《失控》的作者 KK (Kevin Kelly)霹粥，就是那位啟發(fā)了《黑客帝國》的未來預(yù)言家灭将，剛過68歲生日，于是寫下了68條人生建議后控。
? Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.
有些人的觀點也許你并不同意庙曙，甚至感覺受到了冒犯，但是請學(xué)會向這些人學(xué)習(xí)浩淘，看看自己能否從他們的觀點中汲取真理捌朴。
? Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points.
人有激情吴攒，相當(dāng)于智商提高25個點。
? Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.
永遠設(shè)定最后期限砂蔽。最后期限會排除一切無關(guān)緊要的因素洼怔。它也阻止了你追求事物的完美，而只能讓它變得不同左驾。不同是更好的茴厉。
??Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it.
別害怕問“傻”問題，因為99%的可能是其他人也想問這個問題什荣，但是覺得尷尬而不敢問。
? Being able to listen well is a superpower. While listening to someone you love keep asking them “Is there more?”, until there is no more.
傾聽是一種超能力怀酷。聽所愛之人的傾訴時稻爬，你得一直問“還有呢？還有嗎蜕依？”桅锄，直到他們徹底說完。
? A worthy goal for a year is to learn enough about a subject so that you can’t believe how ignorant you were a year earlier.
每年設(shè)定一個有價值的目標(biāo)样眠，那就是學(xué)懂某樣?xùn)|西友瘤。一年之后，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)一年前的自己是多么無知檐束。
? Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at.
感恩是美德之源辫秧，也是你可以做得更好的地方。
? Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.
請人吃飯總是有用的被丧，而且也不難做到盟戏。請客有助于舊朋友的聯(lián)絡(luò)和新友誼的建立。
? Don’t trust all-purpose glue.
世上沒有萬靈丹甥桂。
? Reading to your children regularly will bond you together and kickstart their imaginations.
經(jīng)常讀書給孩子聽柿究，你將和他們更親密，并且激發(fā)他們的想象力黄选。
? Never use a credit card for credit. The only kind of credit, or debt, that is acceptable is debt to acquire something whose exchange value is extremely likely to increase, like in a home. The exchange value of most things diminishes or vanishes the moment you purchase them. Don’t be in debt to losers.
別透支信用卡蝇摸。唯一可接受的信貸或者債務(wù)是為了購買大概率會增值的東西，比如房子办陷。大部分東西買回來后都會貶值貌夕。別欠那些失敗者的錢。
? Pros are just amateurs who know how to gracefully recover from their mistakes.
所謂專業(yè)人士懂诗，就是那些懂得如何從錯誤中學(xué)習(xí)的業(yè)余愛好者蜂嗽。
??Extraordinary claims should require extraordinary evidence to be believed.
不同尋常的話需要不同尋常的證據(jù)才能采信。
? Don’t be the smartest person in the room. Hangout with, and learn from, people smarter than yourself. Even better, find smart people who will disagree with you.
別在小眾中當(dāng)那個“智者”殃恒。要跟比你聰明的人在一起并向他們學(xué)習(xí)植旧。如果能夠找到那些跟你意見相左的聰明人辱揭，就更好了。
? Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth.
交談的“三次”原則病附。想要問出真實的原因问窃，你不能讓說話者停留在表面，得問得深入一些完沪。重復(fù)一遍這個過程域庇。再來一遍。第三次的答案更接近真相覆积。
??Don’t be the best. Be the only.
別成為最好的听皿。成為唯一的。
??Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.
所有人都是害羞的宽档。別人在等你介紹自己尉姨、等你發(fā)郵件、等你發(fā)出約會邀請吗冤。行動吧又厉！
? Don’t take it personally when someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It’s amazing how often a second try works.
別人拒絕你時，不要以為別人針對你椎瘟。也許他們像你一樣：忙覆致、忙、忙肺蔚。晚點再試試煌妈。再試一次往往就會成功。
? The purpose of a habit is to remove that action from self-negotiation. You no longer expend energy deciding whether to do it. You just do it. Good habits can range from telling the truth, to flossing.
習(xí)慣的意義在于讓行動免于自我談判宣羊。你不再需要花費精力去決定是否要做某件事声旺。你只需習(xí)慣性地去做。好習(xí)慣有很多段只，從講實話到用牙線腮猖。
? Promptness is a sign of respect.
及時是尊重的體現(xiàn)。
??When you are young spend at least 6 months to one year living as poor as you can, owning as little as you possibly can, eating beans and rice in a tiny room or tent, to experience what your “worst” lifestyle might be. That way any time you have to risk something in the future you won’t be afraid of the worst case scenario.
年輕時赞枕，至少花半年到一年過最窮的日子澈缺，東西越少越好，在小小的房間或者帳篷里吃最便宜的飯菜炕婶，體驗“最糟糕”的生活方式到底能成什么樣姐赡。這樣日后當(dāng)你需要冒險時，你不會害怕最差的結(jié)果柠掂。
??Trust me: There is no “them”.
相信我：世上沒有“他們”项滑。
? The more you are interested in others, the more interesting they find you. To be interesting, be interested.
你對別人越感興趣，別人對你越感興趣涯贞。想讓別人對你感興趣枪狂，先對別人感興趣危喉。
? Optimize your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away.
盡量慷慨。沒有人會在臨死前后悔自己給予太多州疾。
? To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just re-do it, re-do it, re-do it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them.
要做出好東西辜限，去做就行。要做出更好的東西严蓖，需要重復(fù)薄嫡、重復(fù)、重復(fù)颗胡。要做出最好的東西毫深，秘訣就在于熟能生巧。
? The Golden Rule will never fail you. It is the foundation of all other virtues.
“已所不欲毒姨、勿施于人”的黃金法則永不失效费什。它是所有美德的基礎(chǔ)。
? If you are looking for something in your house, and you finally find it, when you’re done with it, don’t put it back where you found it. Put it back where you first looked for it.
當(dāng)你找遍房子手素，終于找到某樣?xùn)|西時，別把它放回你找到它的地方瘩蚪，而要把它放到你一開始去找它的地方泉懦。
? Saving money and investing money are both good habits. Small amounts of money invested regularly for many decades without deliberation is one path to wealth.
省錢和投資都是好習(xí)慣。小額定投疹瘦，不需要費腦筋崩哩，在幾十年之后，會成為大財富言沐。
??To make mistakes is human. To own your mistakes is divine. Nothing elevates a person higher than quickly admitting and taking personal responsibility for the mistakes you make and then fixing them fairly. If you mess up, fess up. It’s astounding how powerful this ownership is.
犯錯誤是人之常情邓嘹。承認錯誤并承擔(dān)責(zé)任則更為高尚。一個人的形象提升险胰，最快的方式莫過于及時承認錯誤并承擔(dān)責(zé)任汹押，之后好好地改正。犯了錯誤起便，就承認棚贾，這將迸發(fā)強大的力量。
? Never get involved in a land war in Asia.
不要卷入亞洲的領(lǐng)土爭端榆综。
? You can obsess about serving your customers/audience/clients, or you can obsess about beating the competition. Both work, but of the two, obsessing about your customers will take you further.
你可以花心思在消費者/觀眾/客戶身上妙痹，也可以花心思在打敗對手身上。兩者都可行鼻疮，但是花心思在消費者身上會讓你走得更遠怯伊。
??Show up. Keep showing up. Somebody successful said: 99% of success is just showing up.
出現(xiàn)，并一直在場判沟。有位成功人士曾經(jīng)說過：99%的成功都來自于在場耿芹。
? Separate the processes of creation from improving. You can’t write and edit, or sculpt and polish, or make and analyze at the same time. If you do, the editor stops the creator. While you invent, don’t select. While you sketch, don’t inspect. While you write the first draft, don’t reflect. At the start, the creator mind must be unleashed from judgement.
創(chuàng)造與改進要分開崭篡。你無法一邊寫作一邊編輯、一邊雕刻一遍打磨猩系、一邊制作一邊分析媚送。如果你這么做了的話，那么編輯將打斷創(chuàng)作寇甸。當(dāng)你創(chuàng)作時塘偎，不用挑挑揀揀。當(dāng)你畫草圖時拿霉，不用反復(fù)檢查吟秩。當(dāng)你打草稿時，不用思前想后绽淘。最開始時涵防，你使用的是創(chuàng)造者的頭腦，一定要讓它從揀選判斷中得到釋放沪铭。
??If you are not falling down occasionally, you are just coasting.
如果你從未失敗壮池，那么你從未離開舒適區(qū)。
??Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.
全世界最反直覺的真理也許是杀怠，你給予別人的越多椰憋，你得到的也越多。明白了這一點赔退，你便開始擁有智慧橙依。
??Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat.
朋友勝過金錢。錢能做的事情硕旗，朋友能做得更好窗骑。朋友有條船，比你自己有條船漆枚，要好得多创译。
??This is true: It’s hard to cheat an honest man.
要騙誠實的人，真的很難墙基。
? When an object is lost, 95% of the time it is hiding within arm’s reach of where it was last seen. Search in all possible locations in that radius and you’ll find it.
找不到某樣?xùn)|西時昔榴，它有95%的可能離你上次見到它的地方僅一臂之遙。在這個范圍內(nèi)找碘橘，你一定能找到它互订。
? You are what you do. Not what you say, not what you believe, not how you vote, but what you spend your time on.
你做了什么事，就是什么樣的人痘拆。你是怎么樣的人仰禽，并不在于你所說的，你所信的或者你投票的對象，而在于你把時間花在什么事情上吐葵。
??If you lose or forget to bring a cable, adapter or charger, check with your hotel. Most hotels now have a drawer full of cables, adapters and chargers others have left behind, and probably have the one you are missing. You can often claim it after borrowing it.
如果你丟了或者忘了帶數(shù)據(jù)線充電器或者轉(zhuǎn)接頭规揪，問問你的酒店。大多數(shù)酒店有一抽屜別人落下的數(shù)據(jù)線温峭、轉(zhuǎn)接頭和充電器猛铅，說不定你丟的那個也在。借了之后如果據(jù)為己有凤藏，通常也沒問題奸忽。
??Hatred is a curse that does not affect the hated. It only poisons the hater. Release a grudge as if it was a poison.
仇恨像詛咒。它并不影響被恨的一方揖庄，而是苦毒恨的那一方栗菜。把怨恨像毒藥一樣丟掉吧。
??There is no limit on better. Talent is distributed unfairly, but there is no limit on how much we can improve what we start with.
進步是無上限的蹄梢。個人的天分有異疙筹，但是我們?nèi)绾问褂锰旆痔嵘晕遥菦]有止境的禁炒。
??Be prepared: When you are 90% done any large project (a house, a film, an event, an app) the rest of the myriad details will take a second 90% to complete.
做好準(zhǔn)備：你的大項目（房子而咆、電影、活動或者 app) 完成進度已過90%幕袱，剩下的大量的細節(jié)可能還需要另一個90%才能完成暴备。
??When you die you take absolutely nothing with you except your reputation.
你死的時候，帶不走任何東西凹蜂，除了名聲。
??Before you are old, attend as many funerals as you can bear, and listen. Nobody talks about the departed’s achievements. The only thing people will remember is what kind of person you were while you were achieving.
在步入老年之前阁危，多參加幾個葬禮玛痊，并聽聽人們在說什么。沒有人在談?wù)撍勒叩某删涂翊颉Ｈ藗兾ㄒ徽務(wù)摰睦奚罚褪撬勒呱笆莻€怎么樣的人。
? For every dollar you spend purchasing something substantial, expect to pay a dollar in repairs, maintenance, or disposal by the end of its life.
你在實體物品上花的每一分錢趴乡，都得準(zhǔn)備好另一分錢花在之后的維修对省、保養(yǎng)和報廢上。
?Anything real begins with the fiction of what could be. Imagination is therefore the most potent force in the universe, and a skill you can get better at. It’s the one skill in life that benefits from ignoring what everyone else knows.
任何現(xiàn)實都始于想象晾捏。想象是世界上最強大的力量蒿涎，而且是你能磨練的技能。它是人生中唯一一項能夠從挑戰(zhàn)常識中獲益的技能惦辛。
??When crisis and disaster strike, don’t waste them. No problems, no progress.
危機和災(zāi)難發(fā)生時劳秋，抓住機會。沒有問題，沒有進步玻淑。
? On vacation go to the most remote place on your itinerary first, bypassing the cities. You’ll maximize the shock of otherness in the remote, and then later you’ll welcome the familiar comforts of a city on the way back.
度假時嗽冒，先跳過城市，去你行程的最遠端补履。你將充分領(lǐng)略異域風(fēng)情添坊，之后在返程中再迎來熟悉的都市節(jié)奏。
??When you get an invitation to do something in the future, ask yourself: would you accept this if it was scheduled for tomorrow? Not too many promises will pass that immediacy filter.
當(dāng)你受邀參與未來的某項事情時箫锤，問問自己：如果這事兒排在明天贬蛙，我會接受邀請嗎？很多承諾都經(jīng)不住這一拷問麻汰。
??Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they?will?read it.
如果有些話你無法對某人當(dāng)面說速客，那么也不要在郵件中提及，因為最終對方都會看到五鲫。
??If you desperately need a job, you are just another problem for a boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss.
如果你感覺自己非常需要工作溺职，那么你只是你老板的另一個麻煩；如果你能解決老板眼下的很多問題位喂，那么你就是真正被雇傭的萍倡。像你老板一樣思考。
? Art is in what you leave out.
藝術(shù)在于留白溯饵。
? Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will.
東西很少能夠給你帶來深層的滿足感惹苗。但是體驗可以。
? Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer.
研究的“七層次”原則规婆。如果你愿意走七層澜躺，那么你能搞懂任何事情。如果你找到的第一個人不知道抒蚜，問問他們你應(yīng)該向誰請教掘鄙，以此類推。如果你愿意走到第七層嗡髓，你幾乎總能得到答案操漠。
??How to apologize: Quickly, specifically, sincerely.
如何道歉：快速、具體饿这、真誠浊伙。
? Don’t ever respond to a solicitation or a proposal on the phone. The urgency is a disguise.
別在電話上對邀約和提議進行回應(yīng)。那種緊急感是假的长捧。
? When someone is nasty, rude, hateful, or mean with you, pretend they have a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy toward them which can soften the conflict.
如果有個人對你很壞嚣鄙、很粗魯、充滿敵意或者惡毒串结，那么你就假設(shè)對方有病拗慨。這有助于你產(chǎn)生對他們的同理心廓八，并緩解沖突。
? Eliminating clutter makes room for your true treasures.
丟掉雜物赵抢，對你真正有用的東西就有地方放了剧蹂。
??You really don’t want to be famous. Read the biography of any famous person.
成名的代價太大。讀讀任何一位名人的傳記烦却。
? Experience is overrated. When hiring, hire for aptitude, train for skills. Most really amazing or great things are done by people doing them for the first time.
工作經(jīng)驗不是最重要的宠叼。雇人重在才華、培訓(xùn)重在技能其爵。很多做得很好的人都是新手冒冬。
??A vacation + a disaster = an adventure.
假期+災(zāi)難=冒險。
??Buying tools: Start by buying the absolute cheapest tools you can find. Upgrade the ones you use a lot. If you wind up using some tool for a job, buy the very best you can afford.
關(guān)于買工具：一開始摩渺，只買最便宜的那些工具简烤。之后有些工具用得多的話，買些品質(zhì)更好的摇幻。最后如果有幾樣工具你一直都在用横侦，那就盡所能買最好的。
??Learn how to take a 20-minute power nap without embarrassment.
學(xué)會坦然地小睡20分鐘充電绰姻。
??Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is “master something, anything”. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is.
如果你不清楚自己真正的熱情所在枉侧，那么得過且過只會導(dǎo)致最終的麻木。大部分年輕人更應(yīng)該“精通某樣事物狂芋，任何事物”榨馁。精通了某樣事物，它會帶你不斷拓寬你的疆界帜矾，這會帶來喜悅翼虫，最終發(fā)現(xiàn)自己真正的幸福所在。
? I’m positive that in 100 years much of what I take to be true today will be proved to be wrong, maybe even embarrassingly wrong, and I try really hard to identify what it is that I am wrong about today.
我100%肯定屡萤，很多我現(xiàn)在認為對的事情珍剑，在將來都會被證明是錯的，甚至錯得離譜灭衷。我現(xiàn)在就努力在識別哪些是錯的次慢。
? Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore all the many problems we create; you just have to imagine improving our capacity to solve problems.
從長遠來看旁涤，是樂觀者決定了未來翔曲。想要成為一個樂觀的人，您并不需要無視所有的問題劈愚，你需要做的是想辦法提高自己解決問題的能力瞳遍。
? The universe is conspiring behind your back to make you a success. This will be much easier to do if you embrace this pronoia.
整個宇宙在你背后合謀，助力你的成功菌羽。如果你擁抱了這一想法掠械，成功就沒那么難了。
