To Love Well, Get Emotionally Recharged
好好去愛避矢,為情緒充電
Jan 18, 2017
“Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest’” (Mark 6:31 NIV).
他就說:“你們來我注,同我私下到荒野的地方去歇一歇停士。”這是因為來往的人多瞒窒,他們連吃飯的時間也沒有捺僻。(可6:31 和合本修訂版)
When your emotional tank is empty, you’re unable to keep on loving people. You just give up! You are overwhelmed and feel inadequate. You tend to get angry with the ones you love the most. You try to avoid people, and you see them as problems. You dream of getting away. David had this problem. He said, “If only I had wings like a dove — I would fly away and find rest” (Psalm 55:6 GW).
當你情緒池空了的時候,你就不能繼續(xù)愛別人崇裁。就會放棄匕坯!被壓倒并且感到不適。容易向你最愛的人發(fā)怒拔稳。你試圖去逃避葛峻,你視一切為煩惱。你想要逃跑巴比。大衛(wèi)就有這個問題术奖。他說:“但愿我有翅膀像鴿子,我就飛去轻绞,得享安息采记。”(詩篇55:6 和合本修訂版)
To keep on loving people, you have to keep your emotional tank full, because when it gets low, it’s going to make a difference in your relationships.
堅持去愛別人政勃,你就需要使你的情緒的蓄水池一直充滿挺庞,因為當它減少的時候,你與別人的關系就會變得不一樣稼病。
The Bible has three suggestions for recharging emotionally:
圣經(jīng)對于保持情緒有三個建議:
Solitude. You need time alone. Today’s verse tells us Jesus frequently withdrew from crowds when he needed to recharge himself emotionally. In this case there was so much hustle and bustle, Jesus told the disciples to “come apart” for a while (Mark 6:31 KJV). You either come apart or you will come apart. You need times of solitude.
獨處选侨。你需要時間獨處。今天的經(jīng)文告訴我們然走,當耶穌需要為情緒充電時援制,他經(jīng)常從人群中退出。這段描述中芍瑞,四圍又擠又吵晨仑,耶穌告訴門徒要“分開”一會。你或者分開拆檬,或者去分開洪己。你需要時間獨處。
Recreation. There are certain things that recreate energy and enthusiasm for life. For you it may be hobbies, a sport, a craft, or games. Experiment, find out what recharges you emotionally, and then make time for it.
重建竟贯。有些事情可以為生命重建能量和熱情答捕。對你來說可能是一個愛好,一個運動屑那,一個手工制作拱镐,或者游戲艘款。找到那些可以重建你情緒的事情,然后騰出時間去做沃琅。
One of my favorite verses says, “The Son of Man came, enjoying life” (Matthew 11:19 Phillips). Jesus was the most intensive, ministry-oriented person that ever lived, but he enjoyed life. Whatever your job is when you’re giving out to others, it costs and exhausts. You need play time.
我最喜歡的經(jīng)文之一是哗咆,“人子來了,也吃也喝”(太11:19 和合本修訂版)益眉。耶穌是以侍奉為本的人晌柬,但是他卻享受生活。不管你做什么郭脂,當你一直對別人付出時年碘,它使你耗盡精力。你就需要娛樂的時間朱庆。
Laughter. “Being cheerful keeps you healthy” (Proverbs 17:22 TEV). Studies prove that when you laugh, it increases the number of T-cells, which raises your immunity level, which produces endorphins in your brain. Humor has beneficial effects!
大笑∶葡椋“喜樂的心能治好疾病”(箴言17:22 和合本修訂版)娱颊。研究證明,當你笑的時候凯砍,T細胞數(shù)量就會增加箱硕,那可以增強你的免疫系統(tǒng),可以在你大腦中生產(chǎn)內(nèi)腓呔悟衩。幽默有會產(chǎn)生有益的影響剧罩!
God has given us the gift of laughter, and we need to learn how to laugh. I’ve talked to couples that were in serious conflict in their marriage. They would say, “Someday we’ll look back at this and laugh.” I say, “Why wait? Why not just laugh at it right now?” Laughter is a load lightener, an emotional recharger, and a love rebuilder.
笑是上帝給我們的禮物,我們需要學會如何笑座泳。我曾告訴過那些有嚴重沖突的夫妻們惠昔。他們會說,“有一天我們回過頭來看的時候挑势,就會笑镇防。”我說潮饱,“為什么要等到那一天呢来氧?為什么不現(xiàn)在就笑呢?”笑是一個減輕負擔機器香拉,一個保持情緒機器啦扬,也是一個愛的再造機。
Talk It Over
討論問題
What will have to change about your schedule or routine so that you can consistently experience solitude?
為了能有個固定的獨處時間凫碌,你的時間表要發(fā)生哪些改變扑毡?
What kind of recreation gives you more energy? How can you make it a regular part of your life?
哪些重建方式給你帶來更多的能量?你如何將這些作為自己生命中的一部分盛险?
In what ways can you model a cheerful lifestyle for your family?
用什么方法僚楞,你可以為你的家庭建立一個愉快的生活模式呢勤晚?