When you avoid the things that matter most, it’s often a sign that you don’t trust yourself.
Of course, we all procrastinate. But people with low self-esteem often have a strange pattern to their procrastination: They get the mundane, everyday stuff done on time (paying the bills, finishing those weekly reports, etc.) but they procrastinate on the activities they care most about (creative hobbies, travel, learning, fitness, etc.). And the reason…
When you have low self-esteem, you don’t trust yourself with your most important goals.
On the other hand, people with healthy self-esteem trust themselves to pursue their passions even if it means failure, mistakes, or frustrations. They’ve built up the confidence to go after the things that matter most to them despite the possibility of failure, embarrassment, or mistakes.
Healthy self-esteem means you define yourself by the pursuit of your passions, not the end results.
當(dāng)你逃避最重要的事情時(shí)钝侠，往往是你自己不信任自己的原因该园。
其實(shí)，我們所有人都有拖延癥帅韧。但是有些對自己低認(rèn)知的人常常有一個(gè)很奇怪的拖延模式：他們面對普通的事情上很準(zhǔn)時(shí)（比如付賬單里初、完成周報(bào)等等），但在一些他們非常關(guān)心的事情上反而開始拖延（創(chuàng)建新習(xí)慣弱匪、旅行青瀑、學(xué)習(xí)璧亮、健身等等）。我覺得理由是：
當(dāng)你低認(rèn)知時(shí)斥难，你對自己最重要的目標(biāo)并不自信枝嘶。
另一方面，擁有健康認(rèn)知的人們相信自己追求的熱情哑诊，哪怕意味著失敗群扶、錯誤或者沮喪。他們已經(jīng)建立對自己從事最重要事情的自信镀裤，不在乎失敗的可能性竞阐、尷尬或者錯誤。
健康認(rèn)知意味著你用追求激情而非結(jié)果來定義自己的成功暑劝。
