“ ‘Follow your passion’ is dangerous advice.”
關(guān)于職業(yè)的選擇铭腕，這本書(shū)給出的第一個(gè)建議就是不要‘Follow your passion’，在書(shū)的前言上面税弃，他詳細(xì)介紹了一個(gè)追求自己激情的人是如何失敗的例子。
“I was always asking,‘What’s the meaning of life?’ ”Thomas told me when I first met him, at a coffee shop in Cambridge, Massachusetts.
After earning a pair of bachelor’s degrees in philosophy and theology, then a master’s degree in comparative religion, Thomas decided that Zen Buddhist practice was the key to a meaningful life.“There was such a big crossover between the philosophy I was studying and Buddhism that I thought,‘Let me just go practice Buddhism directly to answer these big questions,’ ”he told me.
Thomas’s search also inspired him to travel across China and into Tibet, and to spend time in South Africa, among other journeys, before ending up in London working a rather dull job in data entry. Throughout this period, Thomas nurtured his conviction that Buddhism held the key to his happiness. Over time, this daydream evolved into the idea of him living as a monk.“I had built up such an incredible fantasy about Zen practice and living in a Zen monastery,”he explained to me.“It came to represent my dream come true.”All other work paled in comparison to this fantasy. He was dedicated to following his passion.
然后他就決定去當(dāng)和尚了演痒≈枚花了九個(gè)月完成申請(qǐng)過(guò)程。
It took nine months for Thomas to complete the application process.When he finally arrived at Kennedy airport, having been approved to come live and practice at the monastery, he boarded a bus to take him into the Catskill countryside.
當(dāng)他以為自己終于實(shí)現(xiàn)了自己的夢(mèng)想的時(shí)候肠鲫，一段時(shí)間修道院里的生活卻讓他最終認(rèn)識(shí)到“The reality was, nothing had changed. I was exactly the same person, with the same worries and anxieties. It was late on a Sunday afternoon when I came to this realization, and I just started crying.”
Thomas had followed his passion to the Zen Mountain Monastery, believing, as many do, that the key to happiness is identifying your true calling and then chasing after it with all the courage you can muster. But as Thomas experienced that late Sunday afternoon in the oak forest, this belief is
frighteningly na?ve. Fulfilling his dream to become a full-time Zen practitioner did not magically make his life wonderful.
Thomas和我們大多數(shù)人一樣员帮，認(rèn)為追尋自己內(nèi)心得渴望，聽(tīng)從它的呼喚导饲，你就會(huì)得到你想要的捞高，你就會(huì)實(shí)現(xiàn)你的夢(mèng)想。但是事實(shí)上并不是這樣的渣锦。
As Thomas discovered, the path to happiness—at least as it concerns what you do for a living—is more complicated than simply answering the classic question“What should I do with my life?”
這個(gè)世界很復(fù)雜遠(yuǎn)非僅僅回答一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單的問(wèn)題就能感覺(jué)的硝岗。
我們一直都很喜歡用最簡(jiǎn)單的方法來(lái)面對(duì)這個(gè)復(fù)雜的世界，一直以來(lái)在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上有很多自我提升的方法都是非常簡(jiǎn)單的袋毙，什么學(xué)會(huì)一個(gè)方法讓你的倍增工作效率型檀，增加一種本領(lǐng)提升幾百倍的工資，學(xué)會(huì)一種讀書(shū)方法超越99%的人听盖。
但是胀溺，現(xiàn)實(shí)是非常復(fù)雜的，而這些簡(jiǎn)單的方法皆看，是完全忽視這些東西的仓坞。因?yàn)樗麄儾⒉荒茉诂F(xiàn)實(shí)當(dāng)中簡(jiǎn)單的使用，所以它就直接忽視現(xiàn)實(shí)中的不適應(yīng)的條件腰吟。
所以這些方法只能存在于網(wǎng)上无埃，因?yàn)榫W(wǎng)上本來(lái)就是與現(xiàn)實(shí)脫軌的，網(wǎng)上沒(méi)有現(xiàn)實(shí)那么復(fù)雜的東西，這也是為什么我不太喜歡網(wǎng)上鼓吹的付費(fèi)學(xué)習(xí)录语，因?yàn)楦揪褪窍钩侗渡丁＿@寫(xiě)知識(shí)只是讓人爽的道理而不是在現(xiàn)實(shí)社會(huì)中真實(shí)有用的東西。
尤其是最近體會(huì)更加深刻澎埠，因?yàn)閰⒓恿艘粋€(gè)兩天的會(huì)議虽缕，在這里每個(gè)人都在發(fā)言，各方利益都在角逐蒲稳，部門(mén)利益氮趋，公司利益，個(gè)人利益都參與進(jìn)去江耀。發(fā)言人的利益剩胁，面子都要考慮。
這個(gè)時(shí)候我突然發(fā)現(xiàn)一切都沒(méi)有用了祥国，你必須參與進(jìn)去去博弈昵观，在不斷的發(fā)言爭(zhēng)吵博弈當(dāng)中，平衡各方利益舌稀，去做妥協(xié)啊犬，去說(shuō)服。這些都是需要真實(shí)的生活經(jīng)驗(yàn)在里面的壁查。這種情況需要的是你真實(shí)的經(jīng)歷過(guò)觉至，爭(zhēng)吵過(guò)，做過(guò)這種事睡腿。你才有機(jī)會(huì)在里面做到游刃有余语御。
這是你知道很多道理沒(méi)有用，你學(xué)過(guò)很多知識(shí)也沒(méi)有用席怪，現(xiàn)實(shí)需要你跳進(jìn)去应闯，在這個(gè)漩渦中去掙扎去體驗(yàn)去尋找解決方法。沒(méi)有進(jìn)去何恶，站在岸邊是沒(méi)有用的孽锥。沒(méi)有真實(shí)的經(jīng)理，是解決不好事情的细层。
所以說(shuō)惜辑，現(xiàn)實(shí)是很復(fù)雜的。沒(méi)有一種方法可以保證你能解決所有的事情的疫赎。
