幸福的定義從來(lái)都是簡(jiǎn)單和淳樸的关霸，我們賦予了太多的成分传黄，變得復(fù)雜。親情如是队寇，友情如是膘掰，愛(ài)情如是，工作亦如是佳遣。

Happiness has always been simple and honest,we have given it too many complicated components.Such as happiness with family,friends,love,work etc.

1愛(ài)的能力The ability to love

幸福是一種能力识埋，首先是愛(ài)的能力。現(xiàn)在大多數(shù)人比較浮躁苍日，自私自利的人越來(lái)越多惭聂，似乎很多人缺少了愛(ài)的能力。每個(gè)人生活在自己的空間相恃，互相孤立辜纲。

Happiness is a kind of ability, first is the ability to love.Most people now are impetuous, more and more people are selfish and lack of ability to love.Everyone lives in their own space,and isolated from each other.

如何去愛(ài)是我們的問(wèn)題，你是否用心感受對(duì)方的需要拦耐，是否關(guān)心體貼別人耕腾，是否懂得互相理解，尊重杀糯，信任與認(rèn)可扫俺，是否懂得一起分擔(dān)責(zé)任，是否懂得分享和聯(lián)系固翰？這些構(gòu)成了愛(ài)的能力狼纬。

How to love is our question,do you feel the needs of each other,are you concerned about each other,do you understand,respect,trust and approve each other,do you share responsibility of each other,do you share and contact with each other? These form the ability to love.

愛(ài)的力量更有溫度，更甜蜜骂际，更能溫暖內(nèi)心疗琉，不管你擁有再多，愛(ài)永遠(yuǎn)是最讓你感到幸福的歉铝。

Love is powerful with more temperature, more sweet, more warm to heart,no matter how much you have,love is always the most one to make you feel happy.

2付出盈简，給予的能力The ability to give

不僅愛(ài)要付出，任何回報(bào)都要付出太示。這個(gè)時(shí)代不缺少能力柠贤，缺少的是付出，給予和承擔(dān)类缤。

Not only love needs to give,any gains need to give.Nowadays we are not lack of ability,what we lack is to give and take responsibility.

很多人一直都是做伸手黨臼勉，只求索取，關(guān)注的是別人給你什么餐弱，如果有人說(shuō)這個(gè)我不會(huì)坚俗，沒(méi)做過(guò)镜盯，不懂做岸裙，或什么都沒(méi)有結(jié)果猖败，那他首先肯定是不愿意付出的，意愿決定了一個(gè)人會(huì)付出多少努力降允。

Many people have been streching out the hands to take,what they concern is what someone else can give them,if there was someone said that I can not do this things,i never did this things,do not know how to do the things,or get no results at the end,he is certainly not willing to give.The willingness to give determine how much a person will pay.

得到是一種幸福恩闻，付出也是一種幸福。

Getting is a kind of happiness,giving is also a kind of happiness.

3挫折修復(fù)能力Frustration reconstruct ability

也許你現(xiàn)在信心滿滿剧董，付出了全部的努力幢尚，可能到最后沒(méi)有期望的回報(bào)，社會(huì)的競(jìng)爭(zhēng)大翅楼，人口眾多尉剩，你投入的時(shí)間，付出的努力微不足道毅臊，中間遇到了未曾意料的困難理茎，結(jié)果失敗。

Perhaps you were full of confidence,you have done all of your efforts, but the final return are not as expected, the society is full of competition with large population,you put many of time, the effort is a drop in the bucket,you may encountered unexpected difficulties, and failed.

挫折和困難在所難免管嬉，需要一顆強(qiáng)大的內(nèi)心皂林，一種很強(qiáng)的修復(fù)能力，遇到問(wèn)題才不會(huì)恐慌苦惱蚯撩，輕易放棄础倍，一蹶不振。

Setbacks and difficulties is inevitable,you need a strong heart, strong ability to reconstruct, you will not panic and distressen when counter problems, and will not easy to give up and depress.

4接納的能力Accept ability

每個(gè)人都不一樣胎挎，想法不同沟启，作風(fēng)不同，價(jià)值觀不同犹菇。別人喜歡的德迹，你不一定喜歡，你喜歡的不必要求別人也喜歡项栏。尊重別人喜歡的浦辨，喜歡自己喜歡的，這是一種差異的接納能力沼沈。

Everyone is different, with different ideas, different styles, different values.what the other people like, you do not necessarily have to like, and do not have to ask other people to like as you do. Respect other people,like what you like of your own, this is ability to accept difference.

遇到和自己想的不一樣流酬，我們可能本能的試圖要去控制和改變。承認(rèn)差異列另，接納差異甚至好好利用這種差異芽腾，才能讓自己少了很多煩惱，少了很多抱怨页衙，多了更多包容摊滔，當(dāng)你開始不較真時(shí)阴绢，你的生活就更輕松幸福。

When we found difference of other people,we may try to control and change the differences in instinct,if we accept differences or even make good use of this difference,we will have less trouble, less complaints,more tolerance,When we start not to be serious,our life will be more relaxed and happy.

5感恩能力Thanksgiving ability

當(dāng)我們心存感恩時(shí)艰躺，我們會(huì)釋懷人生的煩惱呻袭，減少負(fù)面情緒，減少郁悶腺兴，憤怒和內(nèi)疚左电。我們可能身在福中不知福，感謝我們擁有的一切页响，所謂知足常樂(lè)篓足，讓我們感到幸福。

When we feel grateful,we will release trouble feelings of life, reduce negative emotions, reduce felling of depress, angry and guilty. We may be in the blessing of life without knowing,when we thank for everything we have,so-called content is happiness,will make us feel happy.

無(wú)論你身處順境還是逆境闰蚕，都要去接受這種變化栈拖，活在當(dāng)下，學(xué)會(huì)承擔(dān)没陡。

Whether we are in prosperity or adversity,we can accept the change, live in the moment, learn to take responsibility.

6說(shuō)話表達(dá)能力Speak and expression ability

說(shuō)話的方式有多重要涩哟，有時(shí)不一樣的語(yǔ)氣，口氣诗鸭，不一樣的表達(dá)方式染簇，結(jié)果有很大不同。沒(méi)有準(zhǔn)確表達(dá)自己的意思强岸，說(shuō)話不連貫性锻弓，重點(diǎn)不清晰很容易讓人誤解。

How important of speaking and expression, sometimes different tone,different expression are very different.If do not express the meaning accurately, speak in skipping, and not clear in points will be misunderstood.

比如夫妻家人朋友之間蝌箍，如果是抱怨的口氣青灼，不高興的語(yǔ)氣，或者隨意將自己的情緒發(fā)泄在對(duì)方身上妓盲，可能引起紛爭(zhēng)杂拨，日子就沒(méi)那么美好。

Such as talking between husband and wife,you and family or friends, if it is with complaining tone, unhappy tone, or freely bad emotions relieving to each other, may have quarrel,and the day will not be so good to get along.

對(duì)于陌生人悯衬，如果不敢搭訕弹沽，害怕交流，有的甚至有恐懼和缺乏信任的心理筋粗，不好意思溝通策橘，就少了一個(gè)人際機(jī)會(huì)。

If you can not chat with strangers, afraid of communicate with stranger,even fear and do not trust them,embarrassed to communicate with them,will not have relationship opportunity.

懂得說(shuō)話是種藝術(shù)娜亿，能與別人好好說(shuō)話是種能力丽已，勇敢表達(dá)才能成就更好的自己。

Knowing how to speak is a kind of art, can kindly speak with others is a kind of ability, be brave in expression and achieve better of yourself.

7做自己的能力Ability to be yourself

幸福來(lái)自內(nèi)心买决，做自己才幸福沛婴。你可能是內(nèi)向的吼畏，大部分內(nèi)向的人都想改變自己的性格，外向的人大部分都比較受歡迎嘁灯，不能否認(rèn)你可以稍微改變一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)更好泻蚊，但如果你勉強(qiáng)自己，容易迷失自我旁仿。

Happiness comes from heart,be happy to be yourself.You maybe introverted, most of introverted people want to change their own personality to be extrovert, most of the outgoing people are more popular,can not deny that you'd better change a little bit, but if you force yourself, you will lose yourself.

努力完善內(nèi)心藕夫，讓自己有自己的特色，發(fā)揮自己的長(zhǎng)處枯冈，不管是怎樣的性格，都可以在自己擅長(zhǎng)的方面做到很好办悟。

Improve yourself to have your own characteristics, play your own advantages, no matter what kind of personality,can do good in your own field.

祝你擁有

開心的笑容尘奏，

開心的表情，

美好的語(yǔ)言病蛉，

愉悅的情緒炫加，

幽默而自信，

幸福而快樂(lè)铺然。

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