優(yōu)先于為自己負責 是和諧關(guān)系的最終答案
Giving priority to being responsible for yourself is the ultimate answer to a harmonious relationship.
在父母關(guān)系产场、伴侶關(guān)系饲宛、親子關(guān)系和其他關(guān)系里，
In parental relationships, partnerships, parent-child? relationships and? other? relationships
我們當然要對別人好亡哄，這是和諧與長久的法門鸭廷。
Of course we have to be kind to others, which is the method of harmony and long-term.
只是你要注意枣抱，要去覺察：
It's just that you have to pay attention and be aware of:
1、你的付出辆床，是在委屈自己嗎佳晶？是在忍耐嗎？是心甘情愿的嗎讼载？
1. Are you wronging yourself by giving? Are you being patient? Is it willing?
但凡你有一點委屈轿秧、不情愿的付出中跌，你日后都會希望他同樣的委屈自己，來對待你菇篡。
As long as you are a little aggrieved and reluctant to give漩符，In the future, you will want him to treat you with the same grievance.
2、當你這么付出后驱还，如果他還是對你有糟糕嗜暴，或者對你有很壞的時候，你能接受嗎议蟆？When you give like this, if he still treats you badly, or treats you badly, can you accept it?
如果你付出后闷沥，希望他有感恩、喜歡你咐容、改變對你的態(tài)度舆逃，If you pay, I hope he will be grateful, like you, and? change his attitude towards you.
這些隱藏的期望都會成為你更委屈和更憤怒的資本。
These hidden expectations will become your more aggrieved and angrier capital.
真正的付出戳粒，是要放下期待的路狮。我對你好，僅僅是因為我愛你：此刻我愛你享郊，所以我想對你好。
To really give is to let go of expectations. I treat you just because I love you: I love you now, so I want to be nice to you.
至于你以后怎么對我孝鹊，那是你的事炊琉。我對你好與你對我好是兩個獨立的事，不應(yīng)該形成綁架又活。As for what you will do to me in the future, that's your business. I am good to you and you are good to me are two independent things, should not form a kidnapping.
你的付出苔咪，如果放不下對對方的期待，那就不要去付出柳骄。
Your pay, if you can't let go of the expectations of each other, then don't pay.
有的人覺得付出了不去期待是很難的团赏，實際上難的不是不期待，而是“優(yōu)先于自己”耐薯。
Some people feel that it is very difficult not to expect, in fact, the difficulty is not to expect, but to "take precedence over yourself".
在自己和他人之間舔清，我們很難優(yōu)先考慮自己。
It is difficult for us to give priority to ourselves between ourselves and others.
我們習慣性地優(yōu)先考慮別人曲初，然后又習慣性地期待別人優(yōu)先考慮我們体谒。
We habitually give priority to others, and then habitually expect others to give priority to us.
關(guān)系中最難的事情，其實就是：我臼婆，比抒痒，你，重要颁褂。The hardest thing in a relationship is that I am more important than you.
我們當然要去對別人好故响，但對別人的好不要超過你自己傀广，這時候你就能不去期待了。
Of course we have to be nice to others, but don't be more kind to others than yourself, so you can stop looking forward to it.
當你能允許自己比別人更重要的時候彩届，你才能允許在別人的世界里伪冰，他覺得他比你重要。
When you can allow yourself to be more important than others, you can allow him to be more important than you in other people's world.
每個人都優(yōu)先于為自己負責惨缆，才是和諧關(guān)系的最終答案糜值。
Everyone gives priority to taking responsibility for themselves, which is the ultimate answer to a harmonious relationship.
允許別人他自己比你重要，別人在為自己考慮拒絕你的時候坯墨，你也就不會太委屈受傷寂汇。
Allow others to be more important than you, and when others think about rejecting you for their own sake, you won't be too aggrieved or hurt.
慢下來，停一停捣染。學習一點自我關(guān)懷骄瓣，自己的好不好，也很重要耍攘。
Slow down. Stop. It is also important to learn a little self-care? and whether? you are? good or not.
別忘了給自己的內(nèi)心一點空間榕栏，也別忘了問問自己怎么了。
Don't forget to give yourself some space, and don't forget to ask yourself what's wrong.
