父母與孩子是平等的零抬。錯怪孩子镊讼，應(yīng)該當(dāng)面承認(rèn)錯誤。原文作者為紐約州少年教育協(xié)會朱麗亞·布里茲博士平夜。
向小女兒道歉
（美國）朱麗亞·布里茲? 王志成（編譯）
家里來了客人蝶棋，在吃飯時，4歲的女兒琳達(dá)將吃了一半的加勒比海蝦吐了出來忽妒，連喊味道不好玩裙。
加勒比海蝦是今天才買的，大家都吃了段直，并沒發(fā)現(xiàn)異味吃溅，唯獨(dú)女兒喊味道不好，我想鸯檬，這一定是她“人來瘋”决侈，故意調(diào)皮搗蛋。在眾多客人面前這樣不文明喧务，我一氣之下伸手給了她一巴掌赖歌。
當(dāng)時，琳達(dá)雖沒有哭出聲功茴，但眼淚像斷了線的珠子往下掉庐冯。
飯后客人走了，我將女兒的不是講給妻子凱倫聽坎穿。凱倫卻說這不怪女兒展父，怪她自己。原來玲昧，頭天晚上吃剩的一些海蝦忘了放冰箱栖茉，今天上午妻子又買了海蝦，在烹飪時孵延，順手將昨天吃剩的幾只海蝦放了進(jìn)去吕漂，女兒吃的海蝦肯定是昨天剩的。
看來隙袁，確實(shí)是我錯怪了女兒。
傍晚弃榨，琳達(dá)從幼兒園回來菩收，早把中午的委屈忘得一干二凈，可我一直放心不下：平時孩子做錯了事鲸睛，我們呵斥娜饵，甚至體罰，讓她認(rèn)錯官辈，但我們做父母的錯怪了孩子箱舞，就這樣算了嗎遍坟？
吃過晚飯，我將琳達(dá)叫進(jìn)書房晴股，當(dāng)著她媽媽的面愿伴，向琳達(dá)認(rèn)了錯，請她原諒爸爸电湘。女兒表現(xiàn)得若有所思的樣子：“我一直等你道歉呢隔节，你終于道了歉，算你還是一個誠實(shí)的爸爸寂呛≡踅耄”
父母對孩子負(fù)有管教的義務(wù)，孩子做錯了事贷痪，有責(zé)任批評教育幻妓，有時不妨嚴(yán)格一點(diǎn)。但是劫拢，在人格上父母與孩子是平等的肉津，孩子也有自尊心。當(dāng)父母一時疏忽錯怪了孩子尚镰，就應(yīng)該誠懇地當(dāng)面向孩子承認(rèn)錯誤阀圾，求得孩子的諒解。這樣不但不會損害父母在孩子心目中的威信和尊嚴(yán)狗唉，而且通過感情上的平等交流初烘，會更加融洽孩子與父母間的關(guān)系，使孩子增強(qiáng)明辨是非的觀念分俯。
“當(dāng)然肾筐，要做父母的當(dāng)面向稚氣未脫的孩子認(rèn)錯道歉，是需要有點(diǎn)勇氣的缸剪÷痤恚”我對凱倫說，“可為了建立我們父母與孩子之間的和諧關(guān)系杏节，讓琳達(dá)在健康文明的家庭環(huán)境中成長唬渗，我們非得這樣做不可》苡妫”
對此镊逝，妻子凱倫也很贊同。
Apologize to the youngest daughter
Julia Blitz
Home to the guests, at dinner, four year old daughter Linda will eat half of the Caribbean shrimp spit on the floor, and even shouting bad taste. The Caribbean sea shrimp is today to buy, all eat, and no smell, but the daughter called taste is not good, I think, it is certain that she made a "Crazy", deliberately mischievous. In front of so many guests uncivilized, I angrily reached out and gave her a slap. At that time, although Linda did not cry, but tears like broken wire beads down.
After dinner, the guests left, I will not speak to his daughter Karen wife. Karen said this thing is not to blame her daughter, blame her. Originally, some shrimp night leftover forget the fridge this morning, his wife bought shrimp in cooking, he will be a few leftover shrimp yesterday put in, daughter to eat shrimp is certainly left yesterday.
It is indeed my daughter wronged.
In the evening, Linda got home from the kindergarten, early to noon reluctantly forgotten, but I've been worried: usually the child does something wrong, we shouted, even corporal punishment, let her admit, but we do parents wronged child, that is it? After dinner, I called Linda into the study, in front of her mother's face, to recognize Linda wrong, please forgive her father. Thoughtful daughter said: "I have been waiting for you to apologize? You finally apologized for being an honest father."
Parents have the obligation to discipline their children, the child did something wrong, have the responsibility to criticize education, and sometimes it may be a little strict. However, on the personality of the parents and children are equal, the child has self-esteem. When parents inadvertently wronged child, should be sincere when facing the children to admit mistakes, obtain the children's understanding. This will not only damage the parents in the eyes of the child's prestige and dignity, but also through the emotional exchange of equality, will be more harmonious relationship between children and their parents, so that children can enhance the concept of right and wrong.
Of course, parents face to face childish child apology, needs a bit of courage; "I said to Karen," but, in order to establish a harmonious relationship between our parents and children, let Linda grow up in a healthy and civilized family environment, we have to do this."
In this regard, his wife Karen also agreed.
