This world that we live in ,this world in which every conversation has the potential to devolve into an argument, where even the most trival of issues have someone fighting both passionately for it and against it, it's not normal.
我們更不傾向妥協(xié)劈狐，這意味著我們沒有傾聽彼此。
We're less likely to compeomise, which means we're not listening to each other. We make decisions about where to live, who to marry and even who our friend are going to be, based on what we already believe.
怎樣更好的談話滥比？
1. Don't multitask. 不要三心二意
Be present, be in that moment. If you want to get out of the conversation, get out of the conversation. Don't be half in it and half out of it.
2. Don't pontificate. 不要好為人師
If you want to state your opinion without any opportunity for response or argument or pushback or growth, write a blog.
You need to enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn.
Bill Nye:“ Everyone you will ever meet knows something that you don't".
3. Use open-ended questions. 使用開放式問題
If you put in a complecated question, you're going to get a simple answer out. Let them describe it. They're the ones that know.
4. Go with the flow. 順其自然
That means thoughts will come into your mind and you need to let them go out of your mind. Stories and ideas are going to come to you. You need to let them come and let them go.
5. If you don't know, say that you don't know. 如果你不知道早直，就說你不知道
Err on the side of caution. Talk should not be cheap.
6. Don't equate your experience with theirs.不要把自己的經(jīng)歷和他人比較
It is never the same. All experiences are individual. Conversation are not a promotional opportunity.
7. Try not to repeat yourself.盡量別重復(fù)自己的話
It's condescending and boring.
8. Stay out of the weeds.少說廢話
Forget the details, leave them out.
9. Listen.傾聽
Listening is perhaps the most important skill that you could develop. We have to listen to one another.
10. Be brief.簡明扼要
Be interested in other people.
Go out, talk to people, listen to people and be prepared to be amazed.
