Speaker: Kio Stark
Key words:陌生人 交流 社會(huì) 標(biāo)簽化
Abstract: 演講者Kio Stark女士經(jīng)歷和觀察告訴了她：如果我們能夠推翻對(duì)陌生人的成見(jiàn)會(huì)帶來(lái)意想不到的驚喜。
Content:
Introduction: social meaning of greating: tell others hey I know you are here!(noticing~)
Background: why we don't talk to strangers:
- category of strangers vs individual: we are educated to label strangers in the "untrusted category" as a whole instead of using perceptions and make choice
Two cons of talking with strangers:
- liberate human nature in socializing
- quick interaction lead to fleeting intimacy(短暫親密)[交通要道上一個(gè)善意的提醒、博物館里對(duì)某幅畫(huà)三言兩語(yǔ)的交流沈跨、清晨與鄰舍一聲簡(jiǎn)短的問(wèn)候,都可以成為一段美好的片刻]
Why people feel more comfortable being honest and open to strangers than to their families and friends：
- a quick interaction have no consequence (you will never see he/she again!)
- we have bias to person close to us (we assume they understand us for granted leading to lack of communication)
How to start talking to strangers:
principle: balance of civility and privacy depending on cultrue
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ways recommended:
smile: find someone who have eye contacts with you→smile[友好示人微笑]
comment: make comments about the third thing and see if it starts a conversation[等待接話]
noticing: give a compliment on shoes/dogs/baby[你這雙鞋/只狗/孩子好漂亮啊]
disclosure: tell something personal and true about yourself [敞開(kāi)心扉]
Sumary: talking to strangers can do benifits to us, so go do it.
