In one study, we taught them that every time they push out of their comfort zone to learn something new and difficult,the neurons in their brain can form new,stronger connections,and over time they can get smarter.
Look what happened.
In this study,students who were not taught this growth mindset continued to show declining grades over this difficult school transition,but those who were taught this lesson showed a sharp rebound in their grades.
她流著淚出現(xiàn)在我面前說:
我就是沒有那個(gè)接受成長(zhǎng)型思維的學(xué)生
我就是因?yàn)橐淮文M考試的失利就從此再也沒有站起來的悲觀者
我就是那個(gè)在高三教室里其他同學(xué)都在奮筆疾書而我卻時(shí)常趴著桌子上默默流著淚的自卑的人
我就是那個(gè)別人在背后嘲笑說“你看她曾經(jīng)多風(fēng)光突照，現(xiàn)在走路都沒有生氣可霎，活像一只落湯雞”的人
我就是當(dāng)年高考成績(jī)出來讓所有人都大跌眼鏡的失敗者樊卓，父親的破口大罵趴生、旁人的冷眼相待疙驾、逆襲者的安慰
…
我很久沒有見過她了凶伙，但是我知道有一天她還是會(huì)來找我，說:
我知道這是你的痛處
我知道這是你最不想回顧的往事
我理解你當(dāng)時(shí)的無助與孤獨(dú)它碎，我都明白函荣，我全都明白
讓我抱抱你，你好好地哭一會(huì)兒扳肛，好好地休息一會(huì)兒
此刻她哭得更厲害了傻挂，那淚水如同開了閘的水庫，她大步地走向我挖息，然后用她那細(xì)小的胳膊緊緊地抱住我金拒，她的頭斜靠在我的左肩上，她哭泣的聲音就在我耳旁套腹，伴著急促的呼吸聲绪抛，一呼一吸我都聽得很清晰
我看著聽著揪心，這次我真的很想幫助她电禀，我用雙手環(huán)抱著她幢码，右手時(shí)不時(shí)撫摸著她那發(fā)熱的、衣服都被汗水浸濕的此起彼伏的后背
我說:
傻姑娘鞭呕，小姑娘
讓我告訴你一個(gè)秘密
其實(shí)后來的你過得真的很快樂蛤育，很充實(shí)宛官，很幸福，遇見了很多同樣善良的人瓦糕，體驗(yàn)了很多不曾想過不曾有過的經(jīng)歷
我抱著你底洗，讓你來聽一聽我的最近的故事
你知道生活的本質(zhì)嗎？它其實(shí)是“a trade-off”咕娄，在你現(xiàn)在害怕的學(xué)習(xí)方面也同樣適用
“If you want to reach the goals you set for yourself,you have to get at it and stay at it everyday.You have to think about it all the time.You have to get up everyday with your mind set on improving something.”
借用我最近遇到的一位人生大師-核聚老師的話亥揖，那它就是“無所不用其極地達(dá)成目標(biāo)”
我知道那場(chǎng)考試之后你傷心、痛苦圣勒，因?yàn)?/p>
“You want your life, your work and your family to mean something.But you just failed over and over and over at that time.You stop being you,and let many people stick fingers in your face saying you are no good even a loser”
我的可愛的傻姑娘费变，你的經(jīng)歷其實(shí)都不可怕，真的圣贸，it's all too human(人之常情)挚歧，你知道喬丹嗎？他說
“I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career.I've lost almost 300 games.26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.I've failed over and over and over again in my life.And it's why I succeed”
你知道美國(guó)魔術(shù)大師David Blaine嗎吁峻？他說
“It's practice,it's training and experimenting,while pushing through the pain to be the best I can be”
你看滑负，這些成功人士的案例都在告訴我們
“There's no easy way around it!”
所以，不要害怕失敗用含，不要因?yàn)橐淮斡忠淮蔚氖Ю艞壸约喊剑艞壪Ｍ脝嶙暮В吭賵?jiān)持一會(huì)兒痴鳄，再多走一步，也許缸夹，就到了新的轉(zhuǎn)折點(diǎn)呢痪寻？
而且你知道嗎，當(dāng)然這也是我最近才知道的另一個(gè)秘密
“You, me or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life.But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.How much you can take and keep moving forward.That's how winning is done"
年少的我們其實(shí)一直生活在溫室里啊明未，生活中的挑戰(zhàn)我們哪有真正的經(jīng)歷過呢槽华，咱們學(xué)生時(shí)代的考試壹蔓、練習(xí)趟妥、測(cè)試，這些你現(xiàn)在看來的讓你痛苦的事情放在屬于生活的這片汪洋大海中佣蓉，它是沒有一席之地的披摄。
“The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows,it's a very mean and nasty place, and most people don't care how tough you are...It will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it!”
"I think what happens is we make the situation more complex"
你看見了嗎？"一切都是你和自己的戰(zhàn)斗"勇凭，我的小姑娘疚膊，我的可愛的傻姑娘，你發(fā)現(xiàn)了嗎虾标？
"The universe is not a thing that's pushing us around.The world,people and situations are not going to push us.around.We need to bend the universe.We need to command and demand that the universe become what we want it to be."
我的小姑娘寓盗，你今天流著淚痛心地告訴我，你知道了自己為什么會(huì)失敗，為什么注定失敗
其實(shí)傀蚌，我打心底為你高興基显，真的
"The fear of failure is more deadly than failure itself"失敗并不可怕，可怕的是害怕失敗
我為你高興善炫，是因?yàn)槟隳苤泵嫠糜模M管讓你痛苦，讓你流淚
更重要的是箩艺，我相信你已經(jīng)知道了今后如何在未知的生活中去面對(duì)和解決
"every time you push out of your comfort zone to learn something new and difficult,the neurons in your brain can form new, stronger connections,and over time you can get stronger"
所以窜醉，我的善良的、可愛的傻姑娘
"Will you fight?For one chance,just for one chance"
"同學(xué)艺谆，醒一醒榨惰，醒一醒。你怎么了静汤，剛剛你在圖書館睡著了读串，旁邊同學(xué)說你在夢(mèng)中哭了，沒事兒吧撒妈？快回寢室休息吧恢暖，我們得閉館了。明天再來"
