The Psychological of Love1
愛(ài)的心理人類(lèi)
One of the most important human emotions is love.最重要的情感之一就是愛(ài)岔激。
However, there are many different kinds of love.然而，有許多不同種類(lèi)的愛(ài)瘦赫。
Romantic love is certainly one of the most interesting kinds of love.浪漫的愛(ài)情當(dāng)然是最有趣的一種愛(ài)情胃珍。
It can be beautiful, wonderful, and heartbreaking, sometimes all at the same time.它可以是美麗的梁肿，美妙的，令人心碎的觅彰，有時(shí)同時(shí)發(fā)生吩蔑。
Romantic love can make our lives full and meaningful, but it can also be an escape from loneliness and suffering.浪漫的愛(ài)情能使我們的生活充實(shí)而有意義，但它也能使我們擺脫孤獨(dú)和痛苦填抬。
Besides romantic love,? another kind of love is between parents and children.除了浪漫的愛(ài)情烛芬，另一種愛(ài)是父母和孩子之間的愛(ài)。
If romantic love has a purpose,neither psychology nor biology has discovered it.如果浪漫的愛(ài)情有目的飒责，心理學(xué)和生物學(xué)都沒(méi)有發(fā)現(xiàn)赘娄。
However, throughout history, philosophers have offered opinions about it.然而，縱觀歷史宏蛉，哲學(xué)家們對(duì)此提出了自己的觀點(diǎn)遣臼。
The Greek philosopher, Plato, said love makes us complete.希臘哲學(xué)家柏拉圖說(shuō)過(guò)，愛(ài)使我們完整拾并。
He relates a comic story in which humans originally had 4 arms, 4 legs and 2 faces.他講述了一個(gè)喜劇故事揍堰，在這個(gè)故事中鹏浅，人類(lèi)最初有4條胳膊、4條腿和2張臉屏歹。
Then, when they angered the Gods, they were cut in half.然后隐砸，當(dāng)他們激怒了眾神，他們被切成兩半西采。
Since then every person has been searching for their soulmate, the other half? of his or her self.從那時(shí)起凰萨，每個(gè)人都在尋找自己的靈魂伴侶，另一半的自我械馆。
Another philosopher believed that love is an illusion.另一位哲學(xué)家認(rèn)為愛(ài)情是一種幻覺(jué)胖眷。
In his view, people fall in love because they believe the other person can make them happy.在他看來(lái)，人們墜入愛(ài)河是因?yàn)樗麄兿嘈艅e人能讓他們快樂(lè)霹崎。
But in fact, this is just an illusion designed to make us have children.但事實(shí)上珊搀，這只是一個(gè)假象，是為了讓我們有孩子尾菇。
Once we have children, we are right back to where we were, still searching for? happiness.一旦我們有了孩子境析，我們就回到了過(guò)去，仍然在尋找幸福派诬。
For nature this is a success, because we have children to maintain our species.對(duì)大自然來(lái)說(shuō)劳淆，這是一個(gè)成功，因?yàn)槲覀冇泻⒆觼?lái)維持我們的物種默赂。
But it leaves us still searching for something more.但它仍然讓我們尋找更多的東西沛鸵。
According to this philosopher what is the real purpose of love? It's designed to maintain our species.根據(jù)這位哲學(xué)家的觀點(diǎn)，愛(ài)的真正目的是什么?它的設(shè)計(jì)是為了保護(hù)我們的物種缆八。
If something is an illusion, it isn’t what it seems to be.如果某件事是一種幻覺(jué)曲掰，它并不是它看起來(lái)的那樣。
Some people say love can be a disguise for our sexual desires or a biological trick to make us to have children.有人說(shuō)奈辰，愛(ài)可以是我們性欲的偽裝栏妖，也可以是我們生兒育女的生理伎倆。
In Buddhism, romantic love is seen as an attempt to satisfy our desires.在佛教中奖恰，浪漫的愛(ài)情被視為滿足我們欲望的一種嘗試吊趾。
These desires are a defect, something we need to overcome.這些欲望是一種缺陷，是我們需要克服的瑟啃。
The way to free ourselves from suffering is to remove desires.把自己從痛苦中解放出來(lái)的方法就是去除欲望趾徽。
Once free of desires we can reach a state of peace and wisdom.一旦擺脫了欲望，我們就能達(dá)到一種平靜和智慧的狀態(tài)翰守。
This state of being is called nirvana.這種存在狀態(tài)被稱為涅磐。
According to Buddhism how can we free ourselves from suffering? overcome our desires根據(jù)佛教疲酌，我們?cè)鯓硬拍軓耐纯嘀薪饷摮鰜?lái)?克服我們的欲望
Other kinds of love include the love between a parent and child.其他類(lèi)型的愛(ài)包括父母和孩子之間的愛(ài)蜡峰。
The Psychological of Love2
In one of China's greatest classical novels, Dream of the Red Chamber, love is presented as a state of foolishness.在中國(guó)最偉大的古典小說(shuō)之一《紅樓夢(mèng)》中了袁，愛(ài)情被描繪成一種愚蠢的狀態(tài)。
A young man falls in love with a beautiful woman who tricks and makes a fool of him.一個(gè)年輕人愛(ài)上了一個(gè)美麗的女人湿颅，她欺騙并愚弄了他载绿。
This results in conflicting emotions of love and hate which tear him apart.這導(dǎo)致愛(ài)與恨的情感沖突，將他撕裂油航。
To cure him, a priest gives him a magic mirror.為了治好他崭庸，牧師給了他一面魔鏡
The priest tells him to look into the reverse side of the mirror, but never to look in the front side.牧師告訴他要照鏡子的背面，但不要照鏡子的正面谊囚。
What side of the mirror is he supposed to look into? the reverse side他應(yīng)該朝鏡子的哪一面看?背面
When the young man looks into the mirror, he doesn't like what he sees, so he? looks into the forbidden side, the front side.當(dāng)年輕人照鏡子時(shí)怕享，他不喜歡他所看到的，所以他看的是禁忌的一面镰踏，正面函筋。
There he sees the lovely image of his love, who invites him into the mirror to be with her.在那里，他看到了他愛(ài)的可愛(ài)的形象奠伪，誰(shuí)邀請(qǐng)他進(jìn)入鏡子與她在一起跌帐。
He does this several times until he is finally dragged away in chains.他這樣做了好幾次，直到最后被人用鏈子拖走绊率。
He dies while looking into the mirror.他在照鏡子的時(shí)候死了谨敛。
Perhaps the point of the story is that all such attachments should be avoided.也許這個(gè)故事的重點(diǎn)是，所有這些依戀都應(yīng)該避免滤否。
Why does the young man look into the forbidden side of the mirror ? he doesn't like what he sees in the mirror.為什么這個(gè)年輕人要看鏡子的禁忌面?他不喜歡他在鏡子里看到的東西脸狸。
What finally happens to the young man? He is dragged away in chains and dies.最后這個(gè)年輕人怎么樣了?他被鐵鏈鎖著拖走，死了顽聂。
He enters the mirror to be with his love and satisfy his desires.他進(jìn)入鏡子與他的愛(ài)和滿足他的欲望肥惭。
once free of desires we can reach a state of peace and wisdom一旦擺脫了欲望，我們就能達(dá)到一種平靜和智慧的狀態(tài)
The way to free ourselves from suffering is to remove desires.把自己從痛苦中解放出來(lái)的方法就是去除欲望紊搪。
He is dragged away in chains and dies while looking into the mirror.他被鎖鏈拖走蜜葱，在照鏡子時(shí)死去。
The priest tells him to look into the reverse side of the mirror, but never to look in the front side.牧師告訴他要照鏡子的背面耀石，但不要照鏡子的正面牵囤。
A famous French writer, Simone de Beauvoir has another point of view.法國(guó)著名作家西蒙·德·波伏娃有另一種觀點(diǎn)。
For her, love is the desire to integrate with another, like in a great friendship.對(duì)她來(lái)說(shuō)滞伟，愛(ài)是渴望與他人融合揭鳞，就像在一段偉大的友誼中。
However, it is important that lovers not become too dependent on the other person.然而梆奈，重要的是戀人之間不要太依賴對(duì)方野崇。
Becoming dependent on another person can lead to boredom or power games.依賴他人會(huì)導(dǎo)致無(wú)聊或權(quán)力游戲。
Lovers should support each other in discovering themselves and developing their potentials.情侶們應(yīng)該互相支持亩钟，發(fā)現(xiàn)自己乓梨，開(kāi)發(fā)自己的潛力鳖轰。
In this way, romantic love can enrich the world.這樣，浪漫的愛(ài)情可以豐富世界扶镀。
According to this writer, lovers should avoid becoming too dependent on the other person.根據(jù)作者的觀點(diǎn)回挽，情侶們應(yīng)該避免過(guò)于依賴對(duì)方们陆。
Falling in love can be exciting and frightening.墜入愛(ài)河既令人興奮又令人恐懼。
Maybe we lose ourselves and maybe we find ourselves.也許我們失去了自己，也許我們找到了自己捉捅。
Will you dare to find out?你敢知道嗎?
