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ONE?of?the?biggest?complaints?in?modern?society?is?being?overscheduled,?overcommitted?and?overextended.Ask?people?at a?social?gathering?how?they?are?and?the?stock?answer?is “super?busy,”?“crazy?busy”?or “insanely?busy.”?Nobody?is?just?“fine”?anymore.
When?people?aren’t super?busy?at?work,?they?are?crazy?busy?exercising,?entertaining?or?taking?their?kids?to?Chinese?lessons.?Or?maybe?they?are?insanely?busy?playing?fantasy?football,tracing?theirgenealogyorchurningtheir?own?butter.
And?if?there?is ever?a?still?moment?forreflectivethought?—?say,?while?waiting?in?line?at?thegrocery?storeor?sitting?in?traffic?—?out?comes?the?mobile?device.So?it’s?worth?noting?a?study?published?lastmonth?in?thejournalScience,?which?shows?how?far?people?will?go to?avoidintrospection.
“We?had?noted?how?wedded?to?our?devices?we?all?seem?to be?and?that?people?seem?to?find?any?excuse?they?can?to?keep?busy,”?said?Timothy?Wilson,?a?psychology?professor?at?the?University?of?Virginia?and?lead?author?of?the?study.“No?one?had?done?a?simple?study?letting?people?go?off?on?their?own?and?think.”
The?results?surprised?him?and?have?created?astirin?the?psychology?and?neuroscience?communities.?In 11?experiments?involving?more?than?700?people,?the?majority?of?participants?reportedthattheyfound?it?unpleasant?to be?alone?in a?room?with?their?thoughts?for?just?6 to 15?minutes.
Moreover,?in?one?experiment,?64?percent?of?men?and?15?percent?of?women?began?self-administering?electric?shocks?when?left?alone?to?think.?These?same?people,?by?the?way,?had?previouslysaidtheywould?pay?money?to?avoid?receiving?the?painful?jolt.
It?didn’t?matter?if?the?subjects?engaged?in?thecontemplativeexercise?at?home?or in?the?laboratory,?or if?they?were?given?suggestions?of?what?to?think?about,?like?a?coming?vacation;they?just?didn’tlike?being?in?their?own?heads.
It?could?be?because?human?beings,?when?left?alone,?tend?todwell?onwhat’s?wrong?in?their?lives.?We?haveevolved?tobecome?problem?solvers?and?meaning?makers.?What?preys?on?our?minds,?when?we?aren’t?updating?our?Facebook?page?or in?spinning?class,?are?the?things?we?haven’t?figured?out?—?difficult?relationships,?personal?and?professional?failures,?money?trouble,?health?concerns?and?so?on.?And?until?there?is?resolution,?or at?least?some?kind?of?understanding?or?acceptance,?these?thoughtsreverberatein?our?heads.?Hellorumination.?Helloinsomnia.
“One?explanation?why?people?keep?themselves?so?busy?and?would?rather?shock?themselves?is?that?they?are?trying?to?avoid?that?kind?of?negative?stuff,”?said?Ethan?Kross,?director?of?the?Emotion?andSelf-Control?Laboratory?at?the?University?of?Michigan.?“It?doesn’t?feel?good?if?you’re?notintrinsicallygood?atreflecting.”
ThecomedianLouis?C.K.?has?ariffthat’s?been?watched?nearly?eight?million?times?on?YouTube?in?which?he?describes?that?not-good?feeling.?“Sometimes?when?things?clear?away?and?you’re?notwatching?anything?and?you’re?in?your?car?and?you?start?going,?oh?no,?here?it?comes,?that?I’m?alone,?and?it?starts?to?visit?on?you,?just?this?sadness,”?he?said.?“And?that’s?why?we?text?and?drive.Peoplearewilling?to?risk?taking?a?life?and?ruining?their?own?because?they?don’t?want?to be?alone?for?a?second?because?it’s?so?hard.”
But?you?can’t?solve?or?let?go of?problems?if?you?don’t?allow?yourself?time?to?think?about?them.It’s?animperativeignored?by?our?culture,?which?values?doing?more?than?thinking?and?believesanswersarein?thepalmof?your?hand?rather?than?in?your?own?head.
“It’s?like?we’re?all?in?this?addicted?family?where?all?this?busyness?seems?normal?when?it’s?really?harmful,”?said?Stephanie?Brown,?a?psychologist?in?Silicon?Valley?and?the?author?of “Speed:?Facing?OurAddiction?to?Fast?and?Faster?—?and?Overcoming?Our?Fear?of?Slowing?Down.”?“There’s?this?widespread?belief?that?thinking?and?feeling?will?only?slow?you?down?and?get?in?your?way,?but?it’stheopposite.”
Suppressingnegative?feelings?only?gives?them?more?power,?she?said,?leading?tointrusivethoughts,?which?makes?people?get?even?busier?to?keep?them?at?bay.The?constant?cognitive?strain?ofevadingemotions?underlies?a?range?of?psychological?troubles?such?asobsessive-compulsivedisorder,?anxiety,?depression?and?panic?attacks,?not?to?mention?a?range?of?addictions.It is?also associated?with?varioussomaticproblems?likeeczema,irritable?bowel?syndrome,?asthma,?inflammation,?impaired?immunity?and?headaches.
Studies?further?suggest?that?not?giving?yourself?time?to?reflectimpairsyour?ability?toempathizewith?others.?“The?more?in?touch?with?my?own?feelings?and?experiences,?the?richer?and?moreaccuratearemy?guesses?of?whatpasses?throughanother?person’s?mind,”?said?Giancarlo?Dimaggio,?apsychiatristwith?the?Center?forMetacognitiveInterpersonalTherapy?in?Rome,?who?studies?theinterplayof?self-reflection?andempathy.?“Feeling?what?you?feel?is an?ability?thatatrophiesif?you?don’t?use?it.”
Researchers?have?also?found?that?an?idle?mind?is acrucibleof?creativity.?A?number?of?studies?have?shown?that?people?tend?tocome?up?withmorenovel?usesfor?objects?if?they?are?first?given?an?easy?task?that?allows?their?minds?towander,?rather?than?a?more?demanding?one.
“Idle?mental?processing?encourages?creativity?and?solutions?because?imagining?your?problem?when?you?aren’t?in it is?not?the?same?as?reality,”?said?Jonathan?Smallwood,?a?cognitive?neuroscientist?at?the?University?of?York,?in?England.?“Using?your?imagination?means?you?are?in?fact?rethinking?the?problem?in a?novel?way.”
Perhaps?that’s?why?Google?offers?its?employees?courses?called?“Search?Inside?Yourself”?and?“Neural?Self-Hacking,”which?include?instruction?onmindfulnessmeditation,?where?the?goal?is to?recognize?and?accept?inner?thoughts?and?feelings?rather?than?ignore?orrepressthem.?It’s?in?the?company’s?interest?because?it?frees?up?employees’otherwiseembattledbrain?space?tointuitendusers’?desires?and?create?products?to?satisfy?them.
“I?have?a?lot?of?people?who?come?in?and?want?to?learn?meditation?toshut?outthoughts?that?come?up in?those?quiet?moments,”?said?Sarah?Griesemer,?a?psychologist?in?Austin,?Tex.,?whoincorporatesmindfulness?meditation?into?her?practice.?“But?allowing?and?tolerating?thedriftingin of?thoughts?is?part?of?the?process.”?Her?patients,?mostly?hard-charging?professionals,?report?being more?productive?at?work?and?more?energetic?and?engaged?parents.
To?get?rid?of?the?emotional?static,?experts?advise?not?using?first-person?pronouns?when?thinking?about?troubling?events?in?your?life.?Instead,?use?third-person?pronouns?or?your?own?name?when thinking?about?yourself.“If a?friend?comes?to?you?with?a?problem?it’s?easy?tocoachthem?through?it,?but?if?the?problem?is?happening?to us we?have?real?difficulty,?in?part?because?we?have?all?the see go centric?biases?making?it?hard?to?reason?rationally,”?said?Dr.?Kross?of?Michigan.?“The?data?clearly?shows?that?you?can?use?language?to?almost?trick?yourself?into?thinking?your?problems?are happening?to?someone?else.”
Hard?as?they?sometimes?are,?negative?feelings?are?a?part?of?everyone’s?life,arguablymore?so if?you?are?crazy?busy.But?it’s?those?same?deep?and?troubling?feelings,?and?how?you?deal?with?them,?that make?you?the?person?you?are.?While?busyness?maystanchwelling?sadness,?it?may?also?limit?your?ability?to be?overcome?with?joy.
閱讀時(shí)間: 6:15 - 6:43 ?28m
理解:
大意: 現(xiàn)代社會(huì)大家都覺得很忙驶臊,被各種生活,社交給拖累损趋,而實(shí)際是人們通常害怕孤獨(dú)鳄厌,所以需要時(shí)刻讓自己忙起來,避免獨(dú)處帶來的恐怖突琳,痛苦键菱。但是研究發(fā)現(xiàn)顺饮,其實(shí)這并不能解決問題火焰,包括很多大公司劲装,包括google讓自己的員工來使用
坐享從第三人視來從新認(rèn)識(shí)自己,思考問題,研發(fā)發(fā)現(xiàn)占业,這些踐行者發(fā)現(xiàn)自己的工作效率绒怨,生活開始變得越來越好。
總之谦疾,負(fù)面情緒南蹂,想法是我們生活的一部分,如果你不正視它念恍,它只會(huì)讓你越來越忙六剥,越來困擾你的生活。關(guān)鍵看你們?cè)趺刺幚硭麄兎怠V劣谠趺刺幚砦恼陆o出了解決方案 - 坐享仗考。
好句子:
ONE?of?the?biggest?complaints?in?modern?society?is?being?overscheduled,?overcommitted?and?overextended.
No?one?had?done?a?simple?study?letting?people?go?off?on?their?own?and?think.”
One?explanation?why?people?keep?themselves?so?busy?and?would?rather?shock?themselves?is?that?they?are?trying?to?avoid?that?kind?of?negative?stuff
It?doesn’t?feel?good?if?you’re?notintrinsicallygood?atreflecting
But?you?can’t?solve?or?let?go of?problems?if?you?don’t?allow?yourself?time?to?think?about?them.
There’s?this?widespread?belief?that?thinking?and?feeling?will?only?slow?you?down?and?get?in?your?way,?but?it’sthe opposite.
Idle?mental?processing?encourages?creativity?and?solutions?because?imagining?your?problem?when?you?aren’t?in it is?not?the?same?as?reality,
Using?your?imagination?means?you?are?in?fact?rethinking?the?problem?in a?novel?way
Perhaps?that’s?why?Google?offers?its?employees?courses?called?“Search?Inside?Yourself”?and?“Neural?Self-Hacking,”which?include?instruction?onmindfulnessmeditation,?where?the?goal?is to?recognize?and?accept?inner?thoughts?and?feelings?rather?than?ignore?orrepressthem.
To?get?rid?of?the?emotional?static,?experts?advise?not?using?first-person?pronouns?when?thinking?about?troubling?events?in?your?life.?Instead,?use?third-person?pronouns?or?your?own?name?when thinking?about?yourself.
Hard?as?they?sometimes?are,?negative?feelings?are?a?part?of?everyone’s?life,arguablymore?so if?you?are?crazy?busy.
閱讀時(shí)間: 6:15 - 6:43? 28m
理解:
大意: 現(xiàn)代社會(huì)大家都覺得很忙音同,被各種生活词爬,社交給拖累,而實(shí)際是人們通常害怕孤獨(dú)权均,所以需要時(shí)刻讓自己忙起來顿膨,避免獨(dú)處帶來的恐怖,痛苦叽赊。但是研究發(fā)現(xiàn)恋沃,其實(shí)這并不能解決問題,包括很多大公司必指,包括google讓自己的員工來使用
坐享從第三人視來從新認(rèn)識(shí)自己囊咏,思考問題,研發(fā)發(fā)現(xiàn)塔橡,這些踐行者發(fā)現(xiàn)自己的工作效率梅割,生活開始變得越來越好。
總之葛家,負(fù)面情緒户辞,想法是我們生活的一部分,如果你不正視它癞谒,它只會(huì)讓你越來越忙底燎,越來困擾你的生活。關(guān)鍵看你們?cè)趺刺幚硭麄兊狻V劣谠趺刺幚砦恼陆o出了解決方案 - 坐享双仍。
好句子:
ONE?of?the?biggest?complaints?in?modern?society?is?being?over scheduled,?over committed/ k??m?t?d/and?over extended.
committed/ k??m?t?d/承諾;委托桌吃;干壞事
No?one?had?done?a?simple?study?letting?people?go?off?on?their?own?and?think.”
go?off
離開殊校;進(jìn)行;變質(zhì)读存;睡去为流;斷掉呕屎;爆炸
One?explanation/??kspl?’ne??n/why?people?keep?themselves?so?busy?and?would?rather?shock/?ɑk/themselves?is?that?they?are?trying?to?avoid?that?kind?of?negative/'n?ɡ?t?v/stuff
It?doesn’t?feel?good?if?you’re?notintrinsically/?n?tr?ns?k l..?/good?atreflecting
intrinsically/?n?tr?ns?k l..?/
adv. 本質(zhì)地;內(nèi)在地敬察;固有地
But?you?can’t?solve?or?let?go off?problems?if?you?don’t?allow?yourself?time?to?think?about?them.
There’s?this?widespread/'wa?dspr?d/belief?that?thinking?and?feeling?will?only?slow?you?down?and?get?in?your?way,?but?it’sthe opposite./'?p?z?t/
widespread/'wa?dspr?d/
adj. 普遍的秀睛,廣泛的;分布廣的
get?in?your?way 阻礙
Idle?mental?processing?encourages?creativity[,kriei'tiviti]and?solutions?because?imagining?your?problem?when?you?aren’t?in it is?not?the?same?as?reality/r?'?l?ti/,
Using?your?imagination?means?you?are?in?fact?rethinking?the?problem?in a?novel/'nɑvl/way
adj. 新奇的莲祸;異常的
n. 小說
Perhaps?that’s?why?Google?offers?its?employees?courses?called?“Search?Inside?Yourself”?and?“Neural?Self-Hacking,”which?include?instruction?onmindfulness[‘maindfulnis]meditation/?m?d?'te??n/,?where?the?goal?is to?recognize?and?accept?inner?thoughts?and?feelings?rather?than?ignore?orrepress/r?'pr?s/them.
mindfulness[‘maindfulnis]
n. 留心蹂安,警覺
meditation/?m?d?'te??n/
冥想;沉思锐帜,深思
repress/r?'pr?s/
vt. 抑制田盈;鎮(zhèn)壓(叛亂等);約束
To?get?rid?of?the?emotional?static,?experts?advise?not?using?first-person?pronouns/‘prona?n/when?thinking?about?troubling?events?in?your?life.?Instead,?use?third-person?pronouns?or?your?own?name?when thinking?about?yourself.
pronouns/‘prona?n/代詞缴阎;[語] 代名詞
Hard?as?they?sometimes?are,?negative?feelings?are?a?part?of?everyone’s?life,arguably/'ɑrɡju?bli/more?so if?you?are?crazy?busy.
arguably/'ɑrɡju?bli/
adv. 可論證地允瞧;可爭(zhēng)辯地;正如可提出證據(jù)加以證明的那樣地