Did you know that people without friends are more likely to die an early death?
你可知沒有朋友的人更容易早逝嗎伪冰？
It’s true. Just ask science.
真的。這有科學依據的樟蠕。
To up your chances of living a long, happy life, having a bunch of fair-weather buddies won’t do trick. You need a diverse, well-rounded entourage that withe ll stick with you through thick and thin. The following eight types of friends are just what you need to keep the doctor away.
為了加大過上健康長壽生活的機會贮聂，一幫不能共患難的伙計是起不了作用的。你反而需要力挺你到底寨辩、能夠同甘共苦的朋友吓懈。下面的8類朋友就可以讓你健在安康。
1. A Loyal Best Friend 忠誠密友
Sometimes a loyal best friend is the only thing you need to stay sane. Everyone needs a non-judgmental friend who will support them no matter what. This is the kind of friend who lets you be a hot mess and knows all of your deepest and darkest secrets, but still loves you all the same.
有時一個忠誠密友是你保持理智唯一需要的靡狞。每個人都需要這樣一個朋友耻警，無論發(fā)生什么事情，對方都會支持你，而不是如何判斷你榕栏。在這種朋友面前你可以毫無掩飾畔勤，他盡管知道你所有最深沉、最陰暗的秘密扒磁，但仍然會愛你庆揪。
2. A Fearless Adventurer 無畏的冒險家
We live in a big world where there are so many places to see, people to meet, and experiences to be had, yet so many of us are stuck in our own routines and forget to, well, live. We all need an adventurous friend who will pull us out of our shells and introduce us to new ideas, cultures, philosophies, and activities.
我們身處大千世界，還有很多地方沒有走過妨托，很多人沒有見過缸榛，很多經歷沒有體會過，但我們卻仍然困禁在自我設定的路線里兰伤，忘了生活内颗。所以每個人都需要一位敢于冒險的朋友，他可以把我們領出陳規(guī)敦腔，給我們展示新鮮的想法均澳、文化、哲理和活動符衔。
3. A Brutally Honest Confidant 心直口快的知己
There’s certain situations in life where we need to hear the harsh truth. That’s what the brutally honest confidant is for. If you’re in a rocky relationship and everyone’s telling you that it’s perfectly normal that you’re back with that special someone for the 8th time in the last 2 years, the brutally honest confidant is there to yank your rose-colored glasses off and tell you, “Enough. Stop with all that break-up-and-get-back-together drama. You deserve better.” Friends are supposed to be honest with each other. If you find someone who is brutally honest with you (in a constructive way), then hold on to this person! People like that are hard to come by these days.
生活中我們必然會需要聽一些殘酷的事實找前。這就是為什么需要心直口快的知己的原因了。如果你在談一段不穩(wěn)定的戀情判族，每個人都告訴你兩年里和那個人分分合合8次太正常不過了躺盛，但你的好知己就會摘掉你的玫瑰色眼鏡并告訴你“夠了。停止你那分分合合的情感大戲形帮。你值得更好的人槽惫。”朋友就應該相互坦誠辩撑。如果你發(fā)現有人對你敢說真話（以一種建設性的方式）界斜，那么就抓住這個人！畢竟這種朋友現在很難遇到槐臀。
4. A Wise Mentor 一個明智的導師
Jesse Jackson once said, “Never look down on someone unless you’re helping them up.” If you have someone smart, inspiring, and admirable in your life who practices this philosophy, you’re extremely lucky. We all need a friend who inspires us to be better people without making us feel inadequate. Plus, being around such a person will challenge us to better ourselves every day.
杰西.杰克遜曾說過锄蹂，“永遠不要瞧不起別人，除非你在幫助他水慨〉妹樱”如果你生命中有這樣一個睿智、鼓舞人心晰洒、令人敬佩的人在實踐這條真理朝抖，那你就太幸運了。我們人人都需要一個這樣的朋友來鼓勵我們成為更好的人谍珊，而非讓我們覺得自己有所不足治宣。此外，跟這樣的朋友在一起，每天我們都能挑戰(zhàn)自己變得愈加優(yōu)秀侮邀。
The wise mentor in your life doesn’t have to be someone who shares the same occupation or hobbies with you. It’s simply someone who’s a few steps ahead of you in life and has enough wisdom and patience to guide you in the right direction. It can be anyone — a colleague, a friend who’s beyond their years, or an older neighbor — as long as you look up to this person and want to be more like them.
生活中所謂明智的導師并非必須得有相同的職業(yè)或愛好坏怪。他單單只要人生閱歷略微比你豐富，有足夠的智慧和耐心去為你指引對的方向绊茧。任何人都可以-無論是同事铝宵，還是比自己年長許多的朋友，或者年長的鄰居都行-只要你尊重此人并渴望和對方一樣华畏。
5. A Friend From a Different Culture 擁有不同文化的朋友
The last thing you want to be described as is someone who’s stuck in their own ways. If everyone had a friend from a different culture, the world would be a much better place. Being in a cross-cultural friendship allows you to explore customs, values, and traditions outside of your own culture. Sometimes you might even adopt new ways to do things.
你最不想被形容成墨守陳規(guī)鹏秋。如果人人都有一個來自不同文化的朋友，這個世界將會更加美好亡笑。締交一段跨文化的友誼能夠讓你走出自己的文化去探索對方的習俗侣夷、價值觀和傳統(tǒng)。有時你甚至可能會學習一些新的處事方式仑乌。
Be careful： don’t befriend someone just because they’re from a different culture. No one likes to be a token friend. Instead, keep your mind open, and if you come across someone you click with who just so happens to be from a different culture, make the effort to learn about their customs, values, and traditions while getting to know the person on a personal level.
但要注意：不要為了交不同文化的朋友而去交朋友百拓。沒有人愿意當充場面的朋友。相反晰甚，你要放眼世界耐版，如果你碰巧遇見了來自不同文化的人，那就在和此人泛泛相交時盡量去學習對方的習俗压汪、價值觀和傳統(tǒng)。
6. A Polar Opposite 和你世界觀不同的人
We humans are hard-wired to get together in groups and attack outsiders — the human pack mentality, if you will. If you only develop friendships with others who follow the same beliefs, customs, and values as you do, chances are you’re somewhat detached from the rest of the world, and you’re more likely to perpetuate stereotypes on anyone who holds a different world view from you.
我們人類天生就是群居并會攻擊外來者的物種-這是典型的人類心態(tài)古瓤。如果你只與和你有著相同信仰止剖、習俗、價值觀的人來往落君，那么你就有可能會與世界的其余部分脫節(jié)穿香，而你也更有可能會用老套的觀點來看與你大相徑庭的人。
Instead of constantly surrounding yourself with like-minded people, try to break out of your comfort zone and befriend people who hold opposing views. They will help open your eyes to different world views and you’ll learn to accept people who don’t see the world exactly the way you see it.
為了不要只和想法相似的人來往绎速，你要走出你的舒適區(qū)皮获，去和觀點相反的人做朋友。他們會用不同的世界觀來幫助你開闊眼界纹冤，并且你也會懂得接受用完全和你不同的眼光去看世界的人洒宝。
7. A Friendly Neighbor 友善的鄰居
These days, a lot of people don’t know their own neighbors. It’s a shame, because some neighbors can be the nicest and most helpful people ever. If you’re on a vacation, and you suddenly realize that you forgot to lock the front door, you can call up your trusty ol’ neighbor and ask them to head over to your house and lock it for you. Nice dependable neighbors who have each other’s backs are a dying breed, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t introduce yourself to the new neighbors across the street!
現今，很多人都不了解他們的鄰居萌京。真可惜雁歌，因為有的鄰居可以成為最好的同時也是最有幫助的人。如果你外出旅行知残，途中突然想起大門忘了上鎖靠瞎，那你就可以打電話給你信得過的鄰居，讓他們去看看你的房子，幫你上鎖乏盐。相互支持又值得信賴的鄰居很少了佳窑，但那并不意味著你就不能跨過大街向新鄰居介紹自己。
8. A Work Pal 工作伙伴
Did you know that with a full-time job, you spend at least 50% of your waking hours at work? Not only that, but you spend some more time commuting to work, thinking about work, working overtime, and furthering your career on your personal time. Depressing, isn’t it?
你知道全職工作的你在醒著的時間里至少有50%是在工作嗎父能？不僅如此神凑，你還會花更多的時間在上下班的路上、思考工作的事情法竞、加班并用非工作時間去發(fā)展事業(yè)耙厚。很沮喪，不是么岔霸？
Statistics show that the more isolated you are at work, the more depressed you get. That’s why it makes sense to get a work pal to chat with at the water cooler and to help you get through the week. You spend 50% of your waking hours at work, and so does your work pal. You’ll find it much easier to shoot the breeze and complain about work with someone who can relate to you than eating lunch alone every day.
數據顯示薛躬，工作中你越孤立，你就會越消極呆细。這就是為什么我們需要一個工作伙伴在冷水機旁閑談幾句型宝，支持你度過艱難的工作日。那花費的50%的時間不僅僅只在工作絮爷，還在工作伙伴上趴酣。你會發(fā)現有一個與你談得來的伙伴每天閑扯幾句抱怨下工作會比形單影只地吃午餐好過多了。
Your work pal doesn’t have to be your best friend outside of work. They just need to be someone you click with on some level, and if you two hit it off exceptionally well, you can always start hanging out with them outside of the office.
下班后你的工作伙伴不一定硬要成為你最好的朋友坑夯。他們只需要在某個程度上和你合拍岖寞，但如果你們相談甚歡，那就可以在工作外相約外出柜蜈。
With a loyal best friend, a fearless adventurer, a brutally honest confidant, a wise mentor, a friend from a different culture, a polar opposite, a friendly neighbor, and a work pal in your life, you’re bound to live a long and happy life!
生活里若有一個忠誠密友仗谆，一個無畏的冒險家，一個敢于直言的知己淑履，一個明智的導師隶垮，一個來自不同文化的朋友，一個觀點相反的好友秘噪，一個友善的鄰居狸吞，一個工作伙伴，你一定能過上幸福長壽的生活指煎！
