視頻學(xué)習(xí)鏈接：https://www.bilibili.com/video/av48284785
topic: influence
(emotional intelligence/manipulation/social skills)
how to use influence for good
influence relies heavily on charisma (個人魅力)
charisma is not a magical gift that is bestowed upon you, it is a skill you can build over time with the personality traits you have got.
influence factors
confidence: makes you seem more relaxed and capable in high-pressure situations
Capable person are not always confident.
impostor syndrome (冒牌者癥候群)
avoid 'maybe'/'i think'/'in my opinion'...
power posing
praise: you deserve to be recognized for your achievements and there are ways to make yourself shine(是金子總會發(fā)光).
intrinsic motivators (內(nèi)在動機)
optimism:positive attitude
learn from mistakes in the past (回顧過去)
find things to appreciate in the present（欣賞現(xiàn)在）
look forward to future opportunities（期待未來）
how to build your charisma
find common ground
remember the name of your colleague
mutual pettiness (微小的互動) can bring people together
appearance also matters
well-manicured look
high-end watch
takeaways
your actions, attitude, and appearance can affect how others see you, so take time to think about the way you're being perceived by others, and use your charisma influence correctly.
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