心理研究表明，人在對(duì)另一個(gè)人表露內(nèi)心的時(shí)候懊渡，會(huì)不自覺(jué)對(duì)對(duì)方產(chǎn)生信任感、安全感军拟，從而激發(fā)依賴(lài)感剃执。而依賴(lài)感是愛(ài)情的產(chǎn)生條件之一。
但不是所有人都會(huì)主動(dòng)對(duì)別人懈息、甚至你的另一半袒露內(nèi)心的想法忠蝗，但不用擔(dān)心，別人不主動(dòng)不代表沒(méi)有進(jìn)展——我們可以主動(dòng)漓拾，采取提問(wèn)的方式阁最，讓對(duì)方根據(jù)問(wèn)題回答，觸碰內(nèi)心聲音骇两。
36個(gè)問(wèn)題速种，需要你們互相提問(wèn)，真誠(chéng)回答低千。彼此空出30分鐘配阵，面對(duì)面坐在一起，看著對(duì)方的眼神示血。選擇放松的溫馨的環(huán)境更能打開(kāi)心扉棋傍。
問(wèn)題分為三個(gè)部分，問(wèn)題的回答含括多個(gè)心理領(lǐng)域：彼此的三觀难审，興趣與喜好瘫拣，對(duì)生活的規(guī)劃，自己的習(xí)慣告喊，對(duì)另一半的期望麸拄，對(duì)未來(lái)的設(shè)想，對(duì)過(guò)去快樂(lè)的或悲傷的回憶黔姜，對(duì)害怕事情的恐懼拢切，搜尋對(duì)方的優(yōu)點(diǎn)、缺點(diǎn)（促進(jìn)更進(jìn)一步的了解）秆吵，與對(duì)方分享秘密淮椰，讓對(duì)方說(shuō)出想對(duì)你說(shuō)的話(huà)，等等
開(kāi)始測(cè)試吧～
Set III
第一部分
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
1. 世界上所有人當(dāng)中，你愿意選擇誰(shuí)來(lái)共進(jìn)晚餐主穗？
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
2. 你想成名嗎泻拦？以什么方式？
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
3. 打電話(huà)之前黔牵，你會(huì)排練要說(shuō)的話(huà)嗎聪轿？為什么？
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
4. 對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)“完美”的一天的構(gòu)成元素有哪些猾浦？
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
5. 最后一次唱歌給自己聽(tīng)是什么時(shí)候陆错？給別人呢？
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
6. 如果你能活到90歲金赦，在生命的最后60年你是愿意保持30歲的身體呢還是30歲的頭腦呢音瓷？
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
7. 對(duì)自己是怎么死的有沒(méi)有某種預(yù)感？
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
8. 說(shuō)出你和同伴的三個(gè)共同點(diǎn)夹抗。
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
9. 你的生活中绳慎，你最感激什么？
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
10. 如果你能改變漠烧，你愿意以何種方式被養(yǎng)大成人杏愤？
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
11. 花點(diǎn)時(shí)間，盡可能細(xì)的告訴同伴自己的故事已脓。
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
12. 如果你明天醒來(lái)你能夠獲得一項(xiàng)品質(zhì)或者能力珊楼，想要哪個(gè)？
Set II
第二部分
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
13. 若果有一個(gè)水晶球可以告訴你事情的真相度液，關(guān)于你自己厕宗，你的生活，你的未來(lái)或者別的任何事情堕担，你想知道什么已慢？
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
14. 有沒(méi)有什么事情你想做很久了？為什么還沒(méi)有做霹购？
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
15. 你一生中最大的成就是什么佑惠？
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
16. 你最看重友誼中的什么品質(zhì)？
17. What is your most treasured memory?
17. 你最珍貴的記憶是什么厕鹃？
18. What is your most terrible memory?
18. 你最可怕的記憶是什么兢仰？
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
19. 如果你知道一年內(nèi)你會(huì)突然死去，這回改變你的生活方式嗎剂碴？為什么？
20. What does friendship mean to you?
20. 友誼對(duì)你意味著什么轻专？
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
21. 愛(ài)和感情在你的生活著扮演什么樣的角色忆矛？
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
22. 輪流分享對(duì)方的好品質(zhì)。一共五個(gè)。
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
23. 你的家庭親密溫暖嗎催训？是否覺(jué)得你的童年比別人開(kāi)心洽议？
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
24. 你覺(jué)得自己和媽媽的關(guān)系怎么樣？
Set III
第三部分
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... ”
25. 用“我們”造三個(gè)表示事實(shí)的句子漫拭，比如說(shuō)亚兄，“在這個(gè)房間里，我們感覺(jué)……”
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... ”
26. 完成這個(gè)句子：“我真希望有個(gè)人我能分享……”
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
27. 如果你想和同伴成為密友采驻，請(qǐng)分享一下他/她最好應(yīng)該知道的事审胚。
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
28. 告訴同伴你喜歡他們什么；這個(gè)時(shí)候誠(chéng)實(shí)點(diǎn)礼旅，說(shuō)點(diǎn)兒你不會(huì)告訴那些你剛剛見(jiàn)到的人的話(huà)膳叨。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
29. 和同伴講講你生活中的尷尬時(shí)刻。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
30. 最后一次在人前哭泣是什么時(shí)候痘系？自己哭呢菲嘴？
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
31. 告訴同伴，你已經(jīng)喜歡他們什么了汰翠。
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
32. 如果有的話(huà)龄坪，什么事情是不能拿來(lái)開(kāi)玩笑的？
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
33. 如果你今晚就要死了复唤，并且沒(méi)有機(jī)會(huì)跟其他任何人交流健田，你會(huì)后悔沒(méi)有告訴別人什么？為什么你還沒(méi)有說(shuō)苟穆？
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
34. 你的房子著火了抄课，你所有的東西都在里面。救了你愛(ài)的人和寵物之后雳旅，你有最后一次機(jī)會(huì)可以救出任何一樣?xùn)|西跟磨。會(huì)選擇什么？為什么攒盈？
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
35. 你家里的哪個(gè)人的死會(huì)讓你最不安抵拘？為什么？
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
36. 分享一個(gè)私人問(wèn)題型豁，請(qǐng)教同伴他會(huì)怎么做僵蛛。并且讓他反饋一下他對(duì)你在所選擇的問(wèn)題上給人的感覺(jué)。
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