2017.7.25
Words and Phrases
So they pool those desires.
pool:動詞,共用蕊苗，聚攏（資金弃理、知識、設備等） If a group of people or organizations pool their money, knowledge, or equipment, they share it or put it together so that it can be used for a particular purpose.看到pool時谊路，立馬想到的是水池柒爵，swimming pool, 沒想到還可以用作動詞，好新奇彤叉。pool本義為池子庶柿，那就聚集東西，聯(lián)想為聚攏秽浇，共用
e.g. We must do our utmost to pool ideas and information to make a sound plan.
All that did was to exacerbate the problem.
exacerbate:(formal) to make sth worse, especially a disease or problem使惡化浮庐；使加劇柬焕；使加重
e.g. Air populltion exacerbeted the environmental problem.
Both were initially acting in good faith.
in good faith:誠心誠意审残，真誠地
e.g. We have to act in good faith, so we are able to achieve win/win.
Buddhism calls this "the middle way".
the middle way: 中庸之道
e.g.The middle way does not mean to compromise, but to seek to a third alternative.
Thoughts
看到那個丈夫準備好去度假釣魚而妻子則希望回去看望母親的例子，挺有感觸的斑举，因為生活這樣的例子比比皆是搅轿。大家都有了自己計劃，然后發(fā)現(xiàn)大家在背道而馳富玷，最后總是有一個人在妥協(xié)璧坟，委屈自己，變成了win/lose赎懦。但這樣已經(jīng)破壞了美好的氛圍雀鹃，得到成全的人心里背負負罪感，委屈自己的人也不舒心励两，變成兩敗俱傷了黎茎。然后作者提出the third alternative第三選擇，彼此之間put themselves in other's shoes , think win/win, seek first to understand, 不要妥協(xié)当悔，這樣的效果則是一百八十度大轉(zhuǎn)變傅瞻，彼此能明白對方的熱切需求踢代，彼此都能理解對方的處境，最后能夠更加友好易于接受的解決問題嗅骄，切合"the middle way"中庸之道胳挎。
Valuing the differences, 很贊成這個觀點，與"我有一個蘋果掸读，你有一個蘋果串远，我們倆交換宏多，還是彼此只有一個蘋果儿惫；但如果我有一種思想，你有一種思想伸但，我們交換肾请，我們就有了兩種思想"有所契合。擁抱不同的觀點更胖，才會有思想的碰撞铛铁，才會看得開闊高遠。
