One of the most powerful explanations of unforgiveness I have ever heard is that it's like drinking a poison and expecting the other person to die.
我聽過的對不寬恕最有力的解釋之一是畔咧，它就像喝了毒藥茎芭，卻希望另一個人死去。
Hatred is like a poison which you inject into your veins, before injecting it into your enemy. It is throwing cow dung at another: you dirty your hands first, before you dirty others.
仇恨就像毒藥梅桩，在注入你的敵人之前壹粟，先注入你的血管里宿百。這是向別人扔牛糞:先弄臟自己的手趁仙，再弄臟別人。
Each time we sip at the poison of unforgiveness, we add a bar to our self-made cage. We reinforce our own captivity and separate ourselves from the healing, deliverance, and blessings that God has available for us. Over and over again, I have heard hearts breaking with the sense of being trapped in the past, of never being able to break free, of having their lives dictated by the tragedy of their abuse. And it’s agonisingly true, because they cannot – or will not – forgive.
我們每飲一口不寬恕的毒雀费，就給自己親手建起的牢籠添了一道障礙。我們強化了自己的束縛痊焊，將自己與神給我們的治療盏袄、拯救和祝福分開薄啥。我一次又一次地聽到心碎的聲音:被困在過去辕羽，永遠無法掙脫垄惧，生活被虐待的悲劇所支配刁愿。這是令人痛苦的事實，因為他們不能——或不愿——原諒到逊。
The poison of unforgiveness continually judges and condemns those we won’t forgive, thus compounding the problem. But the prison that is forged is our own. Our judgement, condemnation, and refusal to forgive are the raw materials that build our cage.
不寬恕的毒藥不斷地審判和譴責那些我們不愿寬恕的人，從而使問題復雜化觉壶。但監(jiān)獄是我們自己鍛造的脑题。我們的判斷掰曾、譴責和拒絕寬恕是構筑我們牢籠的原材料旭蠕。
The real truth is that even if God were to strike that person down with a lightning bolt and declare their sin loudly in public, it wouldn’t change how we feel. We believe that holding onto unforgiveness is what punishes the person, whereas it doesn’t affect them one bit. They live untroubled lives, and we slide deeper into the addiction to the poison of unforgiveness. Hating them is our reason for living. The lie tells us that letting go of the thing that drives and sustains us will leave us with nothing. The lie says that unforgiveness is the only weapon we have.
事實上，即使上帝用閃電把那個人打倒掏熬，在公共場合大聲宣告他們的罪佑稠，也不會改變我們的感受。我們相信堅持不寬恕是對人的懲罰旗芬，而這對他們一點影響都沒有。他們過著無憂無慮的生活疮丛，而我們卻越來越沉迷于不寬恕的毒害幔嫂。恨他們是我們活著的理由誊薄。謊言告訴我們履恩，放棄驅使和支撐我們的東西將會讓我們一無所有。謊言說不寬恕是我們擁有的唯一武器切心。
