人的一生劈狐，總會(huì)有許多十字路口，向左呐馆，還是向右肥缔，迷茫的我們無(wú)從判斷。這30件不值得我們?nèi)プ龅氖滦诶矗屪约涸谌松x擇時(shí)知道該選擇什么续膳，放棄什么改艇，不再迷茫。
1. Stop spending time with the wrong people.不要花時(shí)間和錯(cuò)誤的人相處坟岔。
Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.? If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.? You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.? Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.? And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
人生苦短谒兄，沒(méi)有必要和那些令你不快樂(lè)的人糾纏。如果那個(gè)人需要你社付，你不需要刻意去做什么承疲，他/她自然會(huì)留出你的位置。絕對(duì)不要和那些低看了你價(jià)值的人在一起鸥咖。記住燕鸽，一帆風(fēng)順時(shí)守在自己身邊并不珍貴，當(dāng)你深陷困境卻依然和你并肩在一起的才是真正的朋友啼辣。
2. Stop running from your problems.不要逃避問(wèn)題啊研。
Face them head on.? No, it won’t be easy.? There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.? We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.? That’s not how we’re made.? In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.? Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.? This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
直面并解決問(wèn)題。沒(méi)錯(cuò)鸥拧，這很不容易悲伶。世上沒(méi)有人能夠輕松的渡過(guò)每一個(gè)難關(guān)。 也沒(méi)有人就能不停地輕松地戰(zhàn)勝困難住涉。事實(shí)上麸锉，我們本就該迷茫，傷心舆声，難過(guò)花沉，出差錯(cuò)，因?yàn)槟鞘巧畹囊饬x所在——去面對(duì)問(wèn)題媳握，去學(xué)習(xí)碱屁，去適應(yīng)，隨著時(shí)間的發(fā)展學(xué)會(huì)解決問(wèn)題蛾找，塑造了我們成為什么樣的人娩脾。
3. Stop lying to yourself.不要欺騙自己。
You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.? Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
你可以對(duì)世界上任何一個(gè)人撒謊打毛，唯獨(dú)不能跟自己撒謊柿赊。只有我們不斷接受挑戰(zhàn)，生活才能前進(jìn)幻枉，然第一個(gè)也是最難的挑戰(zhàn)就是誠(chéng)實(shí)地面對(duì)自己碰声。
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.不要把自己的需求排在最后。
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.? Yes, help others; but help yourself too.? If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
世界上最悲慘的事情是熬甫，太愛(ài)某一個(gè)人而丟失了自己胰挑，忘記了自己也是不一樣的存在。是的，要幫助別人瞻颂，但是更要愛(ài)護(hù)自己豺谈。如果你從沒(méi)有跟從自己的內(nèi)心，從沒(méi)有為自己做些重要的事情贡这，那現(xiàn)在就開(kāi)始茬末。
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not.不要強(qiáng)迫自己成為理想的別人。
One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.? Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.? Don’t change so people will like you.? Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
世上最大的挑戰(zhàn)就是將自己改變成為另一個(gè)人藕坯。總有人更加漂亮噪沙，總有人更聰明炼彪，總有人更年輕，但他們都不是你正歼。不要為了讓別人更喜歡自己而去強(qiáng)迫自己改變辐马。做自己，對(duì)的人會(huì)愛(ài)真正的你局义。
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past.不要總是攥著過(guò)去喜爷。
You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
如果你一直重讀昨天，那很難翻開(kāi)人生新的篇章萄唇。
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake.不要害怕犯錯(cuò)檩帐。
Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.? Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.? You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
不斷嘗試，哪怕是錯(cuò)了另萤，也比什么都不做好十幾倍湃密。每份成功背后都有無(wú)數(shù)的失敗，每一次失敗都是通往成功的嘗試四敞。你會(huì)為沒(méi)有做過(guò)的事情后悔而不是去嘗試了的泛源。
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.不要為過(guò)去的錯(cuò)誤而折磨自己。
We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.? We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.? But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.? Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
我們也許會(huì)錯(cuò)愛(ài)過(guò)某個(gè)人忿危，為某件錯(cuò)事而哭泣达箍，但是不論多大的錯(cuò)事，可以確定的是铺厨，錯(cuò)誤的人或事會(huì)幫我們找到適合自己的人或事缎玫。我們都會(huì)犯錯(cuò)，都會(huì)掙扎解滓，甚至后悔過(guò)去做的事情碘梢。但是如今，你不是曾經(jīng)犯錯(cuò)誤的你伐蒂，更不是曾經(jīng)不停掙扎著的你煞躬，你是全新的自己，那個(gè)有能力塑造新的現(xiàn)在和未來(lái)的你。曾經(jīng)發(fā)生的每一件事都是在為將要到來(lái)的時(shí)刻做準(zhǔn)備恩沛。
9. Stop trying to buy happiness.不要試圖“購(gòu)買(mǎi)”幸福在扰。
Many of the things we desire are expensive.? But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
我們想要的很多東西都非常昂貴。但事實(shí)是雷客，真正適合我們的事情往往都是免費(fèi)的--真愛(ài)芒珠，微笑，激情的工作搅裙。
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
不要幻想通過(guò)其他人來(lái)獲得幸福皱卓。
If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.? You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.
如果你對(duì)內(nèi)在的自己不滿(mǎn)意，那你很難在一段和別人的長(zhǎng)期關(guān)系中獲得幸福部逮。你要先建立自己的幸福才能和別人分享這份幸福娜汁。
11. Stop being idle.不要閑著。
Don't think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn't even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action.? You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can't make it to second base with your foot on first.
別想太多兄朋，不然你會(huì)制造出很多不必要的麻煩掐禁。評(píng)估一下情況然后就做決定。你無(wú)法改變你不能面對(duì)的事颅和。前進(jìn)總是意味著承擔(dān)風(fēng)險(xiǎn)傅事。不邁出第一步，你就無(wú)法走出第二步峡扩，生活就是這樣的蹭越。
12. Stop thinking you're not ready.不要總是想自己還未做好準(zhǔn)備。
Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.? Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
當(dāng)機(jī)會(huì)來(lái)了教届，沒(méi)有人會(huì)覺(jué)的自己做好了100%的準(zhǔn)備般又。因?yàn)樯钪械闹卮髾C(jī)會(huì)總是會(huì)迫使我們走出自己的舒適區(qū)，這就意味著剛開(kāi)始的時(shí)候我們肯定會(huì)感覺(jué)不舒服巍佑。
13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.不要因?yàn)槟硞€(gè)錯(cuò)誤的原因開(kāi)始一段感情茴迁。
Relationships must be chosen wisely.? It's better to be alone than to be in bad company.? There's no need to rush.? If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you're lonely.
必須要明智的選擇感情。有個(gè)錯(cuò)誤的伴侶還不如單身呢萤衰。沒(méi)有必要著急堕义。如果緣分到了，一切都會(huì)到來(lái)的——在合適的時(shí)間跟合適的人脆栋。投入一段愛(ài)情是因?yàn)闀r(shí)機(jī)到了而不是感到孤單倦卖。
14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.不要因?yàn)橹皯偾榈氖《芙^新的感情。
In life you'll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
在生命的長(zhǎng)河中你會(huì)慢慢意識(shí)到椿争，遇到所有的人都是命中注定的怕膛。有人會(huì)考驗(yàn)?zāi)悖腥藭?huì)利用你秦踪，有人引導(dǎo)你褐捻。但是最重要的是掸茅，這些會(huì)引領(lǐng)你找到真愛(ài)。
15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
不要總是和別人競(jìng)爭(zhēng)柠逞。
Don't worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between You and Yourself only.不要擔(dān)心其他人做的比你好昧狮。每天要專(zhuān)心于超越自己，成功只是一場(chǎng)自己跟自己的戰(zhàn)役板壮。
16. Stop being jealous of others.不要嫉妒他人逗鸣。
Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.? Ask yourself this:? “What's something I have that everyone wants?”
嫉妒其實(shí)就是在細(xì)數(shù)別人的幸福卻忽視了自己的幸福。要常問(wèn)問(wèn)自己：“我擁有哪些別人羨慕不已的東西呢绰精？”
17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.停止抱怨和內(nèi)疚撒璧。
Life's curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.? But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.? You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.? So smile!? Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
生命中的挫折都是有其存在的意義，它讓你重新步入人生的正軌笨使∏溆＃或許你還無(wú)法理解這些事情發(fā)生的原因，或許它們對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)是痛苦難熬的阱表。但是殿如，當(dāng)你回頭審視這些挫折時(shí)贡珊，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)它們最后會(huì)讓你變得更出色最爬。所以，你要笑著面對(duì)人生中的困境门岔。你要讓別人都看到今天的你要比昨天的你更強(qiáng)爱致，而且明天的你會(huì)變得更強(qiáng)。
18.Stop holding grudges.放開(kāi)心中的恨寒随。
Don't live your life with hate in your heart.? You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.? Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”? It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”? Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!? And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.? If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
如果人心中有恨糠悯，最終給自己帶來(lái)的傷害要遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)多出別人所帶給自己的傷害。原諒不是說(shuō)“我不介意你曾經(jīng)傷害過(guò)我”妻往，而是要說(shuō)互艾，“我不會(huì)讓你的所作所為毀掉我今后的幸福生活⊙镀”寬恕是問(wèn)題的答案——放手過(guò)去纫普、找到內(nèi)心的平靜、最后解放自己好渠！而且昨稼，你要記住寬恕并不只是對(duì)別人，同時(shí)也是對(duì)你自己的拳锚。如有必要假栓，寬恕自己，然后繼續(xù)人生的腳步并在下一回做得更好霍掺。
19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level.不要讓別人拉低了自己的水準(zhǔn)匾荆。
Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
不要為了迎合那些不愿激勵(lì)別人的人而降低自己對(duì)目標(biāo)的期望拌蜘。
20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.不要浪費(fèi)時(shí)間一再地向別人解釋自己。
Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
你的朋友不需要你作任何解釋也能理解你棋凳，而你的敵人永遠(yuǎn)都不會(huì)相信你說(shuō)的話(huà)拦坠。所有，你的內(nèi)心告訴你什么事是正確的剩岳，那就去做吧贞滨。
21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.不要總是不停地做同一件事，而忘記停下來(lái)思考一下拍棕。
The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.? If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
當(dāng)你覺(jué)得自己忙不過(guò)來(lái)的時(shí)候晓铆，停下來(lái)做一下深呼吸。假如你繼續(xù)做你一直再做的事绰播，你只會(huì)不停地得到你早已得到的東西骄噪。有的時(shí)候，你需停下來(lái)蠢箩，好讓自己看得更清楚链蕊。
22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.不要低估了細(xì)微時(shí)刻的美妙之處。
Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
欣賞那些微不足道的事谬泌，因?yàn)榛蛟S某天當(dāng)你回望人生時(shí)滔韵，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)它們是無(wú)比重要的事。你人生中最美妙的組成部分便是由那些零零碎碎的片段串聯(lián)而成的掌实，一如你對(duì)某人投去的一抹微笑陪蜻。
23. Stop trying to make things perfect.不要事事追求完美。
The real world doesn't reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
現(xiàn)實(shí)世界不偏愛(ài)完美主義者贱鼻，它只回報(bào)那些最終能夠完成任務(wù)的人宴卖。
24. Stop following the path of least resistance.不要總是走阻力最小的人生道路。
Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.? Don’t take the easy way out.? Do something extraordinary.
人生不易邻悬，尤其是當(dāng)你有一個(gè)偉大的夢(mèng)想時(shí)候症昏，你將來(lái)會(huì)遭遇到的困難會(huì)更大、更多父丰。不要去做沒(méi)有挑戰(zhàn)性的事肝谭，去做些一鳴驚人的事吧。
25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn't.不要假裝一切都很順利础米。
It's okay to fall apart for a little while.? You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.? You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.? The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
挫敗感或灰心喪氣是很正常的一件事分苇。你不必假裝自己很堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，而且你根本就沒(méi)有必要向別人證明一切都如我所愿屁桑。你也不用太在意別人是怎么看待你医寿。想哭就哭吧，流流淚也有益于健康蘑斧。越快釋放壓抑的情緒靖秩，快樂(lè)就會(huì)越快降臨须眷。
26. Stop blaming others for your troubles.不要將自己的麻煩歸咎給別人。
The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.? When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
你是否能實(shí)現(xiàn)自己的夢(mèng)想在很大程度上就取決于你是否對(duì)自己負(fù)責(zé)沟突。當(dāng)你把自己所面對(duì)困難都?xì)w咎于別人時(shí)花颗，你也就是在逃避責(zé)任——不是別人而是你自己才能改變自己的人生。
27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.不要試圖成為一個(gè)人的全部惠拭。
Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world.? So narrow your focus.
這想法只會(huì)讓你更筋疲力盡扩劝。但是，給你身邊的人帶去一點(diǎn)快樂(lè)確實(shí)能改變這個(gè)世界职辅，即便無(wú)法讓整個(gè)世界變得更美好棒呛，但你確實(shí)讓那個(gè)人的世界變得更美好了。所以域携，把你的注意力都聚焦在你力所能及的地方簇秒。
28. Stop worrying so much.不要憂(yōu)慮重重。
Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.? One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?? Three years?? Five years?”? If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
憂(yōu)慮不會(huì)帶走明天的負(fù)擔(dān)秀鞭，但它確能帶走今天的快樂(lè)趋观。而有些事情卻是值得你去深思的，判斷方法就是問(wèn)自己：“這件事在1年后锋边、3年后皱坛、5年后是否還有重要意義嗎？”如果不是的話(huà)宠默，你沒(méi)有什么好憂(yōu)慮的麸恍。
29.Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.
不要把注意力都放在不想要發(fā)生的事情上灵巧。
Focus on what you do want to happen.? Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.? If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
你應(yīng)該把注意力放在你想要發(fā)生的事情上搀矫。積極思考總是出現(xiàn)在每一則成功故事的序幕里。如過(guò)你每天醒來(lái)時(shí)想的是美好的事情就會(huì)在今天發(fā)生的話(huà)刻肄，你就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)事實(shí)就是如此瓤球。
30. Stop being ungrateful.不要忘了感激你所擁有的一切。
No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.? Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.? Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.
不論你人生際遇如何敏弃，每一天都要心懷感激醒來(lái)卦羡。在世界某處某些人還在為自己的命運(yùn)無(wú)望地抗?fàn)幹Ｋ月蟮剑灰ハ胱约哄e(cuò)過(guò)了什么绿饵，想想自己擁有哪些其他人沒(méi)有的。
WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF
