2.14情人節(jié)剛過去不久媒吗，而我依然單身。已經(jīng)大概有一個(gè)月沒有學(xué)習(xí)《天天用英語》乙埃，正好碰到這個(gè)關(guān)于愛情系列闸英，因此借此機(jī)會重新開始用起來，另一個(gè)更為重要目的介袜，就是為了初步建立自己愛情觀甫何，至少播下一顆種子。
愛情
? ?Love is life's greatest blessing.
As EBB is reported to have said to her husband RB:
? ? I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
? ? I love you not only for what have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.
? ? I love you for the part of me that you bring out.
positive psychology of Harvard
Relationships--close, intimate relationships, whether it's with lovers, whether it's with family members, whether it's with close soul mates, friends, is No.1 predictor of happiness.
愛情的幸福度與什么相關(guān)
財(cái)富和相貌能增加戀愛的幾率遇伞，但是跟幸福的愛情生活基本沒有什么關(guān)系辙喂；擇偶的三個(gè)更優(yōu)的選擇：個(gè)性合適、感情連接的方式鸠珠、行為模式
這跟笑來老師選擇伴侶時(shí)候給的建議如出一轍：
尋找同級別的操作系統(tǒng)
要升級就大家一塊兒升級
七年之癢
七年之癢的科學(xué)依據(jù)：喜愛程度每年遞減3%巍耗；性吸引力每年遞減8%
笑來老師的解釋：
七年就是一輩子，一輩子都過去了渐排，下輩子還要過同樣的生活炬太，多膩歪啊。
笑來老師給的解決方法驯耻，還是上面提到的方法：
所以亲族，兩個(gè)人中炒考，至少要有一個(gè)人升級，最好先升級的那個(gè)能幫助另一個(gè)也升級…… 升級之后霎迫，就是另外一個(gè)天地斋枢，另外一番光景，開心都開心不過來呢女气，哪兒有功夫雞毛蒜皮杏慰？
共同創(chuàng)建協(xié)議，
共同遵守協(xié)議炼鞠，
共同升級協(xié)議……
solutions of positive psychology
First, that relationship is about hard work. If you want to thrive at work, you need to work hard; if you want to thrive in a relationship, you need to invest.
Second, we'll talk about how to invest. That the best relationships are ones that create high levels of intimacy that get to know one another in a deeper level. In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning. They don't just "get along"--they also support each other's hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose into their lives together.
Third, the best relationships are not, relationships that devoid of conflict.
And finally it is about appreciating the positive. Because when we appreciate the good, the good appreciates, whether in ourselves or in others.
關(guān)于愛的能力的具體方法描述缘滥，一定要回去重新學(xué)習(xí)Tal Ben的positive psychology.
我的心愿
祝福自己在不久的將來找到自己心愛的人，而現(xiàn)在谒主，持續(xù)學(xué)習(xí)朝扼，不斷進(jìn)步。
To be a better man.
