印度哲學(xué)家克里希那穆提曾經(jīng)說筐摘,不帶評(píng)論的觀察是人類智力的最高形式冯丙。不帶評(píng)論的觀察是只陳述客觀事實(shí),不發(fā)表任何評(píng)論永品,不帶任何評(píng)論字眼做鹰,你的話語便不會(huì)帶任何感情色彩。這就能避免聽者產(chǎn)生任何情緒波動(dòng)鼎姐,不會(huì)給聽者造成任何的傷害钾麸。
語言是一種向外傳遞的能量,它不僅是一種信息的傳遞炕桨,更重要的是一種能夠作用于聽者的能量饭尝,特別是帶有評(píng)論或感情色彩的語言,在聽者的心里能產(chǎn)生正面或負(fù)面的能量谋作。讓人產(chǎn)生悲傷芋肠、難過、失望遵蚜、絕望等負(fù)面情緒的語言都可以稱為暴力語言帖池。所以非暴力溝通的第一步就是觀察,客觀的陳述事實(shí),不帶任何評(píng)論吭净。
但是我認(rèn)為和任何人都能夠溝通順暢的關(guān)鍵睡汹,是把語言當(dāng)作一種正能量的傳播,任何一句話都出自于愛寂殉。每一句話都能讓人感受到愛囚巴,讓人溫暖,讓人感動(dòng),這是高手才能達(dá)到的溝通效果彤叉。這也是所謂的口吐蓮花庶柿,每說出一句話,都像送出一朵清香的蓮花秽浇,讓人感到沁人心脾浮庐。這便是最高境界的溝通。
The famous Indian philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti once said observation without comments is the most profounding intelligence. Objective statements without comment are just telling the truth, so it won't result in any emotion or hurt any of the audience.
Words can bring you energy, it's not only a kind of information transferring, but also give you the energy that words take, especially words with emotion or comments will bring positive or negative energy to you.? Any words that make you feel sad, devastated, disappointed or desperate are called violent words. So the first step of nonvoilent communication is stating the truth without any comments.
However, I have my own point of view on communication. The secret of good communication with anyone is use your language or words as a? tool to transfer positive energy to people around you. Make sure every sentence from your mouth originated from love and the person who hear your words feel beloved, warm or moved. And kind words are like flowers which bring you sweet smell and comfort. This is the highest level of communication, I think.
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