今日收獲:
坦誠的接納結果捺癞,面對困境闷祥。從我的角度去感受娱颊,再換到反面角度去看傲诵。一切的發(fā)生都是最好的安排,也許美好的禮物還沒又拆開箱硕。
從中尋找感恩拴竹!
我也坦誠,我被開除過兩次剧罩,離職證明都寫的是主動離職栓拜。
一次是公司合并后崗位重疊,并且行業(yè)頭部已經形成惠昔,我也想尋求的新的機會幕与,主動申請離開;
第二次镇防,項目沒有按照預期的結果發(fā)生啦鸣,找借口可以說是公司大調整,實際上我也看到自己在其中的力不從心来氧。連續(xù)兩次生病诫给,肺炎和皮脂腺囊腫開刀,工作上帶來了不好的影響啦扬,工作上看不到方向中狂,沒有很大的信心可以給到用戶需要的產品。懈怠了扑毡。
被開除內心會過不去胃榕,有不足,有努力僚楞,上班小半個月就超過了全月的工作時長勤晚,休病假期間在家辦公。合作部門伙伴蠻認可我的泉褐,對我對滿意程度不會是倒數(shù)排名赐写。即便這樣,我依然被開除膜赃。會覺得沒面子挺邀。但是也釋然,終于結束了這個不能激發(fā)我熱情跳座,看不到我發(fā)揮價值的工作端铛。
即便從我的面來看,也是有“悲”有喜疲眷;公司角度禾蚕,也要節(jié)省成本,項目不滿意狂丝,要給交代换淆,換血試試看哗总,也能夠理解。
現(xiàn)在真的感恩倍试,如果不是這次的開除讯屈,我不會有機會進入一個新的行業(yè),不會這么快的更新我的思維县习。
財富自由涮母,收入的組成,主動收入+被動收入躁愿。上班的風險遠大于創(chuàng)業(yè)叛本。也許我在工作崗位上,不那么容易看見或認同攘已。而現(xiàn)在炮赦,更容易接受新鮮事物。沒嘗試過样勃,怎么知道呢吠勘?
感恩我的領導幫我做了這個決定!減少來更多生命的消耗峡眶,早點從中釋放出來剧防!
創(chuàng)業(yè)過程中,面對更真實的自己辫樱。會面對之前沒有過的挑戰(zhàn)峭拘,而在困境中,真的更容易看到感恩狮暑。
過程中容易看到比較鸡挠,看到自己的不足,進而產生裹足不前搬男,又觸發(fā)愧疚等等一系列的惡性循環(huán)拣展。不知道你能不能理解感受到〉薰洌看到的都是負面的备埃。
然而,虹姐在交流中意外的發(fā)現(xiàn)來我的狀態(tài)褐奴,平時覺得我是大學畢業(yè)按脚,而這個時候忽然覺得我回到了小學。有點不可思議我的情況敦冬。我這個時候還真的表現(xiàn)的像個孩子耍賴一樣辅搬,呈現(xiàn)的比實際的情況還要糟糕。而虹姐用自己的經歷脖旱,故事跟我細說伞辛;一些事情掰開揉碎的跟我講解烂翰。
這個過程中,我不僅看到了對虹姐的感恩蚤氏,更看到了對父母的感恩,更清晰的看到團隊對我的幫助踊兜,Tina竿滨,鳴赫,少杰捏境,都在各自努力于游,不給我壓力,在支持我垫言,鼓勵我贰剥,而我也可以為他們做的。在自己建造的困境中筷频,還有比不行動更糟的事情嗎蚌成?不如走出去,去做就好了凛捏,只要行動担忧,只要去愛別人,就有愛有能量激發(fā)出來坯癣。走出自我困境瓶盛。沒人能束縛我們自己,唯有自己示罗!
感恩身邊出現(xiàn)的所有伙伴惩猫,團隊伙伴,還有我親愛的朋友們蚜点,你們都在讓我的身心變得更加健康轧房。
一起傳播正能量!一起讓世界變得更美好~禽额!
今日關鍵詞
問題反過來看
尋找感恩
心存感激
?困境拓展我們感恩的眼界?
今日挑戰(zhàn)
數(shù)算20件感恩的事
海沃塔問題
你是如何處理困境中的反應锯厢?
如果把問題倒過來,你看到了什么脯倒?
分享在你困境中那三個感恩的事
《被解雇的換位思考》
講員:Sallie Krawcheck
莎莉·克羅契克
Ellevest CEO&聯(lián)合創(chuàng)始人
被成為“華爾街女王”
我曾經被解雇实辑,在華爾街日報的頭版上,共兩次藻丢。我相信這是女性的世界紀錄剪撬。
So I have been fired. On the front page of The Wall Street Journal, twice. I believe it is a world record for any female out there and look.
對此你可以有兩種看法,一種是我很羞愧悠反,不去相信這件事情残黑。天吶馍佑,老公,今天有人買了華爾街日報嗎梨水?我們的朋友會注意嗎拭荤?
You can have one of two perspectives about at one of which is I'm so embarrassed. I can't believe this happened. Gee, honey, do you think anybody bought The Wall Street Journal today? Do you think our friends will notice?
實際上被公開讓我很輕松,因為你不用去費心掩蓋這件事疫诽。?
But there's something remarkably freeing about having it so public because you just sort of lose that we get a very human desire to cover it up.
這是其中一個點舅世。
So that's one thing it's out there.
更寬廣的眼界是把問題反過來看。
I think the broader thing is to turn this on its head and to say.
就像我對自己說的奇徒,我不敢相信雏亚,我有幸在頭版上被解雇,我被解雇的理由很充分.在經濟低迷時期摩钙,我把客戶的錢還回去罢低,在次貸危機中還款,而我為此被解雇雇胖笛。
As I do, I can't believe I had the privilege of being fired on the front page of The Wall Street Journal. Now I believe I was fired for awfully good reasons. I returned client money during the downturn, the subprime financial crash and I return clients' money and I was fired for that.
這比在工作中因為表現(xiàn)不好被開除更好网持。
That's a better way to get fired than you're terrible at your job. You are a complete idiot, and now your fire.
當我開始真正地思考這件事,我能接受這件事是因為我做了正確的事 匀钧,這是我應做的而不是假裝投資失敗翎碑。
So I was able to really think through and incorporate that story for myself, to be able to say I'm OK with this, because I felt like I went down doing the right thing, as opposed to. It was felt like a surprising face plant.
重要的是,「眼界」讓我感到幸運之斯,能有這些奇妙的經歷日杈,我得做什么才能上報紙頭版呢!
The bottom line is shift the perspective of how fortunate I am, I got to have these amazing experiences that I got to do anything that anybody cared about.
如果你告訴我佑刷,當我還是8莉擒、12、14歲的小女孩瘫絮,學校被欺負被霸凌時涨冀,因為被人欺負我可以上報紙的話,我會高興的后空翻麦萤。
That it would actually be in the newspaper if you had told me when I was an eight year old girl, a twelve year old girl of fourteen year old girl when I was getting bullied out of my school, bullied out of my school, bullied out of my school that I would do something that would wind me up in the newspaper I would have done back, flips down the hallway.
保持這種很有用的視角鹿鳖,意識并認可我幸運的經歷,因此我很感恩我的工作壮莹,感恩被開除了翅帜。
And keeping that youthful perspective and recognizing how fortunate I am and recognizing the experience I've had, I say I was grateful for my job.
我很高興能有這樣的經歷。我意識到我最糟糕的一天命满,比很多人最好的一天還精彩涝滴。
I was grateful when I got fired. I was grateful. I was so pleased to have had these opportunities, and I fully recognize that my worst day is better than so many people's best days.
擁有這樣的「眼界」會讓你心存感激,即使是在最困難的時候。
And having that perspective makes you grateful. Even during the most difficult times.