努力是一個(gè)我不喜歡且盡量避免的詞。
下面我來試圖解釋一下為什么努力在我眼中是一個(gè)負(fù)面詞匯。
首先瞭恰，讓我們想想，什么樣的人會(huì)崇尚努力狱庇？
應(yīng)該是那些有所追求的惊畏，并且希望通過自己的努力來改變生活的人∶苋危可能有些人表面上會(huì)告訴別人颜启，他們喜歡自己努力的樣子或者努力的過程。但是浪讳，其實(shí)大部分人努力的內(nèi)在動(dòng)機(jī)就是提高他們現(xiàn)在的生活狀態(tài)缰盏。比如，在學(xué)生時(shí)代淹遵，小朋友的努力為了學(xué)習(xí)成績更好口猜，工作后，年輕人的努力是為了讓自己掙更多的錢透揣，或者是讓自己事業(yè)有成獲得社會(huì)地位暮的。所以，總而言之淌实，努力是大部分人通往他們眼中“成功”的目的地的一個(gè)手段。
那么猖腕，讓我們來想一下, 如果我們想要的是成功拆祈。(這里對(duì)成功的定義是： 是逐步實(shí)現(xiàn)有價(jià)值的目標(biāo)或理想。), 努力是不是一個(gè)好的手段?
The definition of success: Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal. Earl Nightingale
我當(dāng)然認(rèn)為它不是一個(gè)好的手段倘感。我們可以去尋找一下滿足世俗社會(huì)定義的那些“成功人士”放坏，他們的成功是不是源于努力。 （ 不要去看他們寫的自傳老玛，自傳往往會(huì)弱化外界環(huán)境以及機(jī)遇的影響而強(qiáng)調(diào)自身的努力淤年。）事實(shí)上钧敞，大部分人的成功來源于有一個(gè)良好的家庭（因而早期受到很好的教育，在事業(yè)初期有資本等等）和他們所做的事情順應(yīng)了時(shí)代發(fā)展的潮流麸粮，同時(shí)溉苛，他們做的事情適合他們的內(nèi)在外在的素質(zhì)。我們的印象中弄诲，很多人的成功來源于努力是因?yàn)樾侣労碗娪暗让襟w更喜歡去尋找并報(bào)導(dǎo)這樣的故事愚战。
So many of those I've seen who've had tremendous results in their life - people to whom joyous things happened materially, with relationships, and health-wise-don't seem to put out very much physical energy to receive these things. They seem to work a lot less than a lot of the other folks who seem to work much harder but who then receive so much less. So where does the physical work, or action part, fit into your recipe for creating what we want? You did not come into this environment to create through action.Instead, your action is meant to be a way in which you enjoy what you have created through thought. When you really feel like jumping into action, that is a clear sign that your vibration is pure and you are not offering contradictory thoughts to your own desire. When you are having a hard time making yourself do something, or when the action you offer does not produce the results you are seeking, it is always because you are offering thoughts in opposition to your desire. Action that is inspired from aligned thought is joyful action. Action that is offered from a place of contradicted thought is hard work that is not satisfying and does not yield good results. You are mostly physical-action Beings at this time because you do not yet understand the power of your thought. When you are better at applying your deliberate thought, there will not be so much action for you to tend to.
而且，我更想要提醒的是齐遵，如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己在做某件事上需要努力寂玲，那么很大程度上，你所努力的方向是錯(cuò)誤的梗摇。我們不得不承認(rèn)拓哟，人和人之間千差萬別，可能有的人有藝術(shù)細(xì)胞伶授，那么他們從事藝術(shù)行業(yè)是水到渠成的事情断序，而其他人適合從政，那么他們可能更容易在政治上平步青云谎砾。如果逢倍，讓一個(gè)適合藝術(shù)創(chuàng)造的人來從政的話，就是一個(gè)“事倍功半”甚至是“事倍無功”的選擇景图。這也是為什么很多“雞湯文”會(huì)說“選擇比努力重要”這不無道理较雕。
這里，我想拿五條人來舉例子挚币。仁科和阿茂都是從小沒有受到很好的音樂教育的亮蒋，可以對(duì)比Mandarin。他們學(xué)習(xí)樂器的時(shí)間妆毕，在現(xiàn)在家長眼中很晚慎玖。于是，在采訪的時(shí)候經(jīng)常會(huì)被問到怎么堅(jiān)持或者努力學(xué)習(xí)樂器的笛粘。 他們的回答是認(rèn)為練習(xí)樂器來源于熱愛趁怔，并不需要努力，這是自然而然的事情薪前。（見專訪五條人樂隊(duì)（2）我們都是“導(dǎo)”字輩兒的對(duì)喵說 和《五條人：該尷尬就尷尬》)
"上初中迷上搖滾樂润努，是因?yàn)榭戳四r三杰在紅勘體育館的演出，覺得竇唯示括、唐朝他們拿個(gè)電吉他甩頭發(fā)很酷铺浇，就抱個(gè)掃把在家里模仿。后來到處找人學(xué)吉他垛膝，你感興趣就會(huì)想辦法去接觸這些鳍侣，我們不會(huì)像那些從小被家長逼著練樂器的孩子丁稀，不覺得玩音樂是需要努力堅(jiān)持的事情。" 茂濤 《五條人：該尷尬就尷尬》
最后倚聚，我想說說我認(rèn)為人生的意義线衫。人生是用來經(jīng)歷和體驗(yàn)的。我們最終達(dá)到什么目標(biāo)秉沼，如何成功并不重要桶雀。真正重要的是，我們?cè)诿恳惶煊袥]有感受到愛唬复，感受到世界自然的細(xì)微美好矗积，有沒有感覺到自己身心靈的合一和自由。而在這個(gè)大前提下敞咧，努力是“扭曲”我們而存在的棘捣，是和我們的內(nèi)心背道而馳的行為。如果我們像老子提倡的那樣休建，放下“為”而去嘗試“無為”乍恐，也許，我們最終的結(jié)果反而是順著生活的浪潮前行, 因而不費(fèi)力氣地“無不為” 测砂。
Nature Does Not Hurry, Yet Everything Is Accomplished. - Lao Tzu
道恒無為茵烈，而無不為∑鲂—— 老子呜投。
You are born. What effort have you made to be born?
You grow. What effort have you made to grow?
You breathe. What effort have you made to breathe?
Everything moves on its own, so why bother?
Let life flow on its own; then you will be in a let-go.
Don't struggle and don't try to move upstream, don't even try to swim; just float with the current and let the current lead you wherever it leads. Be a white cloud moving in the sky - no goal, going nowhere, just floating. That floating is the ultimate flowering.
