Part 1 概要及感悟：
Habit 3"要事第一”建立在Habit 1 “積極主動(dòng)”和Habit 2 “以始為終”基礎(chǔ) 之上步咪，這正為什么第四代時(shí)間管理方法遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)優(yōu)于第一、二离唐、三代時(shí)間管理方法的原因。
第一，它清楚定義了什么是“要事”蹈集。
何謂要事first things？不是今天要參加某個(gè)會(huì)雇初，要回幾個(gè)人的電話拢肆，要寫(xiě)某個(gè)報(bào)告，這里的“要事”指的是那些有助于你實(shí)現(xiàn)長(zhǎng)期目標(biāo)靖诗，幫助你建立良好的人際關(guān)系郭怪，挖掘人生新機(jī)會(huì)，維持P/PC產(chǎn)出與產(chǎn)能平衡刊橘，人生規(guī)劃等等這些事情相關(guān)的事件鄙才。比如我想三年后成為一個(gè)插畫(huà)師，那我每天堅(jiān)持畫(huà)畫(huà)就是非常重要的事情促绵，而不是可有可無(wú)的事情攒庵。同理嘴纺，如果你希望一年后英文報(bào)紙圖書(shū)閱讀無(wú)障礙，那么每天堅(jiān)持讀英文就是一件重要而不緊急的事叙甸。
第二颖医，明白人生的“要事”，你就不會(huì)偏離軌道裆蒸，被瑣事?tīng)恐亲幼呷巯簟Ｃ刻烀γγΓ瑓s沒(méi)有找到真正的自己僚祷。你會(huì)明白你的時(shí)間應(yīng)該著重分配給什么事情佛致。
第三，所謂時(shí)間管理辙谜，管理的是人而不是事俺榆，人的高效是effecitve, 做事高效是efficient, 作者反復(fù)強(qiáng)調(diào)的是個(gè)人管理而不是時(shí)間管理。
做事有效不代表你是個(gè)高效的人装哆，如果你的大方向不對(duì)罐脊，做事高效只是白白浪費(fèi)你的時(shí)間和精力。讀完這章蜕琴，我發(fā)現(xiàn)自己其實(shí)一困在做事高效的時(shí)間圈套中萍桌，且洋洋自得。比如平時(shí)聽(tīng)音頻凌简，看視頻都喜歡加速上炎，即使語(yǔ)速快的，我也會(huì)調(diào)到1.25倍聽(tīng)雏搂；網(wǎng)購(gòu)花時(shí)間藕施，買(mǎi)書(shū)不想湊運(yùn)費(fèi)，所以果斷地買(mǎi)了亞馬遜prime會(huì)員凸郑；做家務(wù)的時(shí)候都會(huì)戴耳機(jī)聽(tīng)音頻裳食；能讓別人做的事情，盡量不去自己做等等线椰。說(shuō)到底胞谈，這些運(yùn)用時(shí)間的小技能雖然可以幫助你節(jié)約時(shí)間，但這些不是最根本的憨愉，做什么事情取決于你的Personal Mission Statement,烦绳。我們不能一直只看到手邊的事情，忽略了你的內(nèi)心——你希望成為什么樣的人配紫，你的目標(biāo)是什么径密。
第四、成功的個(gè)人管理不是在某一個(gè)領(lǐng)域成功躺孝，而是平衡享扔，如果你事業(yè)有成底桂，卻婚姻破碎，這不算成功惧眠；如果你事業(yè)有功籽懦，身體地透支，同樣不算成功的個(gè)人管理氛魁。
第五暮顺，知道時(shí)間管理的本質(zhì)是一回事，開(kāi)始時(shí)間管理才是最重要的秀存。
Habit 2和Habit 3的關(guān)系：habit2 處于引領(lǐng)人生的位置捶码，habit 3 是如何管理人生。
Part 2 Summary
Habit 2 Begin with the End in Mind
To “Begin With The End In Mind” simply means to start with a clear understanding of your destination. It means to know where you’re going so that you better understand where you are now and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction.
The most effective way to begin with the end in mind is to develop a personal mission statement. Your mission statement makes you the leader of your own life.? A personal mission statement based on correct principles and it becomes a personal constitution and the basis for making major, life-directing decisions. It empowers individuals with the same timeless strength in the midst of change.
Once you have the sense of mission, you have the essence of your own proactivity. You create your own destiny and secure the future you envision. You have the basic direction from which your set your long-term and short terms goals.
Break your mission down into the specific role areas of your life and goals you want to accomplish in each area.
- Role
Writing your mission in terms of the important role in your life gives you balance and harmony. It keeps each role clearly before you.
After identifying your various role, then you can think about the long-term goals you want to accomplish in each of those roles.
- Goal
An effective goal focuses primarily on results rather than activity, which identifies where you want to be and helps you determine where you are. It can finally translate itself into daily activities so that you are proactive, you are in charge of your life.
Roles and goals give structure and organized direction to your personal mission.
Habit 3 Put First Things First
Habit 3 is the exercise of independent will toward becoming principle centered.
Four Generations of Time Management
- the first: Notes and checklists
- the second: Calendars and appointment books
- the third: Prioritization, clarifying values, comparing the relative of worth of activities
- the fourth Preserving and enhancing relationships and accomplishing results
Convey introduces the Fourth generation which focuses on preserving and enhancing relations and on accomplishing results, on maintaining the P/PC Balance.
Quadrant II
Quadrant II is the heart of effective personal management. It deals with things that are not urgent, but are important. It deals with things like building relationships, writing personal mission statement , long-range planning ,exercising, preventive maintenance, preparation etc.
There is a jargon in time management, 80 percent of the results flow out of 20 percent of the activities.
The Quadrant II Tool
The objective of quadrant II management is to manage our lives effectively.
A Quadrant II organizer will meet six criteria:
Coherence. Harmony, unity, and integrity between vision and mission, priorities and plans, and desires and discipline.
Becoming A Quadrant II Self-manager
- Identify roles
- Select goals
- Schedule
The author recommends weekly schedule.
- Daily Adapt
Delegation: Increasing P and PC
Stewardship delegation involves expectations in five areas:
- Desired results
- Guidelines
- Resources
- Accountability
Part 3 Words and Expressions
1. He records that he was almost loath to leave his prison cell because it was there that he realized that real success is success with self. It's not in having things, but in having mastery, having victory over self.
be loath to: 不樂(lè)意的或链；不情愿的惫恼；勉強(qiáng)的；If you are loath to do something, you do not want to do it.
2. Feelings of self-worth are volatile, a function of the emotional state or behavior of other people.
volatile: 能被表示程度的副詞或介詞詞組修飾的形容詞]易變的;動(dòng)蕩不定的;反復(fù)無(wú)常的澳盐；A situation that isvolatileis likely to change suddenly and unexpectedly.
3. The left deals with sequential thinking; the right with simultaneous and holistic thinking.
holistic: 整體論的;整體主義的祈纯；Holistic means based on the principles of holism.
這個(gè)詞義還是蠻好記， 因?yàn)閺陌l(fā)音上跟whole的前半部分是一樣的叼耙。
4. It brings out the very best in people.
bring out the best/worst in sb: to make someone behave in the best or worst way that they can: 把最好的／最壞的一面暴露出來(lái)
The fighting with his girlfriend? brought out the worst in him.
Consequences
