Mental contrasting, first you imagine attaining your goal, and then you reflect on the obstacles that stand in the way.
Mental contrasting turns wishes and day-dreams into reality , by bringing into focus what you will need to do to make it happen.
Mental contrasting only helps you commit to achieving a goal if the goal is something you really believe you can achieve.
心理對(duì)照介时，首先想象達(dá)成目標(biāo)岩馍，然后仔細(xì)考慮過(guò)程中會(huì)遇到的問(wèn)題。
心理對(duì)照哩照，將愿望和白日夢(mèng)落地，將注意力放在你需要做的事情上。
心理對(duì)照只能幫助你，致力于實(shí)現(xiàn)那些你確實(shí)相信能夠?qū)崿F(xiàn)的目標(biāo)氏淑。
Setting Goals through Mental Contrasting
- Grab your notebook or just a piece of paper , and write down a wish or concern you have currently.This can be something you are thinking of doing or something you are already involved with doing(like taking a vacation or losing ten pounds.)
- Now, think about what a happy ending would look like for this wish or concern. Write down one positive aspect of this happy ending(how great it would be to relax on the beach without checking your e-mail.)
- Next, think about the obstacles that stand in the way between you and your happy ending
- Now list another positive aspect.
- And another obstacle.
- And another positive aspect.
- And another obstacle.
By contrasting the things you have to gain with the obstacles standing in your way, you should now have a better sense of how likely you are to succeed, and how committed you are to that success.
1.寫(xiě)下一個(gè)愿望或者你目前正關(guān)心的事情，可以是你考慮要做或者正在做的事情
2.思考這個(gè)愿望實(shí)現(xiàn)后的美好景象硕噩。寫(xiě)下圓滿結(jié)局中積極的一方面
3.實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)過(guò)程中有哪些障礙
I用自己的話重述
心理對(duì)照就是想象目標(biāo)實(shí)現(xiàn)后的美好以及目標(biāo)實(shí)施過(guò)程中可能會(huì)遇到的問(wèn)題假残。
方法論很簡(jiǎn)單，先寫(xiě)下你一個(gè)目標(biāo)實(shí)現(xiàn)后的積極的收益榴徐，然后考慮過(guò)程中的一個(gè)障礙守问；另一個(gè)積極收獲，然后另一個(gè)可能的障礙......
通過(guò)心理對(duì)照坑资，能使你對(duì)目標(biāo)有更清晰的認(rèn)識(shí)耗帕，避免盲目樂(lè)觀，同時(shí)能達(dá)到在大腦中預(yù)演的目的袱贮，可以極大提升目標(biāo)達(dá)成的概率仿便。
心理對(duì)照也可以幫助我們探究自己的價(jià)值觀，在對(duì)比過(guò)程中搞清楚對(duì)我們來(lái)說(shuō)什么更重要攒巍。
If-Then也可以應(yīng)用在這里嗽仪。
A1 相關(guān)經(jīng)驗(yàn)：
去北京參加互聯(lián)網(wǎng)開(kāi)發(fā)者大會(huì)稍有猶豫，但考慮到可以極大增長(zhǎng)見(jiàn)識(shí)柒莉，費(fèi)用是個(gè)問(wèn)題闻坚；認(rèn)識(shí)一線開(kāi)發(fā)人員，占用不少時(shí)間會(huì)影響學(xué)習(xí)前端開(kāi)發(fā)進(jìn)度兢孝；大概了解北京開(kāi)發(fā)市場(chǎng)窿凤，作為小白會(huì)不會(huì)尷尬......
其實(shí)也就是衡量利弊的過(guò)程。
A2 如何應(yīng)用 ：
前端學(xué)習(xí)中可以時(shí)常應(yīng)用心理對(duì)照跨蟹。前端學(xué)習(xí)過(guò)程中不斷打磨學(xué)習(xí)技能雳殊，學(xué)習(xí)過(guò)程中必然會(huì)遇到很多困難；學(xué)會(huì)前端開(kāi)發(fā)的同時(shí)搜索能力極大提升窗轩，需要付出極大的時(shí)間夯秃、精力成本；學(xué)前端不得不使用英語(yǔ)痢艺，提升英語(yǔ)閱讀能力仓洼，查看英文文檔時(shí)的挫折和自我懷疑感；學(xué)會(huì)前端開(kāi)發(fā)之后的高薪堤舒，喪失其他可能性......
