Q:My girlfriend asked me what her attractiveness rating is, and I said 7. Now she is really upset. What did I do wrong?

我的女朋友讓我為他的外貌打分亿眠，我給他打了7分》溃現(xiàn)在他非常沮喪奥裸，我做錯了什么地方大诸？

A：
I think that asking this question in the first place reflects poorly on your girlfriend - she's obviously insecure about her looks and about your feelings for her. Also, it's a trick question: If you answer "10", she'll be mad at you because you lied (if she was a 10, she'd be the most attractive woman in the world, a globally acclaimed super model). If you answer anything less than 10, she'll be mad that you don't find her attractive enough (otherwise you'd say "10").

我認為你的女朋友問這個問題首先反應(yīng)了她的弱項-她顯然對她的外貌沒有安全感以及關(guān)注你對她的感受。接下來锅必，這是一個圈套：如果你回答10分架专，她會非常生氣，因為你說謊（假如她的外貌真實10分旬痹，她將是世界上最有美麗的女人附井，一個萬人迷）如果你回答少于10分，她也會生氣你沒有發(fā)現(xiàn)她真正的魅力所在（否則你會回答10分）两残。永毅。

Having said that, your mistake is that you answered her question with a concrete rating. Besides falling into the trap stated above, the fact that you can rate your girlfriend's attractiveness at all means that you compare it to that of other women, and not always favorably (if she's 7 on your scale of 1 - 10, that means you know women who rate 8, or 9, or 10). She's probably mad about that also - that she's not unique to you, she's just one of many women you rate as a potential romantic/sexual partner.

回答這個問題，你的錯誤在于你用實際的評分回答了她的問題人弓，同時落入了這個圈套當(dāng)中沼死。事實上當(dāng)你給你的女朋友的外貌標(biāo)上分數(shù)的時候已經(jīng)意味著你在拿她和其他女人作對比（如果在你的心目當(dāng)中，她是7分崔赌，那么肯定在你心目當(dāng)中有比他高的）她會因此生氣意蛀，因為她不是你的獨一無二，因為她在你心目當(dāng)中只是普通女人中的一位玩物/炮友健芭。

If my wife asked me such a question, I'd tell her that she doesn't have an "attractiveness rating" - she is too unique for ratings. I'd also add that she's the only one I love, and the only one I want to be with. Hopefully, that would get me out of the trap :)

如果我老婆問我相似的問題县钥，我會回答說沒有哪一個分數(shù)能夠標(biāo)榜你，她在我心目當(dāng)中是獨一無二的慈迈。我同時會補充她是我的唯一若贮，也是唯一的一位我想共度此生的女人。順利的話痒留，這個答案能夠幫我走出這個圈套：）

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