Words and phrases
Some nights he’d want us to crash with him at his converted garage flat in Orange Grove, which we did.
crash ?informal) to fall asleep; to sleep somewhere you do not usually sleep
?入睡；(在不常睡覺的地方)睡覺:
例句?I was so tired I crashed out on the sofa.我累極了,在沙發(fā)上就睡著了。
?I've come to crash on your floor for a couple of nights.我來你家打幾個晚上的地鋪弦追。
His mom treats him with a certain level of respect as the dad’s surrogate.
surrogate?替代的嚼酝；代用的
例句?She saw him as a sort of surrogate father.在她心目中,他彷佛是能替代父親角色的人
搭配~ for? ?…的代用品
例句? ?He used the Internet as a surrogate for contact with real people.
他用互聯(lián)網(wǎng)替代了與真人的交流接觸。
近義詞? ?substitute, proxy, representative, stand-in
He’d slip me pocket money now and again after my mother said I’d had enough.
slip to put sth somewhere quickly, quietly or secretly
?迅速放置猖闪；悄悄塞；偷偷放
例句?I managed to slip a few jokes into my speech.我設(shè)法在講話中穿插了幾個笑話。
?They'd slipped the guards some money.他們悄悄塞給衛(wèi)兵一些錢雌澄。
The way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women.
Subservient 同義詞 "compliant," "obedient," "submissive," or having the qualities of a servant.
1. ~ (to sb / sth) (disapproving) too willing to obey other people恭順的；卑躬屈膝的
2. ~ (to sth) (formal) less important than sth else 次要杯瞻；從屬于
例句?The needs of individuals were subservient to those of the group as a whole.
個人的需要服從于整個集體的需要镐牺。
Thoughts
I immersed myself in those worlds and I came back looking at the world a different way. I saw that not all families are violent. I saw the futility of violence, the cycle that just repeats itself, the damage that’s inflicted on people that they in turn inflict on others.
I saw, more than anything, that relationships are not sustained by violence but by love. Love is a creative act. When you love someone you create a new world for them.
Abel本身很強壯，又是在家庭是男主外魁莉，女主內(nèi)的傳統(tǒng)家庭長大的睬涧，所以他可能內(nèi)心也有著女性要順從的觀念，但是又被獨立自主的女性Trevor媽媽所吸引旗唁。很多傳統(tǒng)男人都是這樣的吧畦浓，娶了傳統(tǒng)順從的白玫瑰，喜歡反叛自主的紅玫瑰检疫。所以就不難理解Abel的暴力了讶请，雖然喜歡Trevor媽媽，但是內(nèi)心的征服欲得不到滿足屎媳，先是一點暴力的苗頭夺溢，到后面就愈演愈烈了论巍。當然Abel也是有好的一面的，優(yōu)秀的汽車修理工风响，不錯的男朋友嘉汰，暴力之前對Trevor也挺好，給他零花錢钞诡，幫他打回欺負他的孩子郑现，雖然打過頭了。但是像上一章Trevor說那里很多家庭都是暴力教育荧降，Abel應(yīng)該也是如此長大的接箫，他們從小就是從挨打中得到教訓(xùn)，然后一代一代延續(xù)的惡性循環(huán)朵诫。所以Trevor說“the cycle that just repeats itself, the damage that’s inflicted on people that they in turn inflict on others.
然而大多時候暴力教育是無用甚至有害的辛友，暴力只會導(dǎo)致暴力，輕視只會導(dǎo)致輕視剪返，愛才會回應(yīng)愛废累。relationships are not sustained by violence but by love.。只有愛的教育脱盲，才能讓孩子健康的成長邑滨。
懂得暴力的人是強壯的，然而懂得克制暴力的人才是強大的钱反！
