張小嫻說：“當你認清世間的一切都是無常郎逃，你會明白哥童，安全感無法外求，從來不存在于你心靈之外的世界褒翰，它是你內(nèi)心的平和與安寧贮懈。
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《當我真正開始愛自己》，是英國喜劇大師卓別林先生在70歲生日當天創(chuàng)作的一首詩歌揣非，字數(shù)不多抡医，卻道盡人生智慧。
當我真正開始愛自己早敬，我才認識到忌傻，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，都只是提醒我：活著搞监，不要違背自己的本心水孩。今天我明白了，這叫做“真實”琐驴。
當我真正開始愛自己俘种，我才懂得，把自己的愿望強加于人绝淡，是多么的無禮宙刘，就算我知道，時機并不成熟够委，那人也還沒有做好準備荐类，就算那個人就是我自己。今天我明白了茁帽，這叫做“尊重”玉罐。
當我開始愛自己，我不再渴求不同的人生潘拨，我知道任何發(fā)生在我身邊的事情吊输，都是對我成長的邀請。如今铁追，我稱之為“成熟”季蚂。
當我開始真正愛自己，我才明白，我其實一直都在正確的時間扭屁，正確的地方算谈。發(fā)生的一切都恰如其分，由此我得以平靜料滥。今天我明白了然眼，這叫做“自信”。
當我真正開始愛自己葵腹，我不再犧牲自己的自由時間高每，不再去勾畫什么宏偉的明天。我只做有趣和快樂的事践宴，做自己熱愛鲸匿、讓心歡喜的事，用我的方式阻肩、我的節(jié)奏带欢。今天我明白了，這叫做“單純”烤惊。
當我開始真正愛自己洪囤，我開始遠離一切不健康的東西。不論是飲食撕氧、人物，還是事情和環(huán)境喇完，我遠離一切讓我遠離本真的東西伦泥。從前我把這叫做“追求健康的自私自利”，但今天我明白了锦溪，這是“自愛”不脯。
當我開始真正愛自己，我不再總想著要永遠正確刻诊，不犯錯誤防楷。我今天明白了，這叫做“謙遜”则涯。
當我開始真正愛自己复局，我不再繼續(xù)沉溺于過去，也不再為明天而憂慮粟判，現(xiàn)在我只活在一切正在發(fā)生的當下亿昏。今天，我活在此時此地档礁，如此日復一日角钩。這就叫“完美”。
當我開始真正愛自己，我明白递礼，我的思慮讓我變得貧乏和病態(tài)惨险，但當我喚起了心靈的力量，理智就變成了一個重要的伙伴脊髓，這種組合我稱之為辫愉，“心的智慧”。
我們無須再害怕自己和他人的分歧供炼，矛盾和問題一屋，因為即使星星有時也會碰在一起，形成新的世界袋哼，今天我明白冀墨，這就是“生命”。
附英文原文：
AS I BEGAN TO LOVE MYSELF
CHARLIE CHAPLIN ON HIS 70TH BIRTHDAY
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.
Today I call it RESPECT.
As I began to love myself 涛贯，I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it MATURITY.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm.
Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it SIMPLICITY.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything the drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is MODESTY.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know THAT IS “LIFE“!
