Recognize these scenarios?
- When Sally got a C- on a test, you automatically assumed it was because she was lazy and didn’t care to study for it.
But when you got a C- on a test, it’s because the professor didn’t teach the material well and the questions were way too hard.責(zé)人以嚴(yán)，待己以寬
- When Sally cut in front of you on the highway, you automatically assumed she was an arrogant, obnoxious可惡的，可憎的, and reckless魯莽的 driver.
But when you cut in front of Sally on the highway, it’s because you had somewhere to go - your child’s graduation!
- When Sally arrived late to your meeting, you automatically assumed it’s because she simply doesn’t care about the company or your time.
But when you arrived late to the next meeting the day after, it’s because your car was low on gas and you had to stop by a gas station.
Notice a pattern?
When something bad happened to Sally, you attributed that event to her personality. 別人犯錯的時候歉眷，我們通常會責(zé)怪其人格
She did bad on a test?
She’s lazy and not hard-working.
She cut in front of you?
She’s rude and obnoxious.
She was late to the meeting?
She’s disrespectful of people’s time.
Little did you know that she did bad on a test because her pet just passed away.
And that she cut in front of you because her child was in the hospital.
And that she was late to the meeting because her car broke down.
Yet when these same bad events happened to you, you attributed them to situational factors outside of your control. You did NOT attribute these events to your personality like you did to Sally. 事情發(fā)生到自己身上的時候病毡，我們通常歸結(jié)于外部因素诱鞠，而不是自己的人格問題
This is called the Fundamental Attribution Error (FAE). 下面幾句是正面還是反面蝶溶，貌似邏輯有問題膝蜈。
And many people make this error every day.
You did bad on a test?
Incompetent professor and impossible questions!
You cut in front of Sally?
So what - you had your child’s graduation to go to!
You were late to the same meeting?
Well, you had to fill up your car with gas!
It takes less than 10 seconds to be aware that this kind of biased thinking exists這種偏袒自己的思考方式其實(shí)很容易被察覺, and that it’s an easy trap to fall into.
Recognizing that FAE exists and amending your future thinking and behavior to accommodate it is a necessity for empathy.情感共鳴乙漓，換位思考。識別自我偏袒告唆，能讓你更好的換位思考
