2019-11-20

哈佛大學推薦20個保持快樂的法則

喜寶

Be grateful

要學會感恩

Slow down,look around you,and pay attention to the little details in your life-the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk,the beautiful sunset,the hot shower that washes away your long day,and the smile in your partner's eyes...

讓自己變慢腳步,看看你的四周,關(guān)注生活中的細微之處:人行道上淡紫色的花,美麗的日落,洗去你一天疲憊的淋浴,伴侶眼中的笑容.

When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life's beautify/wonder and blessings,you're automatically filled with happiness.

當你的感恩之心能夠欣賞生活的美,思考和祝福,你自然就充滿了幸福感.

Choose your friends wisely

明智的選擇自己的朋友

According to Harvard,the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships.So if you want to be happy,choose to be around people who are optimistic,who appreciate you as you are,and.who can make your life richer,bigger,more fun,and more meaningful.

根據(jù)哈佛大學的研究,影響個人幸福最重要的外部因素是人際關(guān)系.所以如果你想變得開心的話,要選擇和樂觀的朋友在一起,他們能欣賞你真實的自己,讓你的生活變得更豐富,快樂,有意義.

Cultivate compassion

培養(yǎng)同情心

When we try to step into other people's shoes and understand a situation from another’s perspective,we're more likely to handle the situation with compassion,objectivity and effectiveness.There will be less conflicts and more happiness.

當我們代替別人,站在另訾個角度看問題,我們更能用同情心,客觀和有效的處理問題.生活中就會少一些沖突,多一點快樂.

Keep learning

不斷學習

Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive.When we engage our brains and put them toward productive uses,we're less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.

學習讓我們保持年輕 ,夢想讓我們充滿活力.我們運用大腦,進行運作的時候,我們就不大會想不開心心的事情,我們會變得更開心和滿足.

Become a problem solver

學會解決問題

Happy people are problem solvers.When they encounter a challenge in life,they don't beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state.Instead,they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding creative a solution.By becoming a problem solver,you'll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to-and whatever challenges life throws your way.

快樂的人是會解決問題的人.在生活中遇到挑戰(zhàn)的時候, 他們不會自虐,然后變得很消沉.他們會直面挑戰(zhàn),調(diào)動全身力量尋找解決辦法.通過變成一個解決問題的人,你會建立自己的自信心和下決心要的事情和直面挑戰(zhàn)的能力.

Do what you love

做你想做的事情

Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working,loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness.If this is not possible at the moment,then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work,or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.

既然我們成人生活的三分之一時間都在工作,那么做我們想做的事對我們的整體幸福感就有很大的影響.如果現(xiàn)在不能做你想做的事情,那就試著在你現(xiàn)在的工作中尋找快樂和意義,或者培養(yǎng)一個你喜愛的興趣揪阿。

Live in the present

活在當下

When you feel depressed,you' re living in the past.When you feel worried or anxious,you' re living in the future.But when you feel content,happy and peaceful,you're living in the present.

你感到沮喪,是因為你活在過去唇兑。你會感到擔憂和焦慮,是因為你活在未來瑟匆。但是當你感到滿足,開心和平和時,你才是活在當下柏腻。

Laugh often

要經(jīng)常笑

Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression.Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness.So don' t take life too seriously.Try to find humor and laughter in life's everyday struggles.

笑是對抗生氣或沮喪最有力的的東西鼻由。研究表明簡單的嘴巴上揚也可以增加你的幸福感溉奕。不要把生活看的太嚴肅忘瓦。要學會在毎日的奮斗中尋找幽默感和笑聲鼻听。

Practice forgiveness

學會原諒

Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment.When you forgive,you're actually practicing kindness to yourself.And most importantly,learn to forgive yourself.Everyone makes mistakes.It's through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.

憎恨和生氣是對自我的懲罰吱晒。當你釋懷的時候,事實上你是在對自己施以善意甸饱。最重要的是,學會原諒自己。每個人都犯錯.只有通過我們的錯誤,我們才慢慢學會如何成為一個更強大,更好的人.

Say thanks often

要經(jīng)常說謝謝

Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life.And it's equally important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better in some way,big or small.

對生活中的祝福要學會欣賞仑濒。向那些讓你生活變好的人,無論或大或小,表達出你的欣賞之情也同樣重要叹话。

Create deeper connections

學會深交

Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level.And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves and to others.

我們的幸福感會在和另一個人的深交中不斷猛增。專注聆聽是加強這種關(guān)系紐帶和把幸福感帶給自己和別人的兩個最重要的方面.

Keep your agreement

信守承諾

Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we've made with ourselves.And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness.So keep your agreements with others and with yourself.

我們的自尊是建立在我們對自己守承諾的情況下墩瞳。高度的自尊和幸福感有直接關(guān)聯(lián)驼壶。所以要對自己和別人遵守承諾。

Meditate

冥想

According to Harvard,people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are,on average,20% happier than a control group.Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus,known to be important for learning and memory,and in structures associated with self-awareness,compassion and introspection.

根據(jù)哈佛大學的研究 ,平均上,上過8次冥想訓練的人要比控制狂多開心20%.這樣的訓練可以導致大腦結(jié)構(gòu)變化,包括海馬體黑色物質(zhì)的密度,其對學習和記憶很重要,在結(jié)構(gòu)上和自我意識,同情心和反省喉酌。

Focus on what you' re doing

關(guān)注你在做的事情

When you put your mind,heart and soul into what you're doing,you're creating a happiness state-called the"flow."When you're living in the flow,you're less likely to care about what others may think of you,and less bothered by things that are not that important.The result?More happiness,of course!

當你全身心投入一件事的時候,你就會處于一個開心的狀態(tài).當我們處于這種狀態(tài),你就不大會關(guān)心別人對你怎么看,不大會被不大重要的事情干擾热凹。結(jié)果呢?更幸福,當然啦!

Be optimistic

耍樂觀

For happy people,the glass is always half-full.If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge,then train yourself to reverse that tendency.Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it.Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.

對于開心的人來說,玻璃都一直是半滿的.每當你面對一個挑戰(zhàn)時,如果你傾向于想象最壞的想法,那就自我轉(zhuǎn)換這種情況.告訴你自己一個狀況中的好處或者你從中學到的東西.樂觀肯定能驅(qū)動成功和幸福感.

Love unconditionally

無條件的愛

No one is perfect.Accept yourself for all of your imperfections.And do so for others.Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems.Unconditional love means accepting people as they are,and allowing them to find their own ways,at their own pace.

沒人是完美的.接受你自己所有的不完美.也要這樣對待別人.無條件的愛一個人并不意味著你要花所有的時間和他們在一起,或者幫助他們解決問題.無條件的愛意味著接受真實的他們,以他們自己的步伐,讓他們自己摸索.

Don't give up

不要放棄

Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one's self-esteem.If you've made up your mind to do something,see it through.Don't give up until you succeed.Remember failure is temporary but defeat is permanent.And defeat only occurs when you give up.

沒有完成的方案和不斷的失敗不可避免的會削弱你的自尊.如果你決定做某事,做完它,在成功之前都不要放棄.要記住,失敗是暫時的,打敗的永存的.只有當你放棄的時候,你才會被打敗.

Do your best and then let go

做最好的自己,然后放手

Everyone has limitations,and things don't always turn out to be what we'd like them to be-despite our efforts.So always give your best,and then let go.Let events run their course.When you've done your best,you'll have no regrets.

每個人都有局限性.而且有時候盡管我們很努力做一件事情,但是總會事與愿違.所以做最好的自己,然后放手.當你盡了全力,你就沒有遺憾了.

Take care of yourself

好好照顧自己

A healthy body is the key to happiness.If you have poor health,it's very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try.So make sure you eat well,exercise and find time to rest.Take good care of your body,your mind and your spirit.

一個健康的身體是幸福的關(guān)鍵.如果你身體不好,你無論如何努力,都很難快樂.確信自己吃得好,做鍛煉,找點時間休息.好好照顧你的身體,大腦和精神.

Give back

學會給予

Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good.According to Harvard,when people do good,their brains becomes active in the very same reward center that is stimulated when,they experience other rewards.So it's not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.

做好事是最能確保你心情好的方法之一.根據(jù)哈佛大學的研究,人們做好事,他們的大腦變得活躍,就好像當你經(jīng)歷別的獎勵時,大腦所受的刺激.所以,那些關(guān)心別人的人要比不大關(guān)心別人的人更開心.

來源 | 公眾號 十二喜喜

編輯 | 喜寶?

圖片 | 郝小好

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