不要成為偽裝大師
我們自己年輕的時(shí)候總是把大大咧咧袖瞻、滿不在乎的態(tài)度作為保護(hù)自己的粘土殼。
你心中的黏土殼拆吆，就是你用來展示給別人看的那層面具聋迎。藏在面具之下的那些特質(zhì)，就是你內(nèi)心的陰影枣耀。陰影的內(nèi)容往往與我們所展示的面具截然相反霉晕。許多時(shí)候，我們的面具實(shí)在太過完美捞奕，不僅騙過了別人牺堰，也騙過了我們自己。要想透過面具檢視自己的內(nèi)心世界颅围，我們必須首先意識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)伟葫。當(dāng)我們感到不滿意、不高興谷浅、不痛快的時(shí)候扒俯，這是我們的面具與內(nèi)心陰影在相互沖突。
要想改變生活一疯，必須首先改變觀念。你必須承認(rèn)面具本身的積極意義——保護(hù)你的心靈免遭傷害夺姑。面具也是你的一個(gè)方面墩邀，也是你內(nèi)心世界的一部分。
當(dāng)你找回真實(shí)而完整的自我時(shí)盏浙，自然也就不再需要面具的保護(hù)了眉睹。你用不著再偽裝成另一個(gè)人，用不著再掩飾任何東西废膘，大多數(shù)人之所以很難做到這一點(diǎn)竹海，是因?yàn)樗麄儾辉赋姓J(rèn)‘自我’的客觀性，不愿交出對(duì)自己生活和情感的控制權(quán)丐黄。索甲仁波切在《西藏生死書》中曾說：
“我們記不起自己真正的身份——本性斋配。因?yàn)榭駚y和害怕，我們到處尋找，胡亂抓一個(gè)認(rèn)同者艰争，卻抓到一個(gè)正掉入深淵的人坏瞄，這種虛假無知的認(rèn)同就是我們平時(shí)說的所謂的‘自我’∷ψ浚”
我們這里所說的“本性”就是真實(shí)的自我鸠匀，當(dāng)你開始發(fā)覺內(nèi)心的陰影時(shí)，或許心中會(huì)出現(xiàn)一個(gè)聲音逾柿，聲嘶力竭地叫你停下來缀棍。不要理會(huì)那個(gè)聲音，他只不過是你虛假的自我而已机错。只有推翻了對(duì)自我的虛假認(rèn)識(shí)爬范，你才能恢復(fù)自己的本性，找回真實(shí)的毡熏、完整的自我坦敌。
Don't be a master of disguise
When we were young, we always took the careless and careless attitude as the clay shell to protect ourselves.
The clay shell in your heart is the mask you use to show others. Those qualities hidden under the mask are the shadow of your heart. The content of the shadow is often diametrically opposed to the mask we show. Many times, our masks are too perfect, not only to deceive others, but also to deceive ourselves. If we want to examine our inner world through the mask, we must first realize this. When we feel dissatisfied, unhappy and unhappy, it is our mask and inner shadow that conflict with each other.
If you want to change your life, you must first change your ideas. You must recognize the positive meaning of the mask itself - to protect your heart from harm. The mask is also an aspect of you and a part of your inner world.
When you find your true and complete self, you will no longer need the protection of mask. You don't have to pretend to be another person or hide anything. The reason why most people find it difficult to do this is because they don't want to admit the objectivity of 'self' and give up control over their own life and emotions. Sukar Rinpoche once said in the "Book of Life and Death in Tibet":
"We can't remember our true identity - our nature. Because of frenzy and fear, we look everywhere, grab an identity, but catch a person who is falling into the abyss. This false and ignorant identity is what we usually call 'self'."
The "nature" we say here is the true self. When you begin to find the shadow of your heart, there may be a voice in your heart that will yell at you to stop. Don't pay attention to that voice. It's just your false self. Only by overturning your false understanding of yourself can you restore your nature and find your true and complete self.
