我有些失落的感覺(jué)涮坐，我有一些和這個(gè)世界分享的東西凄贩，就像一艘航行在茫茫大海上的船，發(fā)出微光袱讹，卻沒(méi)有回應(yīng)疲扎。我有失落，但這種失落又不是特別重捷雕。我隱隱地在想椒丧，究竟什么是孤獨(dú)？這是我感受孤獨(dú)的機(jī)會(huì)嗎救巷？
我借由身體的感覺(jué)壶熏，探索到自己些許失落，又些許疑惑的情緒征绸，還有一些些害怕久橙。
沒(méi)有回應(yīng)就是孤獨(dú)嗎？什么是回應(yīng)管怠？
我曾經(jīng)以為是我發(fā)出的聲音淆衷，被另一個(gè)生命聽(tīng)到，我的感受被另一個(gè)生命感受到渤弛，我所想被另一個(gè)生命所認(rèn)同祝拯，我被另一個(gè)生命全然地懂得了，這就是唯一的回應(yīng)她肯。
昨天和老公的相處中佳头，我還感受到了另一種回應(yīng)。我的所感晴氨，所想康嘉，所要被允許自由地到來(lái)和離開(kāi)，我作為一個(gè)鮮活的生命被全部的接納籽前。這種接納亭珍，對(duì)方并沒(méi)有用語(yǔ)言來(lái)告訴我鸣剪，他沒(méi)有告訴我他感受到了什么伪朽？他認(rèn)同我的想法嗎？他什么也沒(méi)說(shuō)植袍。只是自然而然地允許我自由地做真實(shí)的自己棺弊，不評(píng)價(jià)阳掐，不要求趣竣。在他自己覺(jué)得合適時(shí)嗦嗡，自然而然地陪伴和給予。這樣的關(guān)系粱侣，讓我享受自己一個(gè)人時(shí)羊壹，通過(guò)順著身體的感覺(jué)，進(jìn)入到自己的內(nèi)在甜害，探索未知的自己舶掖，等待智慧降臨的瞬間球昨。我需要這樣一個(gè)人的時(shí)刻尔店，讓我可以全心全意地，完完全全地陪伴自己主慰，聽(tīng)聽(tīng)我靈魂的聲音嚣州。這樣的一個(gè)人時(shí)光，不僅不孤獨(dú)共螺，反而滿足了我靈魂對(duì)于獨(dú)處的需要该肴。
原來(lái)，孤獨(dú)的本質(zhì)藐不，不是你是一個(gè)人呆著匀哄，還是兩個(gè)人生活，抑或一群人熱鬧雏蛮。是否孤獨(dú)取決于你作為一個(gè)獨(dú)立的生命涎嚼，有沒(méi)有被自己和周?chē)臻g里的人，全然地看到挑秉，聽(tīng)到法梯，如你所是地被完全接納。當(dāng)人與人之間的關(guān)系是“我與你”時(shí)犀概，雙方都能清晰地感受到這種接納立哑，那是我們作為這個(gè)世界上獨(dú)一無(wú)二的生命被彼此理解。
人們說(shuō)姻灶，這個(gè)世界遇見(jiàn)心動(dòng)铛绰，遇見(jiàn)性，都不稀奇产喉。稀奇的是遇見(jiàn)了解捂掰。了解究竟是什么若皱？
一個(gè)生命尋著自己的心靈經(jīng)驗(yàn)，感受到了和另一個(gè)生命相同的感受尘颓，有和另一個(gè)生命相同的看法走触。這是一種了解。
一個(gè)生命沒(méi)有和另一個(gè)生命相同的感受或看法疤苹，但他重視互广、允許和接納另一個(gè)生命獨(dú)特的感受和看法，不強(qiáng)迫自己卧土，也不強(qiáng)迫對(duì)方必須和自己有一樣的感受和想法惫皱。這也是一種了解。
一個(gè)生命自然而然地看見(jiàn)另一個(gè)生命受傷而難過(guò)尤莺，發(fā)自內(nèi)心的希望另一個(gè)生命過(guò)得美好旅敷，期待他成為真正想成為的自己，不會(huì)把自己認(rèn)為的美好強(qiáng)加于他的頭腦颤霎，會(huì)真心實(shí)意地詢問(wèn)和接受他真實(shí)的需要媳谁，安靜地陪伴，自然而然地以他喜歡的方式滿足他友酱。這也是一種了解晴音。
正是生命中有了這些珍貴的接納，共情及無(wú)私的付出缔杉，才讓我們的靈魂被安放锤躁，才消融了人心靈深處的孤獨(dú)。
這因?yàn)樯杏辛诉@些被深深了解的體驗(yàn)或详，才讓我不那么執(zhí)著自己的分享一定需要有回應(yīng)系羞。我有自己這份小小的失落，但瞬間也讓我明白霸琴，我在想著控制嗎椒振？全然接納我生命中所有其它生命的狀態(tài)，他可以選擇回應(yīng)我沈贝，也可以選擇不回應(yīng)杠人。他可以選擇和我繼續(xù)走下去，也可以選擇離開(kāi)我宋下。我會(huì)失落嗡善，就像我的分享沒(méi)有被回應(yīng)那樣。我也會(huì)難過(guò)学歧，我們沒(méi)能相伴走得更遠(yuǎn)罩引。但這就是生命的歷程。我余生里都可以回味和感恩生命里曾經(jīng)遇見(jiàn)過(guò)真正的懂得枝笨，也愿意給予他完全的自由袁铐，真正地尊重每一個(gè)選擇揭蜒。
我好喜歡這樣的感覺(jué)，我們自然而然地十指緊扣剔桨，穿越熙攘的人群屉更，周?chē)械娜硕继摶闪吮尘啊Ｎ覀冏谂_(tái)階洒缀，吹著晚風(fēng)瑰谜，我自然地靠在你的肩頭，抬頭仰望星空树绩。我們沒(méi)有說(shuō)任何話萨脑，這世界那么多人，多幸運(yùn)饺饭，我能有一個(gè)我們渤早。
我也好喜歡這樣的感覺(jué)，我們自然而然瘫俊，自由自在地談天說(shuō)地鹊杖，有時(shí)開(kāi)心地大笑，有時(shí)默契地嘆息军援，有時(shí)深深地被彼此懂的仅淑，有時(shí)瞬間被彼此觸動(dòng)和啟發(fā)称勋。我們有說(shuō)不完的話胸哥，這世界那么多人，多幸運(yùn)赡鲜，我能有一個(gè)我們空厌。
人生中所有美好或艱難的時(shí)刻，其實(shí)每一次都只有這一次银酬，我們都留不住嘲更。我也在練習(xí)不要執(zhí)著于想要不斷重復(fù)這些美好或想要永遠(yuǎn)地避開(kāi)這些艱辛，它們像流水揩瞪，流淌過(guò)我的生命····
I feel a little bit lost. I have something to share with the world, just like a ship sailing on the vast ocean, shimmering, but there is no response. I have lost, but this kind of loss is not particularly serious. I am wondering faintly, what is loneliness? Is this my chance to feel lonely?
Through my physical sensations, I explored my feelings of a little loss, a little doubt, and a little fear.
Is it loneliness if there is no response? What is are response?
I used to think it was my voice heard by another life, my feelings felt by another life, and my thought recognized by another life.? I was fully understood by another life. This is the only Response.
I also felt another kind of response from my husband yesterday. What I feel, what I think, what I want to be allowed to come and leave freely. I am accepted as a living being. This kind of acceptance was not given by the other party’s words. he did not tell me what he felt? Did he agree with me? He said nothing. It just naturally allows me to be free and to be who I am without evaluating or demanding. When he felt right, he naturally accompanied? and gave. This kind of relationship allows me to enjoy myself alone, by following the feelings of the body, entering into my own inner self, exploring the unknown myself, and waiting for the moment when wisdom comes. I need the moment alone, so that I can accompany myself wholeheartedly and completely, and listen to the voice of my soul. Such time is not only not lonely, but also satisfies my soul's need for solitude.
It turns out that the essence of loneliness is not whether you are alone, or two people, or a group of people lively. Whether you are lonely or not depends on whether you, as an independent life, are completely seen and heard by yourself and the people in the surrounding space, and fully accepted as you are. When the relationship between people is "I and you", both parties can clearly feel this acceptance, that is, we are understood by each other as the unique beings in this world.
People say that it is not uncommon to meet heartbeat and sex in the word . It is rare to meet understanding. What exactly is it?
A life seeks its own spiritual experience, feels the same feelings as another life, and has the same views as another life. This is an understanding.
A life does not have the same feelings or views as another life, but he values, allows and accepts the unique feelings and views of another life, does not force himself, nor does he force the other person to have the same feelings and thoughts as himself. This is also an understanding.
One life naturally sees another being hurt and sad, and hopes that the other life will live a good life, expecting him to become the self that he really wants to be. She will not impose the beauty she thinks on his mind, and will sincerely Ask and accept his real needs, stay with him quietly, and naturally satisfy him in the way he likes. This is also an understanding.
It is with these precious acceptances, empathy and selfless devotion in life that our souls can be placed and the loneliness deep in our hearts can be dissolved.
This is because I have these deeply understood experiences in my life that make me less obsessed with my sharing and I must have response. I have this little loss of myself, but it also makes me understand in an instant, am I thinking about controlling? Fully accept all other life states in my life, he/she can choose to respond to me or not. He can choose to continue walking with me, or he can choose to leave me. I will be lost, as if my sharing was not responded to. I will also be sad that we have not been able to go further with each other. But this is the course of life. For the rest of my life, I can recall and appreciate the true understanding that I have met in my life, and I am willing to give him/her complete freedom and truly respect every choice of him/her.
I really like this feeling. We naturally clasp our fingers together, passing through the bustling crowd, and all the people around are blurred into the background. We were sitting on the steps, blowing the evening breeze. I naturally leaned on your shoulders and looked up at the stars. We didn't say anything. There are so many people in this world, so lucky, I can have one of us.
I also like this feeling. We naturally talk freely, sometimes laughing happily, sometimes sighing tacitly, sometimes being deeply understood by each other, and sometimes being touched and inspired by each other in an instant. We have a lot to say. There are so many people in this world, so lucky, I can have one of us.
All the good or difficult moments in life, in fact, are only once every time. and we can't keep it. I am also practicing not to be obsessed with wanting to repeat these beautiful things or to avoid these hardships forever. They are like flowing water, flowing through my life...
