《The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People》 by Stephen R. Covey
The book covers 7 habits/principles to help personal change and growth.
Habit 1: Be Proactive-personal vision (積極主動(dòng)-個(gè)人愿景的原則）
Proactive people enlarge the Circle of Influence by changing the things in it, while reactive people reduce the Circle of Influence due to focus on things in the circle of concern which they could not change.? ??
Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.
Self-awareness-look as an observer at our involvement
Imagination—the ability to create in our minds beyond our present reality.
Conscience—a deep inner awareness of right and wrong, of the principles that govern our behavior, and a sense of the degree to which our thoughts and actions are in harmony with them.
Independent will—the ability to act based on our self-awareness, free of all other influences.
Proactive: the? "Be's"; Inside-out; reactive: the "Have's"; Outside-in
To change the view and thinking framework would help to build up the proactive attitude.?
~Experience: I shared a lot things about my work with my husband. Sometimes, I?feel I have to follow his advice because he gave me quite a lot pressure, which is typical reactive language.? I have the freedom to choose how to respond to my own career stimulus. If I choose to follow his suggest, it should be my choice. I should not blame him when negative results happen.?
~Aciton: Think about the career direction in the proactive model.
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind-Personal Leadership (以終為始——自我領(lǐng)導(dǎo)的原則)
All things are created twice. First time is created by ourselves when we have the clear vision of what we want to achieve in the end.?
Habit 3: Put first things first-personal management （要事第一——自我管理的原則）
Organize and execute around priorities:
~Experience:我在易效能學(xué)的時(shí)間管理體系是基于GTD思想的，兩者的目的都是要做到要事優(yōu)先。但相比本書(shū)提出得四象限法則动羽，GTD體系更靈活磁奖，更容易落地效扫。
~Aciton: 繼續(xù)通過(guò)“滴答清單”和晨間日記來(lái)執(zhí)行要是有先法則谱轨。
Habit 4: Think Win/Win-Principles of Interpersonal (雙贏思維-人際領(lǐng)導(dǎo)的原則)
empathic共情在溝通技巧里不算一個(gè)很新的概念劈榨，強(qiáng)調(diào)的是要傾聽(tīng)對(duì)方的想法橄浓，而不是套用自己的經(jīng)驗(yàn)粒梦。
章節(jié)末的練習(xí)建議不太好落地。
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be understood——Principles of Empathic Communication (知彼解肌-移情溝通的原則)
empathic共情在溝通技巧里不算一個(gè)很新的概念荸实，強(qiáng)調(diào)的是要傾聽(tīng)對(duì)方的想法匀们，而不是套用自己的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。
章節(jié)末的練習(xí)建議不太好落地准给。
Habit 6: Synergy（綜合效用——?jiǎng)?chuàng)造性合作的原則）
以前做并購(gòu)的時(shí)候每次寫(xiě)報(bào)告都要談這個(gè)synergy,一般商界翻譯成協(xié)同效應(yīng)泄朴。本書(shū)的中文版稱(chēng)之為綜合效用，我覺(jué)得不是特別妥當(dāng)露氮。
我理解書(shū)里的意思還是要強(qiáng)調(diào)團(tuán)隊(duì)寫(xiě)作祖灰，大家互相信任的基礎(chǔ)上，知無(wú)不言言無(wú)不盡畔规，期待智慧的碰撞局扶，特別是brain storming或者開(kāi)會(huì)的時(shí)候，以期望達(dá)到最大產(chǎn)出。
如果能這樣當(dāng)然是最好三妈，但是組織中每一個(gè)小團(tuán)隊(duì)畜埋、每一個(gè)個(gè)體的目標(biāo)都不一樣，合作的基礎(chǔ)不一定存在畴蒲。高強(qiáng)度的信任也是需要組織文化的支持悠鞍。
Habit 7: Renewal, sharpen the saw
~知識(shí): 磨刀不誤砍柴工，身體是革命的本錢(qián)饿凛，說(shuō)的都是這個(gè)意思狞玛。
Physical: exercise 3-6 hours per week
Endurance: Aerobic exercise such as running & swimming,
Flexibility
Strength
Spiritual: meditation
Mental:Reading, planning and writing?
Social/emotional
Renewal empowers us to move on an upward spiral of growth and change of continuous improvement.
經(jīng)驗(yàn)：易效能的八大關(guān)注平衡人生基本上包含了本書(shū)提出的四個(gè)方面。我也發(fā)現(xiàn)身心健康涧窒，可以讓我精力旺盛心肪，在吃青蛙的時(shí)候更加事半功倍，更可以使我心智堅(jiān)定纠吴，遇到挫折的時(shí)候能自我調(diào)節(jié)硬鞍，迎難而上。
總結(jié)：
習(xí)慣2/4/5/6講得比較泛泛戴已，沒(méi)有實(shí)際的落地建議固该。
習(xí)慣3的四象限法則實(shí)操也比較困難，不如GTD好用糖儡。
習(xí)慣7中提到的一些好習(xí)慣伐坏，如健身、閱讀握联、冥想最近一年已經(jīng)在逐步增加桦沉，繼續(xù)保持。
相對(duì)比較有收獲的是習(xí)慣1 proatice金闽，對(duì)于外部環(huán)境快速的變化纯露，我們可以自由選擇我們的意識(shí)，然后做出反應(yīng)代芜，而不是聽(tīng)從我們的本能生理或心理反應(yīng)埠褪，或者在尋找責(zé)怪的人或事。
