Confidence is essential to survival. If you’re a man, you can’t even attract a mate without it, as women (and even gay men) are attracted to tenacity. There are times, however, when a devastating or unexpected loss can sap you of your poise. If you’re down, here’s how to get confidence back into your system so you’re ready to take on the world again.
自信是生存的根本汪诉，要是一個男人湃缎，要是沒有自信，甚至沒辦法吸引異性尝艘，因?yàn)榕裕ㄉ踔潦峭詰伲┩ǔ６紩粍e人那種頑強(qiáng)的精神所吸引。但是，有時(shí)候，生活中一些極具殺傷力的角溃，毫無征兆的東西的失去也會削弱我們自信心。要是你低沉了篮撑，這里提供了一些讓你重拾自信的方法减细，讓你重歸正常的生活。
Find Your Comfort Zone 找到你自己的安樂窩
Everyone has a comfort zone, whether it’s food, music, art, a favorite book, movie, TV show, a specific geographic location or group of people. Whatever it is that makes you feel comfortable, get into that zone. You’re not there to hide from your problems or dwell on them. You’re there to recharge; just like your muscles and mind need time to recharge, so does your mood. Take a staycation in your comfort zone to regain your composure.
每個人都有一個安樂窩赢笨，不管是否是食物未蝌、音樂、藝術(shù)茧妒、一本喜歡的書萧吠、電影、電視節(jié)目桐筏、一個特殊的地方或者是那樣的一些人纸型。不管是什么讓你感覺到舒坦，走到你的安樂窩里去吧九昧。在這里你不會隱藏你的問題，不會任其發(fā)展毕匀。在這里你可以讓自己獲得新生铸鹰，就像你的身體，你的心靈需要時(shí)間來自我修復(fù)皂岔，你的心情也是需要的蹋笼。在你的安樂窩里平靜自己吧。
Change Your Thoughts 改變你的思維
Actively make a conscious decision to change your thought processes. Every time you doubt yourself, counter those thoughts with ways you can overcome. Remember most of your problems are in your head. That’s not to say they don’t exist – merely that you’re allowing them to affect you. Stand up to and for yourself, and you’ll learn ways to stand up to and for everyone else.
改變你的思維過程就從積極主動地做出最理性的決定開始吧躁垛。每次都懷疑自己剖毯，列舉一下這些能夠戰(zhàn)勝自己的方式吧。記住教馆，你大部分的問題都不在于你的腦袋逊谋。那也并不是誰他們不存在---僅僅是因?yàn)槟阕屵@些問題在影響你。站起來土铺，為了你自己胶滋，然后你會學(xué)著站起來，為了別人悲敷。
Smile Like You Mean It 發(fā)自內(nèi)心的微笑
A smile goes a long way. Even if you’re not fully sure of yourself, you’ll exude a sureness that encourages people to perceive you as a confident person. You’ll be seen as a leader rather than a follower, and things will be more likely to go your way. The media portrays Special Forces soldiers as killing machines, but one of their most used weapons is a friendly smile. Diplomacy is strong, so put a smile on your face, and make the world a better place.
微笑有很長的一段路要走究恤。即使不相信你自己，你會散發(fā)出一種鼓舞人心的自信后德，讓人認(rèn)為你是個自信的人部宿。你會被認(rèn)為是一個領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者而非一個追隨者，事情也可能會按著你所期望的方向發(fā)展瓢湃。媒體將特種兵描繪成一種殺人的機(jī)器理张，但是最致命的“武器”都還只是一個友好的微笑赫蛇。外交很重要，但是面帶微笑也能讓世界變得更美好涯穷。
Don’t Slouch! 切忌懶散
Your posture and the way you carry yourself goes a long way in determining your appearance. If you’re slouched over, people assume you’re weaker. This is how nature works – every plant and animal species on this planet understands survival of the fittest, and you need to look like you’re fit. Make an effort to sit up and stand up straight and tall.
你的姿勢棍掐，你穿衣打扮的方式都會決定你的外在形象。要是你穿得很邋遢拷况，人們會認(rèn)為你就是個弱者作煌。這就是自然法則--在這個星球上的植物、動物都明白的道理赚瘦，你也需要讓自己看起來不錯粟誓。盡力坐好，站直起意，站得高鹰服。
Take Baby Steps 慢慢來
Everything happens in steps. Don’t get discouraged if there’s no magical change that suddenly makes you confident. Focus on your path, and understand it’ll take baby steps to get where you want. You’ll soon be taking baby steps from confidence to full-on success in life.
每件事的發(fā)生發(fā)展都不是一蹴而就的。要是沒有發(fā)生什么奇跡讓你獲得自信也不要?dú)怵H揽咕”幔看看你選擇的道路，明白事情會按著你預(yù)期的那樣一步一步的發(fā)展亲善。從自信到大獲全勝你的一步一步的慢慢來设易。
Clean Yourself Up 整理好自己
Cleanliness is close to godliness (or so I’ve heard). Hygiene is vital to your confidence – it’s hard to feel good about yourself when you’re stained, sweaty and smelly. No matter what your circumstances in life are, do your best to stay clean, as it’s the key to your confidence.
干凈接近于虔誠。干凈是獲得自信的關(guān)鍵---臟兮兮蛹头、汗涔涔顿肺、臭熏熏的時(shí)候是不大可能會很自信的。不管是在哪種情況下渣蜗，盡力讓自己保持干凈清爽屠尊，因?yàn)檫@是自信的關(guān)鍵。
Face Your Fears 面對自己的恐懼
Everyone has a list of fears and phobias, although many don’t want to admit it. I’m afraid of snakes, spiders, heights, loss of control, drowning, the dark, other people, and just about everything under the sun. I’m even afraid of the sun since I have moles and have a high melanoma risk. These are natural fears that everyone has on some level or another – it’s a fear of death and the unknown. Face at least one of your fears. When you survive, you’ll be that much more confident.
也許都不愿意承認(rèn)耕拷，但是很多人都有害怕的東西讼昆。我就怕蛇、怕蜘蛛骚烧、恐高控淡、害怕不能自控、害怕溺水止潘、怕黑掺炭、也害怕一些人、似乎害怕在陽光下的一切凭戴。自從長斑涧狮，知道容易得黑色素瘤之后，我甚至還害怕陽光。這是很正常的者冤，每個人都會有這樣那樣的恐懼----害怕死亡肤视、害怕一切未知的東西。最起碼要正視你的恐懼涉枫。當(dāng)你戰(zhàn)勝了你的恐懼之后邢滑，你會更加的自信。
Define Yourself 定義自己
You are your present choices. Your past decisions and future aspirations determine how your present choices are perceived, but you are your present choices. Learn how to define yourself. Set your rules and boundaries and follow them. These are your morals and ethics, and they’re the foundation of who you are. Never forget that.
你可以決定當(dāng)下愿汰。你的過去困后，你對未來的期望會決定你目前的選擇，但是你可以決定現(xiàn)在要怎么做衬廷。學(xué)著如何定義自己摇予。給自己制定規(guī)則，然后按著自己的規(guī)定來做吗跋。這是你的倫理道德原則侧戴，他們能夠決定你是怎樣的一個人。不要忘記跌宛。
Live In The Present 活在當(dāng)下
Learn to appreciate everything around you. By practicing gratitude, you’ll change your perspective. Instead of being upset about losing an important client or failing a test, you’ll be grateful for the air you breathe, the water you drink, the food you eat, and the people you love. Focus on the now, because it’s all you truly have.
學(xué)會珍惜你目前擁有的一切酗宋。學(xué)著感激，你的視角也會有所改變疆拘。與其因?yàn)槭チ艘晃恢匾目蛻敉擅ā⒏阍伊艘淮慰荚嚩魫灒€不如感激你現(xiàn)在還有空氣可以呼吸入问，還有誰可以喝丹锹、還有食物可以吃稀颁、還有你愛的人芬失。關(guān)注現(xiàn)在，因?yàn)檫@是你真正擁有的匾灶。
