mathematics and subsequent findings by the team have shown the exact opposite is true.

ps:但事實(shí)上扶供，研究小組的數(shù)學(xué)和隨后的研究結(jié)果表明筛圆，事實(shí)恰恰相反。

actually的確椿浓，真實(shí)地太援，事實(shí)上;?居然，竟然;?實(shí)際上

mathematics數(shù)學(xué);?運(yùn)算;?計(jì)算

subsequent隨后的;?后來的;?之后的;?接后的

findings調(diào)查發(fā)現(xiàn);?調(diào)研結(jié)果;?判決;?裁決;?finding的復(fù)數(shù)

team隊(duì);?組扳碍，班;?一組牲畜提岔，聯(lián)畜;?使互相配合;?使協(xié)作;?使合作

shown表明;?證明;?給…看;?出示;?展示;?教，解說;?演示;?show的過去分詞

exact精確的;?準(zhǔn)確的;?嚴(yán)謹(jǐn)?shù)??嚴(yán)格的;?一絲不茍的;?精密的;?嚴(yán)密的;?要求;?索取;?迫使;?強(qiáng)迫;?強(qiáng)求

opposite對面的;?另一邊的;?相反的;?迥然不同的;?對立的人;?對立面;?反面;?與…相對;?在…對面;?與…合演;?與…聯(lián)袂演出;?在對面笋敞，對過

true符合事實(shí)的;?確實(shí)的;?如實(shí)的;?實(shí)質(zhì)的碱蒙，真正的;?名副其實(shí)的;?真正的;?筆直地;?不偏不斜

The best couples, or the most successful couples, are the ones with a really low negativity threshold.

These are the couples that don't let anything go unnoticed and allow each other some room to complain.

These are the couples that are continually trying to repair their own relationship, that have a much more positive outlook on their marriage.

ps:這些夫妻不斷地試圖修復(fù)他們自己的關(guān)系，對他們的婚姻有著更加積極的看法夯巷。

couples兩人;?兩件事物;?幾個(gè)人;?幾件事物;?一對;?夫妻眶明，情侶;?連接金砍，結(jié)合;?性交;?交配;?couple的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

continually不停地榕莺；持續(xù)地;?頻繁地菇绵，慣常地，總是

trying令人厭煩的;?難對付的;?試圖;?想要;?設(shè)法;?努力;?試;?試用;?試做;?試驗(yàn);?審理;?審訊;?審判;?try的現(xiàn)在分詞

repair修理;?修補(bǔ);?修繕;?補(bǔ)救;?糾正;?彌補(bǔ)

own自己的后雷，本人的;?自己做的;?為自己的;?擁有季惯，有;?承認(rèn)

relationship關(guān)系，聯(lián)系;?情愛關(guān)系;?性愛關(guān)系;?關(guān)聯(lián)臀突，關(guān)系

much more更;?何況

positive積極樂觀的;?自信的;?積極的;?建設(shè)性的;?朝著成功的;?表示贊同的;?擁護(hù)的;?優(yōu)勢;?優(yōu)點(diǎn);?正片;?陽性結(jié)果

outlook觀點(diǎn);?見解;?世界觀;?人生觀;?前景;?可能性;?景色;?景致;?景觀

marriage結(jié)婚;?婚姻;?婚姻生活;?已婚狀態(tài);?婚禮

Couples that don't let things go and couples that don't let trivial things end up being a really big deal.

ps:不放手的夫妻和不讓瑣事發(fā)生的夫妻最終會成為一件大事勉抓。

let允許;?讓;?準(zhǔn)許;?許可;?同意;?擦網(wǎng)球;?出租;?租借

things東西;?物;?物件;?物品;?事物;?用品，衣服;?用具;?thing的復(fù)數(shù)

trivial不重要的;?瑣碎的;?微不足道的

end up最終到達(dá);?最終;?結(jié)果;?到頭來

being存在;?生存;?生物;?思想感情;?身心;?are的現(xiàn)在分詞;?be的現(xiàn)在分詞

really事實(shí)上候学，真正地藕筋，真實(shí)地;?確實(shí)，的確;?加強(qiáng)形容詞或副詞的語氣

big deal有什么了不起;?大事;?要事

Questions:

1.How did mathematician James Murray contribute to Gottman's research ?

He helped Gottman discover what causes negativity in conversations.

2.What did equation predict?

how a husband or wife will respond in a conversation

3.the idiom " to be teetering on the brink of something" means?

to be very close to being in an unpleasant or dangerous situations.

4.If something is trivial, it has little value or importance.

5.what is the negativity threshold?

how much negativity a husband or wife can take before getting angry.

Fill in the blanks:

The best couples, or the most successful couples, are the ones with a really low negativity threshold.These are the couples that don't let anything go unnoticed and allow each other some room to complain.

Now, I think it's important to point?out at this stage, that these exact equations?have also been shown?to be perfectly able?at describing what happens between two countries in an arms race.?

Now of course, it takes bit more than just a low negativity threshold and not compromising to have a successful relationship.

ps:當(dāng)然盒齿，要想擁有一段成功的戀情念逞，需要的不僅僅是一個(gè)較低的消極門檻和不妥協(xié)困食。

of course當(dāng)然，自然;?當(dāng)然;?當(dāng)然不

takes攜帶;?拿走;?取走;?運(yùn)走;?帶去;?引領(lǐng);?使達(dá)到翎承，把…推向硕盹，把…帶到;?take的第三人稱單數(shù)

bit有點(diǎn)兒;?稍微;?稍頃;?短距離;?小量;?小塊;?咬;?叮;?蜇;?咬餌;?上鉤;?bite的過去式

more than比…更;比…更重要;?超出需要;超乎尋常

low低的;?矮的;?離地面近的;?在底部的;?近底部的;?領(lǐng)口開得低的;?低;?向下;?不高;?在靠近…底部的位置;?向…底部;?低于通常的水平;?低水平;?低點(diǎn);?低數(shù)目;?艱難時(shí)期，低谷;?低氣壓區(qū);?哞哞叫

negativity否定性;?消極性

threshold門檻;?門口;?閾;?界;?起始點(diǎn);?開端;?起點(diǎn);?入門

compromising有失體面的;?不宜泄露的;?妥協(xié)叨咖，折中瘩例，讓步;?違背;?達(dá)不到;?使陷入危險(xiǎn)，使受到懷疑;?compromise的現(xiàn)在分詞

successful達(dá)到目的;?有成效的;?獲得成功的;?有成就的

relationship關(guān)系甸各，聯(lián)系;?情愛關(guān)系;?性愛關(guān)系;?關(guān)聯(lián)垛贤，關(guān)系

But I think that it's quite interesting to know that there is really mathematical evidence to say that you should never let the sun go down on your anger.

ps:但我覺得很有趣的一件事是，有確鑿的數(shù)學(xué)證據(jù)表明趣倾，你不應(yīng)該因?yàn)閼嵟屘栂律健?/p>

quite頗;?相當(dāng);?某種程度上;?完全;?十分;?非常;?徹底;?在很大程度上;?很;?的確

interesting有趣的;?有吸引力的;?使感興趣;?使關(guān)注;?interest的現(xiàn)在分詞

there is有

really事實(shí)上聘惦，真正地，真實(shí)地;?確實(shí)儒恋，的確;?加強(qiáng)形容詞或副詞的語氣

mathematical evidence毋庸置疑的證據(jù)善绎；經(jīng)過計(jì)算和論證的證據(jù)

you should你應(yīng)該;?你應(yīng)該要;?翻閱字典查查這個(gè)生詞

never從不;?絕不;?從未;?未曾;?(與not同義，語氣較強(qiáng))一點(diǎn)都不;?不會吧

sun太陽;?日;?太陽的光和熱;?陽光;?日光;?恒星;?曬太陽

go down on口交

anger怒;?怒火;?怒氣;?使發(fā)怒;?激怒

So those are my top three tips of how maths can help you with love and relationships.

ps:所以這是我教你數(shù)學(xué)如何幫助你處理愛情和人際關(guān)系的三大秘訣诫尽。

those用來對已經(jīng)提及的事物作補(bǔ)充說明;?人們;人;?那些;?用于提供更多的細(xì)節(jié)禀酱、信息

tips尖端;?尖兒;?端;?小部件;?指點(diǎn);?實(shí)用的提示;?傾斜，翻覆;?倒出;?傾倒;?傾覆;?輕觸;?輕碰;?tip的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

how怎樣;?如何多少牧嫉，多么剂跟，多大

maths同 mathematics;?數(shù)學(xué)

help幫助;?協(xié)助;?援助;?改善狀況;?促進(jìn);?促使;?攙扶;?帶領(lǐng);?有助益的東西;?有用

relationships關(guān)系，聯(lián)系;?情愛關(guān)系;?性愛關(guān)系;?關(guān)聯(lián)酣藻，關(guān)系;?relationship的復(fù)數(shù)

But I hope that aside?from their use as tips, they also give you a little bit of insight?into the power?of mathematics.

ps:但我希望曹洽，除了作為提示，它們也能讓你對數(shù)學(xué)的力量有一點(diǎn)了解臊恋。

hope希望衣洁，期望;?希望;?期望;?希望的東西;?期望的事情;?被寄予希望的人

aside from除…之外

their他們的;?她們的;?它們的;?在提及性別不詳?shù)娜藭r(shí)墓捻，用以代替his或her

tips尖端;?尖兒;?端;?小部件;?指點(diǎn);?實(shí)用的提示;?傾斜抖仅，翻覆;?倒出;?傾倒;?傾覆;?輕觸;?輕碰;?tip的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

give給;?交給;?贈送;?贈與;?送給;?提供，供給砖第，供應(yīng);?伸展性;?彈性

a little bit一點(diǎn)

insight into洞察;?對…深刻理解;?洞察力

power控制力;?影響力;?操縱力;?統(tǒng)治;?政權(quán);?能力;?機(jī)會;?驅(qū)動撤卢，推動;?迅猛移動，快速前進(jìn)

mathematics數(shù)學(xué);?運(yùn)算;?計(jì)算

Because for me, equations and symbols?aren't just a thing.

ps:因?yàn)閷ξ襾碚f梧兼，方程式和符號不僅僅是一回事放吩。

Because因?yàn)?/p>

for me講到我

equations方程;?方程式;?等式;?相等;?等同看待;?平衡，綜合體;?equation的復(fù)數(shù)

symbols象征;?符號;?代號;?記號;?symbol的第三人稱單數(shù)和復(fù)數(shù)

thing東西;?物;?物件;?物品;?事物;?用品羽杰，衣服;?用具

They're a voice that speaks out about the incredible richness of nature and the startling simplicity in the patterns that twist and turn and warp and evolve all around us, from how the world works to how we behave.

ps:它們是一種聲音渡紫，訴說著大自然不可思議的豐富到推，以及在我們周圍扭曲、扭曲惕澎、進(jìn)化的模式中驚人的簡單莉测，從世界的運(yùn)作方式到我們的行為方式。

speaks談;?談話;?交談;?說話;?講話;?提起;?講述;?speak的第三人稱單數(shù)

incredible不能相信的;?難以置信的;?極好的;?極大的

richness豐富;?富饒;?濃烈

startling驚人的;?讓人震驚的;?極鮮亮的;?使驚嚇;?使嚇一跳;?使大吃一驚;?startle的現(xiàn)在分詞

simplicity簡單;?容易;?質(zhì)樸;?淳樸;?簡單之處

twist and turn蜿蜒

warp扭曲唧喉，彎曲捣卤，變形;?使不合情理;?使乖戾;?經(jīng)線，經(jīng)紗

evolve逐漸形成八孝，逐步發(fā)展董朝，逐漸演變;?進(jìn)化;?進(jìn)化形成

all around各方面

behave表現(xiàn);?表現(xiàn)得體;?有禮貌;?表現(xiàn)得…的

So I hope that perhaps, for just a couple of you, a little bit of insight into the mathematics of love can persuade you to have a little bit more love for mathematics.

Thank you.?

Questions:

1.what does?Fry emphasize about her tip on compromising?

not compromising isn't the only way to help a relationship.

2.What was Fry's reason for providing the three tips?

to instill an appreciation for the application of mathematics

3.What does Fry mean when she says never let the sun go down on your anger?

Don't let your relationship issues go unaddressed.

4.what does?Fry appreciate math?

it gives people insight into the patterns of nature.

Put the sentences into correct order:

So those are my top three tips of how maths can help you with love and relationships.But I hope that aside?from their use as tips, they also give you a little bit of insight?into the power?of mathematics.Because for me, equations and symbols?aren't just a thing.They're a voice that speaks out about the incredible richness of nature and the startling simplicity in the patterns that twist and turn and warp and evolve all around us, from how the world works to how we behave.So I hope that perhaps, for just a couple of you, a little bit of insight into the mathematics of love can persuade you to have a little bit more love for mathematics.

But I hope that aside?from their use as tips, they also give you a little bit of insight?into the power?of mathematics.Because for me, equations and symbols?aren't just a thing.

Repeat & Read Sentences:

1.1 in 2 marriages in the States ends in divorce, with the rest of the world not being far behind.

2.aside?from their use as tips, they also give you? insight?into the power?of mathematics.

3.it's very hard to know what you should?be measuring or what you should be quantifying.

4.There is mathematical evidence to say that you should never let the sun go down on your anger.